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myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting2 years ago

I think my son is too delayed in learning to communicate, he could only utter these simple words such as mama, car, no, la na (tagalog for no more)..i'm really worried already because unlike his sister who learned to talk at the age of 2, why is it my son is not the same?

i haven't brought him yet to a developmental pediatrician but we already got a referral..

Some people are telling me that it is just normal because he's a boy..learning to communicate varies between boy and girl as said..

other aspects like motor skills, emotional skills, i don't see any problem with them except for communication..he only expresses what he wants through pointing or taking me by the hand to get to the object or place he wants.

he seemed to be very interested to talk because he utters a lot only that i couldn't understand them, seemed to have made his own language..

but whenever we tried to talk to him or tell him something he seemed to listen and he could even follow simple instructions like put your plate on the sink after eating, give this or that (while pointing to the object), kiss mama, can i have some of your food?, no! don't do that...

he's even good in imitating what he watches on tv or a movie, he even memorized what will happen next particularly to cartoons that he used to watch like cars, toy story et al..

he's a very affectionate and sweet child..

that's why i hope he's normal, and that he's just having a delay in his communication skills.. but what if there's a problem after consulting with an expert? i don't know if i could handle it... i'm a little afraid...

we cannot deny the fact that any parents who would be experiencing a situation like this will try to deny the fact of the matter on their mind,..scared to face the truth...

what do you think? could there be really a problem? need your advice..

 
 
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tags:  speech, hearing, children, development, son
 
1. zlobinnu (29)   2 years ago

You are right. But maybe you should ask yourself have you smoked/drinked etc. while carring him, then you should let do someone a research why he don't talk.

All the best.


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

i don't smoke nor drink..i also made research about it, i found some speech developmental problems but i think the best way really is to consult an expert on speech for children...

right now, we always talk to him and try to teach him words like names of objects, animals, though it's difficult but i'll try to be patient...thanks for the advice...


zlobinnu (29)  2 years ago

Then it's all good. Take your time and start teaching him.:) All the best!

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2. myLot reputation of 98/100. WANDALIE44 (641)   ranked 1,738 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

i understand wht you mean we as parents we do alot of denying but its ok because we want are kids to be in good health and be normal, mybe nothings wrong with your son but you wont know until you tried taking him to a speach doctor usually your peditrian will refer you to the speech doctor. hope fully he is just waiting for the right moment to spring into cacth up mode. my newphew 6 yrs old now was like that hes speaks alot now but they have him with a resource teacher to help him cacth up will the words that he is suppose to know by now, keep the speech doctor in mind. i'll send a little prayer for your baby boy ok...


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

yeah i do hope too..nice to hear about your nephew..i believe there's still a remedy and i should always be positive..thanks for the advice...:)

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3. myLot reputation of 97/100. ersmommy1 (10401)   ranked 263 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

Boys are often slower in growing than girls. But I am not sure this is true with talking. If you are really concerned ask the pediatrician. They will have guidelines for you. I have daughter. She was using signs before speaking. She said her 1st words around 9 months. In the area where I am at they have speech classes starting at 3. So you wouldn't be alone. Could be that he may have a problem with hearing. One of my nieces had fluid in the back of her ear which needed draining with the aid of tubes. It could be anything. Don't worry. I am sure he will be fine.


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

he used to babble sounds already at 6 months which i believe is already a sign that he is normal because at this stage infants babbling is a way of starting speech according to child psychologists..

but when he got 1 year old that's when i noticed the delay until now that he's 3.. that's great to hear you have that kind of speech classes in your area.. i hope i could fine one here too..

yeah, his ear was checked already by the pediatrician and she found no abnormalities at all...she's just concerned with the delay in speech that's why she referred as to a developmental pediatrician..

thank you for the concern, it gives me strength during this time that i worry too much..

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4. myLot reputation of 99/100. TriciaW (1836)   ranked 53 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

First of all he is normal he is normal for him. I would talk to your doctor and have him tested by the school ESU. I have a few cases that may help you. My nephew did not talk we thought there was a problem. One day while I was babysitting him we decided to eat pizza while watching a movie. His brother's and I headed down stairs and I forgot him at the top. He very loudy said Tricia me too. I laughed and said Jordan you can talk you just never needed to. I helped the smiling boy down the stairs. So it could be a case that he doesn't have to talk cause grunting gets him what he needs. It could also be that he does have problems and needs help. When my daughter was little we didn't know if she would ever talk so we started what they call total communication (it wasn't a fad when we started it*L*) That is where we talked and did sign lanuage at the same time. She picked up signing very quickly. When my daughter did start to talk though if I told her no on something she was sure I must not have understood so she would sign it to me. I would laugh say nice try but it is still no. So what I am trying to say is not to panic these things happen. It is not the end of the world if your son does have communication issues it would become second nature to you. Have him checked and see what happens from there. You may also try telling him say cookie if you want a cookie you don't get it by pointing. Watch his face and see if he tries and gets frustrated or any words come from him. Do not make him over frustrated by making him repeat everything right away. Start simple and again check with your doctor. If you ever need anything like ideas or a shoulder to vent on please feel free to message me.


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

i want to learn sign languages and try it to my son but my hubby is still hesitant about it, he wanted to find out first the opinion of the doctor..

yeah i also try to name the object first before i point that object to him so he'll know it has a name, but still no response yet..he just followed the instruction but not learning the name of the object.. i wonder why he immediately understand and able to memorize the word CAR..it's the only object he knows the name...

perhaps because he's obsessed with it? i hope he could learn to talk already...anyway, thanks for the help...

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5. myLot reputation of 96/100. luvstochat (6679)   ranked 1,116 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

I understand both of my kids had speech delays. You need to have him evalutated by an early child educator call your local school and they should be able to give you where to call. One thing to do is have his hearing evaluated as some kids who are slow at talking have a slight hearing loss. Both of my kids have worked with a speech patholigist and are doing great now.


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

yeah i will consult a speech doctor..his pediatrician already checked his ears for any abnormalities but found out nothing..but maybe i still have to seek second opinion..
nice to hear your children are doing well now..i hope same will happen to my son...

i appreciate your opinion and advice..thanks a lot..

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6. myLot reputation of 85/100. ruby222 (2550)   ranked 3,297 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

Oh please dont get too worrie as yet...every child develops at their own rate...im sure he will be fine!!
My grandson is the same age..and he has had a pronounced stutter since he was two...sometimes it seems worse than others...but he has been to see a specialist in this field...who told his Mum ..due to the fact of the young brain working faster than he is able to get the words out ..he stutters...she says she has seen this many times before ..and it always corrects itself...
It may well be that your daughter talked fairly well at the age of two...and that you are expecting him to do the same...
But honestly ..if you have any real worries...check it out...otherwise wait for a while and see what happens


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

perhaps you are right about the fact that i'm worrying too much because i am comparing him to his sister who learned to talk early.. kids do have different levels of development and maybe he would talk eventually at his own proper time... thanks for the help..

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7. myLot reputation of 93/100. foxyfire33 (5796)   ranked 112 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

He seems on track in all the other areas developmentally so I would guess that he's fine, he just needs help with talking. It might just be as simple as he doesn't need to talk. You mentioned that he communicates well non-verbally, communicating is communicating, some kids are better with words, some are better with actions.

Still have him checked out by the developmental pediatrician but I bet he will start talking more soon. Reinforce things at home to teach him that needs to talk. When he tries to just point, say the word yourself and tell him to say the word, eventually he'll get it!


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

yeah i'm doing it right now, like posting educational posters inside our bedroom so i could teach him names of objects, alphabets and numbers..reinforcements is really needed so me and my husband took turns in doing it..

we just hope it works.. anyway, thanks for the advice..glad to hear your opinion..

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8. myLot reputation of 96/100. ravinskye (6062)   ranked 684 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

It could be normal or it could be something. My husbands cousin was like that. He seemed fine other than talking, he even potty trained well. His parents took him to a specialist and found out he has autism. there are many different levels of autism. a friend of mine has a son with it. for years they told her he had add and ahd. he pretty much seemed like a normal kid that was just behaving badly. finally a doctor figured out it was autism. i don't know that is what your son has, just letting you know my experiance. hope all turns out well.


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

yeah it also occurred to my mind if it could be autism (at a slight level) or adhd because he's really playful and active that he sometimes don't want to pay attention to what we are telling him.. but still i do hope he's fine... i appreciate your concern,,,thank you

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9. myLot reputation of 93/100. sedel1027 (12396)   ranked 178 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

You should get him evaluated as soon as you can get in with the doctor. I am surprised his Doctor has not suggested that you do it before now (I know my sons pediatrician would always asking about vocabulary at his check ups). My nephew and my son were both talking up a storm when they were 3.

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10. myLot reputation of 89/100. Swaana (1083)   ranked 1,492 out of 14,888 in parenting   2 years ago

Dear Yoj,
There is no need to worry, as many kids will take time to start communicating. You kep talking and talking to him. Not baby talk but legible talk. Show him various cards and keep teaching him. As you say that all other skills are at par, you need not worry. Keep going. He will be a jolly good boy and you will be amazed to see how much he talks.


myLot reputation of 86/100. yoj118 (187)   ranked 1,135 out of 14,888 in parenting  2 years ago

thanks for the advice..i do hope he talks eventually...


doggman007 (1)  4 weeks ago

Hi there just wondering how you Boy was doing?when did he start talking?
My son it nearly 3 and still not talking,he had Grommits in his ears at 1 1/2 and has been in glasses since he turned 2 and is also not talking yet.
He understands everything but just wont seam too talk.
Hes a million miles an hour though never walks anywhere just seams too run.
Its really starting too stress me out,hes been saying Mum since he was 1 but nothing new since then.
If you could send me a email as I am not a registered member on this site and let me know how you son went and maybey give me some tips that would be great,thanks:)
Hope all is well.

Mark
remarkable_hm@yahoo.co.nz

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