Should we let her do it?

That's called an Industrial. I really don't see why you wouldn't let her, but I myself have piercings, so I may be bias. Look at it this way, at least she asked you first. And if you do say no, when she turns 18, she can sign for herself and most likely will do it.

Honesly if she is willing to use her own money, I think you should let her do it. It is a way for her to feel like she has control over her own life and if she doesn't like it, it is a lesson learned. I don't see anything wrong with it.

Well I had this piercing done on both ears 12 years ago. Let me start by saying that I wished my ears would have taken to it because I like it too. She should be told what happened to me before she makes up her mind as everyone's body reacts differently. When I first got it done I was excited about it. I was also 16.5 and my mom let me pierce away because she figured they all heal if they become unwanted. I appreciated that from my mother. I had (and still have) several piercings and my body always handled them well. I always healed super fast and never had any problems until.... I got them done and sleeping was hard as I like to sleep on my side and both were freshly pierced. After 6 months they just wouldn't heal! They were becoming infected over and over again no matter what I did. (Only the top part of the piercing. The second hole lower down was fine) They got so bad that the skin around the piercing started to grow a huge lump almost the same size as the ball in the back of the bar. It was really disgusting too.... I tried to keep it for over a year then ended up having to remove it or face the problem of kelloid scarring. To this day, the spots still aren't right. The two top most spots on both ears have scarred to where there is still a small bump on the back side of each. At times they still build up fluid. Even after all these years! I don't want this to effect your support of your daughter, just give you the possibilities of what can happen piercing cartilage.

I think you should let her as long as you're show she is going to keep her grades up and isnt going to start acting grown.I say this because this is what my mother told me when I was 16 when I asked him to get that same part of my ear pierced.

I agree that the bar across the top of the ear doesn't look that great. My daughter had the cartilage in her ear pierced, but she chose the stud. She doesn't even wear it now because the piercing kept getting infected. If you don't like the bar, ask your daughter to wait until she's 18, when she can make her own decisions about these things. In the meantime, offer to pay for her to get a stud or hoop instead.

Cartilage piercings are much more damaging than lobe piercings. I have two holes in each lobe and one cartilage piercing (not the bar she wants, just one hole) and besides the pain being HORRIBLE (worse then my tattoos actually!) I've had some serious problems with it. It has gotten infected which resulted in a huge purple and black bump behind my ear for weeks. It is now (4 years later) fully healed and I have no problems with it, but it took a lot to get to this stage. I did everything I was supossed to do as far as cleaning and avoiding certain things, but it didn't matter. The bar that she wants has an increased chance of problems and infections. I would tell her that she is welcome to get one hole, and she can get it in a place where later she could get a second hole and do the bar.

I would say that she can have a single hole now and when she is 18 (if she still wants it) she can get the second hole. I got my cartilege peirced (one hole) when I was 18. I don't see anything wrong with one hole and if two holes make you uncomfortable then I say - say no until she is 18.

When I was young I wanted my ears pierced twice and wasn't allowed, so I went along and did it myself anyway. So I suggest you say what you feel about it but she'll probably get it done anyway. Keep the lines of communication open and she may change her mind. Who knows with teenagers.

i actually still marry and don't have a kid's yet but if you ask me for this i would totally disagree with her. I know my parent also will against this kind of thing. There's nothing you could earn by putting this thing on your ear. And personally i think it look not nice for a young girl for this on their ear.

Well, when I was young, I just wanted to get my ears pierced regularly, the ear lobes. My parents told me not until I was 16. So th eminute I turned 16 I got them pierced. You know what is best.

Wow! It is hard being a parent of a teen! I would never give adivice on this subject to parents of teens. I do know that we only let our daughter have 1 hole in each ear. They complained but they lived and today they are married and still only has one hole in each ear. Good luck and stay strong with whatever you decide to let her do.

I would probably question it ... But would end up letting her.. that is better than wanting to get her belly button, lip or nose pierced.. or other unspeakables...lol... My daughter is almost 16 and keeps begging to get her nose pierced... We keep telling her no... Good luck

If your daughter has a job it's more than likely her employer is not going to be happy with the Industrial. My daughter also wanted to get hers done, and she's only 11. We took her to see about it and no one will do it at her age(we knew this when we took her) because cartilage tends to shatter in younger people. I don't know if this is the case for someone your daughters age. I have my nose done, just a little bend to fit that no one really notices and that wasn't painful at all.

i would let her. it's better than a tattoo. at least it would be removable. just tell her if her attitude starts to change that you will take it out of her ear.

Well its an ear, and the holes will grow over...maybe its just a phase? I say go ahead and let her do it. Maybe she will grow tired of it and let it grow back in? :)

as you said, she is a good kid so, i dont think having her ear pierced the way she wanted does not in any way affect the good personality that she has. i have 5 pierced holes in my ears too, i had it when i was single in my late teens because i just liked the look & feel of being different from the ordinary having to put not only a pair of earings. it is just the same as those who put on tatoos & body pierces. liking that kind of art doesnt make one less of a person. so, it is just ok to let her have what she likes, im sure she is as responsible as she is a good kid.

I think you should let her do it. Maybe she'll grow out of it one day, maybe she won't... At least you know it won't turn her into a bad person.

will i just got my ear pierced last week. its still hurt a bet but its fine, coz i like it. and im old enough to make my own decision. your daughter have already the right decision. she can face it already what ever happen...

I too am a parent and can understand. My step daughter did the same at around the same age. She also paid for it on her own, which did teach her the responsibilty of money and she outgrew it after about a year. Teens in this age range try so hard to find themselves and their individuality. I'd say go ahead and consent. If her grades are good and she is a good kid, then yeah I would, and most likely she will be like my step daughter and the new will wear off. I think its a just a fad. Hope this helps from one mother to another! *hugs*

I think you should let her. I've seen those piercings on girls before & it still can be cute. The one you've posted seems like some older man. They have slimmer bars so she doesn't have to have a big piece of metal like that.