i was just feeling happy yesterday. and yet now, i'm feeling down.  

hi book. i am so touched with your offer to pm you and tell my problems. that is just so sweet of you. the more i read all the responses here, the more i get so... frustrated. i just can think of one thing right now, life is much easier back when i don't like anyone as i like this guy right now.

thank you very much kethy. i really do my best to not show too much interest when he is around. i'm actually a little snob sometimes and he had commented on that. he said i should be sweeter to him. but i said, i'm always a little snob because it is in my character and if i change abruptly like be so sweet in an instant, that wouldn't be me anymore.

anyway, i do know that action speaks louder than words. that's why i get so sad because he doesn't take much actions to show that he likes me a bit. and yeah, whenever i feel sad and frustrated, i spend time with my friends because i know being with them helps me forget him even just for a few hours.

hi sharal. thank you very much for your advice. most of my friends did tell me too to move on and just forget about him and find another one instead. but i'm actually having a hard time forgetting him. its like, he's so near and yet he's so far. we're just working in the same building and crossing our path cannot be avoided. but i'm doing my best to really get him out of my system. i want to move on and be happy.

hi carolbee. we've had a talk but we didn't talk about us. i couldn't bring it up because i was scared to hear that he doesn't like me. somehow i knew it all along especially afterwards when he avoided the chances of having a private talk with me. i guess he didn't want to deal with me. i can't say that he didn't want to hurt my feelings. instead, i can say that he still wanted to "play" with me so he didn't dump me yet. i was like a "reserve". but i opened my eyes and now, i gave up on him. i'm doing my best to forget him.

yeah. its not good for me to be feeling like this everyday. i am doing my best to move on and just forget about him. he is not serious with me, i'm sure of that. if he is, he could have made a move a long time ago. but he didn't. so.. there. i give up. i'm a practical girl. if he doesn't like me, then he doesn't. i'm not gonna waste any more of my energy to him. i'll just find another one.

hi gantez. yep. i'm moving on. i hope i can get over this feeling soon because its making me crazy! i'm trying hard to keep thinking positive. i'm doing my best to ignore the feeling. thank you so much.

hey kun, if you're interested with a girl you'd do everything to get her contact details right? and you'll take all the opportunities to talk with her privately, right? he had all the chances but he didn't take it. but he flirts around with me. and i realized he's not serious with his intentions. so i'm giving up. i'm moving on.

yup, u are right, secret.. Guys should always take the initiative.. What's more,u have given him the chance but he dun take it.. I guess he was just flirting around and u are right in giving him up ^_^ ANd who knows the next one to coem along will be a better choice?? hehe ^_^

yeah. i guess he was just flirting around with me. i really do hope that my decision to give him up is the right choice. one of my friends is telling me to give him a another chance. but i want to be firm on my decision. i hope too that there'll be a better one to come along. thanks kun.

Stand by your decision, secret.. When it comes to feelings and senses in relationships, nothing or nobody knows it as well as u do because u are the one involved in it ^_^ There will be a better one to come along ^_^ BE strong in your belief, secret ^_^ hehe

you can't imagine how much of my self-control i'm using kun! i'm actually impressed with myself! i didn't know i had this kind of self-control. ^__^ for the last week i did my best to stop myself from seeing him. i think i did great.

haha.. That's good, secret ^_^ It shows that u are determined too and u have really done a great job.. hehe ^_^ BUt avoiding is not the solution, be brave and face him someday, but with no more feelings for him.. MAke him regret.. hehe.. Once u are able to reach that stage, it means u have really gotten over him ^_^ hehe

that's the day i'm patiently waiting for kun! the day when i don't have any feelings for him. right now i just don't have the faith. i mean, the faith on myself that if i see him now, i wouldn't feel anything. i don't trust myself to be calm when i see him right now. so i'm doing my best to avoid him. if i see him i want myself to be calm and feeling-less.

U can do it, secret ^_^ It's just a mayyer of time and i believe u can do it soon.. MAybe u can try to interact with more guys instead, and that should help u ^_^

well, i tried to meet other guys. but i only ended up comparing them with him. i thought it wasn't nice and it was kinda unfair. so now, i'm just constantly hanging out with friends. i'll meet other guys when i'm ready.

yeah.. It's abit too soon to say that u have given up on him.. hehe ^_^ As long as u feel like u are ready to move on, just move on and there wun be any more comparison.. And also, everybody is different and unique in their own ways, so there isn't really a need to compare.. hehe

hi jill. thanks for the compliment. i already gave up on him. i mean, i still think about him a lot but i don't try so hard anymore on getting his action or just seeing him. i decided to just forget about him because it seems that all my efforts are in vain because he's not interested with me and i don't want to waste my efforts on someone who takes me for granted. i'm doing all my best to be cheerful and not so down. its hard.

Well said, anawar.

Thanks, sometimes I sound like I'm 'kinda smart, but then people get to know me_

i somehow believe what you said that we choose what we feel. but there are really days that i can help but think about him and i get so depressed over the thought that he doesn't like me. and that thought makes me ask myself "am i not good enough?", bringing my self-esteem a notch lower. i guess this is not also a issue of heartbreak but also of pride being stepped down. since pride is concerned, its not only my heart that reacts but also my mind. so i can reconsider my reaction. thanks for that wise advise anawar.

i did reserve something for myself checa. and i'm saving it right now. i mean, i gave up on him already and i'm saving what was left of my pride and broken heart. and i'm doing my best not to be overly emotional. i've cried twice, i'm not going to shed another tear for him again. yeah, it is surely his loss that he let me pass me by just like that!