I Can't Believe This!! What Is Going On??
By CatsandDogs
@CatsandDogs (13963)
United States
June 25, 2008 9:59pm CST
Like I said before, this is a year from hell for me and my family!!
My brother called my parents this morning and told them that his son's wife wants a divorce!! They just got married on the 26th of April!! He's the same nephew that is renting my parents house until they could afford to buy it - that is when he gets his credit straightened out, yeah right, his suv was repossessed!! And yes the same one who didn't cut the grass - next door neighbor helped him so it's cut now.
Anyway, his wife said she fell out of love about two months before the wedding but her girlfriends told her it's wedding jitters to go on with it and so she did and now she wants a divorce. Gee Mee Creepers!! Supposidly she's going to stay at the house for another two months till she can get a place of her own. Now if it were me, I'd tell her to get the hell out and don't let the door hit you in the @ss on the way out!! Buuuutttt.... that's his decision to make so I'm not getting into it but if I ever see her again, I WILL give her a piece of my d@mned mind!! That just ticks me off to no end!! How dare her go through with all of this and do this to him!! He's a sweet and kind hearted man and has been dumped on for so long that it's about time he found happiness or so we thought!! Grant you, yes he's very irresponsible as all get out but dang!! He doesn't deserve this!! I'm so sick over this that I just don't know which way to turn for I'm afraid something else will come upon us!! Sooooo that all said, now my nephew isn't going to be able to buy the house afterall. Hell he won't even be able to afford to rent it either!! My parents mortgaged the house to buy the one they have now so that my nephew could buy it and even discounted it by $75. in which they have to pay out of their own pocket to fulfill the mortgage payment!! So because of this and the houseing market being like it is, mom and dad may lose their house!! That is a huge huge huge loss!! If they could sell it, it would give them enough to pay off this house and quite a bit left over to enjoy their twilight years but now we don't know what's going to happen!! My two brothers and I can't afford to make the payments for we're just barely making it by ourselves so what the hell are they/we going to do now?? Oh I'm so ticked off in such a big big way!! This girl just might land on the floor/ground if I ever see her again!!
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13 responses
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
26 Jun 08
This is just too much negative vibes for me. I tried to read through your tirade but I respect myself more than I want to sympathize with you so I just want to say, good luck to you and your family and I hope everything gets straightened out.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Too much negative vibes for you? Try living through it like I have to. I feel like I'm living in hell right now and there's nothing I can do about it. However I appreciate your good luck wishes and hopes that everything straightens out for I sure do too!
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
Hi CatsAndDogs, as you can see from my response, I can feel the negativity in your situation and all I could do was to offer you simple, honest, straight-from-the-heart words of sympathy. This is how I show my respect for your situation. I cannot pretend to give you words that might make you feel better when I know that it is you frying in an untenable position and any words from a total stranger would only be a pale reflection of what you're going through.
I could very easily jump in with a thousand "Dr. Phil" platitudes which will earn for me your friendship and words of commiseration but will that alleviate the situation? Nobody can tell that girl what to do or think just as nobody can tell us what to do or think, hence my terse and pained response to a situation which is too hot even for me, (watching through a telescope, so to speak) to handle.
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@missybal (4489)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Well it's good that your parents are putting it back on the market. As far as for waiting for it to sell and the repairs I'd say that if your brother's son wants to live there with his wife(soon to be ex) they should pay rent and they should do some repairs to help the house get sold. They should at least be capable of doing the painting. I'd harass them to no end to get the work done. Her too if she still needs a place to live. At least as long as they are in there they can pay the bill. I hope that the two can get a divorce without spending too much money but really maybe she's just going through a rough time and will get past it. I was with my husband for 4 years before we got married and for the first couple of months after we got married I kept asking myself what the hell did I get myself into. Of course I married a military man when knowing nothing of military life so that was scary. I don't think she meant to do what she did, I'm sure that her friends were trying to do right by her. Marriage is a scary thing. I just hope they will be adult enough to realize that they need to help their family out by helping to get that house sold. I wish you all the luck in the world. It sounds like you need it.
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@missybal (4489)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Jeepers, I think it's all for the best that they are not getting the house and honestly I'm sure your mother and father are very nice people and really wanted to help out family... But I never would have let them move into the house in the first place. Sounds like they got a lot of growing up to do and they need to do it someplace else. I'll pray the house gets sold quickly.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Oh they're going to stay in the house till their contract is up which is in September then she's moving out and he probably will have to too because he can't afford the rent alone. Besides, the rent has to go up $300. in order to meet the total payment, taxes, insurance and repairs that may be needed. My nephew doesn't know that yet and we know he can't afford that even if he has room mates. As for getting them to repaint and do the repairs... that's a joke because dad had a terrible time getting him to cut the darn grass!! It got up past their knees according to the neighbors who were complaining and still nothing was done til dad told them if he came up to cut it himself, he'd pay for his time and gas to come up there. That's when my nephew decided to get off of his butt but only to find out that the three mowers were broke down. Geeze, I wonder why?! They haven't been started in almost a year!! So he borrowed a mower from next door and got it cut.
As for being married to a military man, I did the same thing and thought the same thing!! It is hard being married to a military guy and it takes a special person to do it!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Jun 08
Oh Sweetie that is terrible what was she thinking of, if she knows that she fell out of Love with him then why go through with it all that is so awful and your poor Nephew
Your Parents need to put the House on the Market as in now do not give up Hope as you might find it will go we have the same here with the House Market but if they put it on the Market now at least they are prepared and they are giving themselves time to sell it and you never know it might go before everything falls apart if they get buyer sooner then they are coming out the House then they will just have to find somewhere
I am sorry you are having such a bad time at the moment
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
They do have it on the market but it's been put on hold since my nephew and his new assinine wife wanted to buy it at the end of their year contract which is September but now my parents are going to call their realtor and reinstate it and put it in the active file now. At least that's what they said yesterday. They have 2 months to get it sold or rented.
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@rsa101 (40976)
• Philippines
27 Jun 08
Well like I said in my ohter post on you just stay afloat in everything that is happening in your life right now. This lessons in life is sending some message to you to become a better person. Don't think that this will trample you to ground. Again this misfortunes will be over once you start thinking positive. Do away with those anger, and all the negativity that you are feeling right now. Everything will come to past and you don;t really have to wait for next year for this thing to happen you could start right now and enjoy life even with those problems troubling you. Its just the right frame of mind you'll have to trust right now not the circumstance you are in.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Kind of hard to do with all that's going on for none are minor things. All are pretty hard core and hard to deal with but I'm doing it to the best of my ability. I understand your point but if you'd put yourself in my shoes, I'm sure you'd agree BUT I thank you anyway.
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I am so sorry you are having to go through so much. God is there for you and He will not put on you any more than you can wtihstand. He will be there to guide you through it all! Don't give up. We are praying for you! God bless!
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I'm so not believing this is happening. I just can't believe this!! When my mom told me, my ears just folded out of shock and disbelief. I've got a question for God which is, "How strong do you think I am?" This is just too much.
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Yes, it is seeming so overwhelming right now. I know it is, I have been there where everything was happening, you will make it through it. That goes back to my favorite saying, "THIS TOO SHALL PASS!" It cannot last forever, it will pass. God bless! OH, and God knows you are a strong and tough "cookie". LOL Hang in there!
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
26 Jun 08
That is sad. All the more reason why EVERYONE needs to have lots of premarital counseling before getting married. My opinion, anyway.
It sounds like your parents might need to contact a real estate agent who handles rentals. Perhaps they can find someone who needs to buy on a lease option or who needs to rent while trying to get money for a down payment. At least the mortgage would get paid that way. And they would handle checking references and income and collecting the rents, so your parents didn't have to mess with that. Last time my MIL had to do that, the agent took 10% each month, but for the money the agent also made sure minor repairs were done as well.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
My parents have the house on the market but it's been put on hold since my nephew and his new so called wife wanted to buy it at the end of their year contract which is September but now my parents are going to call their realtor and reinstate it and put it in the active file now. At least that's what they said yesterday. They have 2 months to get it sold or rented. But in the meantime, God only knows what needs to be repaired and or painted. Dang what a hell of a pickle these two put my parents in! Like they need this on top of mom having a stroke and still recovering from! But I'm trying my best to stay strong for them because they need strength and I'll try to give it to them the best I know how.
As for the gal, I don't know and frankly, I don't care because I'm too mad at her for being so self centered and wasting my nephews time however, if they do decide to go for marriage counseling, I'd support them all the way for it's not my marriage to say what they should do but I'd be happy to hear they're trying if they were to do that.
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
26 Jun 08
I wonder if she would be willing to get some counseling now? Perhaps she hasn't really fallen out of love. Perhaps she needs someone to explain all of the kinds and stages of love. No one ever keeps (well not many) the initial feeling of love that happens when you first discover it.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Wow, that is quite a blow. I would have to say that if he cannot make the payments, he will have to move out and your parents will need to rent it out or try to sell. With the markets the way they are, renting sounds more logical. I would also tell her to get out if it was me, and definitely would not support her. I would make her pay her part of the bills.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
They have it on the market but it's been put on hold since my nephew and his new so called wife wanted to buy it at the end of their year contract which is September but now my parents are going to call their realtor and reinstate it and put it in the active file now. At least that's what they said yesterday. They have 2 months to get it sold or rented. But in the meantime, God only knows what needs to be repaired and or painted. Dang what a hell of a pickle these two put my parents in! Like they need this on top of mom having a stroke and still recovering from!
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
26 Jun 08
Oh my gosh If I was in your shoes I think I would be pretty ticked off too. Wow how can anyone go through a wedding if they don't love the person that is so wrong in every sense of the word.
well good luck hun I hope everything works out for our parents.
Hugs
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
You're exactly right! It is wrong! Oh she makes my blood boil!! Knowing full well what we've already been through with my mom, her grandmother in law, she has the gall to do this?!?! Not to mention, hurt my nephew like this? How dare her!! She better hope I never come across her again!! She just might have a new hole in her head!! ARG!!
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Hey my friend thats really awful. I dont blame you one bit for being ticked off. I know what you mean about making payments. Its so really hard anymore just to put food on the table. I hope everything works out for you guys. Be strong! Hugs!
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
My parent have the house on the market but it's been put on hold since my nephew and his new so called wife wanted to buy it at the end of their year contract which is September but now my parents are going to call their realtor and reinstate it and put it in the active file now. At least that's what they said yesterday. They have 2 months to get it sold or rented. But in the meantime, God only knows what needs to be repaired and or painted. Dang what a hell of a pickle these two put my parents in! Like they need this on top of mom having a stroke and still recovering from! Yeah I'm mad! Mad as hell!! But I'm trying my best to stay strong for them because they need strength and I'll try to give it to them the best I know how. Thanks Terry!
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I have no advice...what a mess. I it happened to my brother her butt would be on street. It's you that I feel sorry for this on top of everything else you have been through. You have had a black cloud over your family but keep remembering every cloud has a silver lining,
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
27 Jun 08
Even black clouds? Maybe mine is so black that it's hiding it's silver lining? lol I can't find it!! 
Oh I'd love to kick her butt out but she did pay her part of the rent and plans on doing so for the next two more months so that'll help my parents out and give them more time to sell or rent the house.
Oh I'd love to kick her butt out but she did pay her part of the rent and plans on doing so for the next two more months so that'll help my parents out and give them more time to sell or rent the house.1 person likes this
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
26 Jun 08
Yes she should but my nephew didn't do it, she did so in my opinion, she should leave everything for him. A lot of people are all for themselves and don't consider others feelings, such as this darn girl. I loved her and thought she was a sweet gal but now that she's done this, I'm not so sure anymore. I've never been a good judge of character like my mom and husband are but even they were fooled.
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jun 08
What a wicked thing for a woman to do, go thru with a wedding
knowing she really doesnt love the groom. she is all kinds of
a fool;what I do not understand is what has this to do with'your nephew now not being able to buy the house, was it her moneythat
'was going to help or what? would a divorce cost that kind
of money. why cannnot he buythe house if he could do so before she told him this? I guess I do not understand why he can now no buy the house. hope this all gets straightened out. catsanddogs.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
27 Jun 08
He can't buy the house because of a couple of reasons, one - because he has bad credit, two - because he does'nt make enough money to afford the payment alone and last but not least - it was her family that are in the realestate business and they were going to help them get the loan.
Mom and dad have 2 months to either sell it or get a renter so hopefully something will pan out before the two months is up.
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@meggan79 (436)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I read that your parents had two months to get the house sold or rented, and that was a month ago. Did they ever get it sold or rented? How is your nephew holding up?
It may seem like a huge blow to him now, but it would have been worse 5-10 years down the line. Her unhappiness would have lead to more unhappiness then a quick divorce and more hatred then you would want to go through.
(((BIG HUGS)))
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
29 Jul 08
My nephew and his soon to be ex had rented it and she's gone now but my nephew is still there and still wants to buy the house. I just wish this hoze bag told him BEFORE the wedding instead of after. It would've saved everyone a lot of grief. Such is life I guess. Marriage isn't something to be taken lightly but some don't feel that way. Thank you for the hugs!! ((((hugs)))) back to you!!
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