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myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting 4 years ago

What was I thinking? It is summer break and we decide now is the time to tell all 4 kids they can't watch TV, or listen to the radio, or play playstation or computer? I must be crazy. You can't enforce that. They will whine all summer long. They will be at each others throats.
I have 4 kids ages 6 to 15. We made a decision a few weeks ago that they would not have electronic privledges. It started out as a week long grounding for all 4. It has turned in to a summer long blessing. My kids, like many siblings around the world, have some problems. 1) they don't get out of the house much 2) they don't play with each other 3) they fight all the time 4) they are constantly bored.
So why did we take away electronics? Would the games and TV and all that keep them occupied? You would think so, but what I found is just the opposite. Yeah the first week was rough to say the least. But after they saw that we were not backing down a miracle happened...They found other things to do. (you can almost hear the Hallalujah Chorus plaing in the background) Not only that, but they WANTED to go outside. Not only that but now the get UPSET if they have to come in. Not only that but they are playing with EACH OTHER!!! AND GETTING ALONG!!!!! What have I done? I have ruined my kids. Before they wouldn't even talk to each other and now they are asking each other if they would like to play a board game, or put a puzzle together, or go outside and play water gun fight or ride bikes together.
Here I thought it would be world war III and instead it has brought peace to our house.
What are your thoughts on this??


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1. myLot reputation of 94/100. tinkerick (1252)   ranked 1,555 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

Way to go! Kudos to you! May have to follow your example.

We have 3 kids ages 7 to 13. They are constantly on some electronic device - TV, DS, Video Game, Computer.

However, the girls do have friends who call them up and get them out of the house. This summer they've gone swimming several times already (to the point where we've decided to get them season passes). And when the kids behind us get on their trampoline - it acts like a magnet. My kids are out there within minutes. So are half the other kids in the block. lol

And they do go outside willingly to play with the dog. And I'm giving both the girls scooters for their birthday so hopefully that will get them out more too.


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

The only advice I have for you is this. If you do try it don't do it for just a week. They have to realize that they don't have any options. The first week is a little rough, but then everything changes. Think about it. TV is really not all that great here lately.
Oh and another benefit that I was not expecting, it has made it to where I don't feel like I need to watch TV all the time so now I actually spend more time with my wife. Imagine that, take away electronics as a way to better your marriage. :)

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. deebomb (10022)   ranked 281 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

Just what were you thinking by taking all the best things from your kids. That might be sen as child abuse. haha. No really I think that you have done a great thing for yourself and for your kids. It must really feel good to have your kids communicating with each other. You have to be one tough cookie to be able to stay with this decision. I salute you for being such a good mom.


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

Thank you for your kind words, HOWEVER, I am a father. My wife does stay home with the kids and she is a "Tough Cookie" and she is a wonderful mom.


myLot reputation of 97/100. deebomb (10022)   ranked 281 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

Sorry about that. Most discussions on here about kids are from moms. Any congratulations to both of you.


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

No problem. I completely understand.

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3. myLot reputation of 51/100. Gargoyle0134 (1251)   ranked 2,733 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

Enforce that! Good for you!
Put them OUT in the fresh air to PLAY! They'll sneak a little at friends' houses abyway? But getting kids out for kickball, to play in a pool or ride bikes/roller blade is great! Stay at it. Don't get pushed around by whining! Let them whime outtside at a baskletball or tennis court all they want. They will still PLAY!
Make sure they have some paints and paper, etc..cards/UNO! Board games can be fun!
Us moms are behind you! LOL!


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

It has been a wonderful journey from grumpy kids to siblings that (for the most part) are beginning to respect each other and themselves. My wife and are have been very pleased with the outcome. Thanks for your remarks

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4. meganparsons_4 (71)   ranked 960 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

I think this is a awesome idea. When I was growing up we didn't even have a TV...I know, I know sounds impossible but it is the truth. We were encouraged to do other things. Through school I played every sport and was involved in other activities. I also always had a clean room and our house was clean because you would get bored so you would help out. Now that I am a mother of 2 and only 23 years old I would like to enforce the same with my children.


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

I believe that kids should see those "EXTRAS" as rewards. My kids automatically think that they are personal "Rights". Now they realize that their lives do not have to revolve around Hannah Montana or Play Station. There is life after electronics.
i find it funny that the more "advances" that are made in entertainment, the more often I hear kids say that their bored.

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5. myLot reputation of 98/100. JJ4Ever (1242)   4 years ago

What do I think of this idea? In my opinion, this is one of the best things parents can do for their children! You obviously received positive results, but even if you hadn't I'd still think it was an awesome idea. (I love the sarcasm in your description as well, by the way. Your discussion was fun to read.) lol Why I think it's such a good idea is because nowadays kids are so used to using all of these electronic devices and such that they've practically fried their poor little brains! They've also allowed things such as the computer to take the place of good, wholesome fun that can be created by things you mentioned such as playing with siblings and enjoying the outdoors. When I was younger, I played with my one brother and four sisters all the time. We played outside with the neighbors on a regular basis as well. I was the same as your children; I would've thrown a fit if I would've been forced to go back inside. That would've been the punish. Nowadays, the punishment is making kids go outside away from their "toys." I think in doing what you did, you were doing your kids a huge favor by teaching them a valuable lesson. Other than the obvious advantages to your actions, your children were always able to get plenty of fresh air, which helps them sleep better at night. Good ol' oxygen does wonders for the body! (LOL) On top of that, they're using less electricity (less $$$ for bills on your end). When all is said and done, there's absolutely nothing harmful in what you did for (notice I didn't say "to") your kids. Good for you! You're to be commended for your wonderful efforts in helping your children see things from a completely different perspective. I think this was a great summer "project" for you and your family. I'm sure you were surprised as well as delighted by the results. Keep up the great work!


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

Yes, this has been very delightful. And the best part about it, is that more than likely they will grow up and remember the summer that they didn't have electronic and they'll tell their kids "When I was a kids like you, there was a whole summer that Grandpa and Grandma wouldn't let us turn on anything electronic." I believe this will be a summer of fond memories.


myLot reputation of 98/100. JJ4Ever (1242)  4 years ago

I agree completely. I think this will become a family tradition that will be passed down through the generations. What a great thing!


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

Oh yes and the great grand children will come up to me and kick me in the shin. :)


myLot reputation of 98/100. JJ4Ever (1242)  4 years ago

That'd be what I'd call a "battle scar" well worth it! (LOL)


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

I thought thay you would enjoy this. We wrere getting tired of the kids saying they were bored so we finally broke down and got a membership to the YMCA. I still find it amazing how well this is working out this summer. I wonder how many others are going to try this even if it is just for a day or 2?


myLot reputation of 98/100. JJ4Ever (1242)  4 years ago

I think there's a possibility of many people trying this method for their children, especially after reading your discussion. I think it's all about the fact that most parents probably wouldn't even think of something like what you'd done for your kids. Your discussion is a great inspiration to many parents, I'm sure. I know if I had kids, I'd definitely try this method for at least a week or two. I'd be interested to see the outcome for my own family. Of course, I'm definitely keeping this in mind when God chooses to bless me with my own children. It'll be well worth anything I could possibly put into the decision. I'm happy to learn of the membership. Yet another great idea you've had. Thanks for sharing!


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

I go this afternoon to the YMCA for orientation. I am so not used to working out. Up until 2 years ago I was very active. Then I had surgery and never got back into. Hopefully I will be here tomorrow. :)


myLot reputation of 98/100. JJ4Ever (1242)  4 years ago

I suppose surgery is a good excuse for not exercising. (LOL) However, I think working out is a great idea...and something I could probably do more of as well. However, you know what's best for your needs, so it's great you've set goals for yourself as well as your children. I think it's very consistent. Thanks for sharing and have a great day!


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

I actually look forward to my excercise times. I seem to have more energy when I excercise.


myLot reputation of 98/100. JJ4Ever (1242)  4 years ago

It really is the truth and great to hear. I remember back when I was a freshman in college, I ran at least half a mile after a full day of classes, which probably doesn't sound like too much, but it was the best I could do on a normal day reaching the end of another crazy schedule. Believe it or not, I gained 20 lbs. that year because while it boosted my appetite (I usually ate dinner right after my run and a nice shower) it also proved as a stress reliever. You may find the same, although hopefully you haven't a thing to be stressed out about! I just thought you'd find that interesting that it had such a positive effect on me. You'd think that I'd still run...I wish I had time. Now that I have a dog and a beautiful apartment complex and park area surrounding it to live, I might get back into it. Thanks for the good example and for reminding me the importance of exercise. I could use that 20 lbs. again! (LOL) Have a great night, my friend.

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6. myLot reputation of 98/100. sudalunts (4245)   ranked 2,852 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

I think that is great. Now your children see that there are other things to occupy their time and minds besides electronics.
It is wonderful that they are appreciating each other more


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

It does make you wonder what the world would be like if all of the sudden the electronic were taken away. I believe adults would have a more difficult time than the children.

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7. jazzd4me2b (13)   ranked 6,221 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

Wow, that is awesome! I would love to do that! I don't think that I could ever get my husband to agree. He's kind of a tv addict also. He works long hours and just wants to come home and relax in front of the tv most nights. Some nights there is just way to much electronic input and I have to go hide upstairs with a book!


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

Jazz, I will be honest. I did not like the idea either. I work all day and that is all I wanted to do. What I found out is that I love not having the TV on. I feel more relaxed and seem to have more energy. I believe that the TV would drain me. Not that it was some kind of mind probe that made me a zombie, but think about what is on. News - 90% is bad news. TV shows - Murder, hatred. Sports - THOSE ARE GREAT as long as your team wins. But how do you feel if they don't? See if he would give it a try for just a week. Sometimes what i do is if there is something I really want to watch I record it and wait until the kids go to bed.
Also you don't have to quit altogether. Instead make a special event to be able to watch tv not a natural occurance.

(I can see it already. I am going to start getting hate mail from kids around the world. lol)

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8. AOSReaper116 (8)   4 years ago

I think it was a great idea. Just make sure that you le them use them sometimes. The world today is built on electronics. So when they're older they will NEED to use them. Make sure they get enough to be up to date with them. But not too much...


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

True, but a season being away from them is not bad. Basically it is just for 4 weeks. Which to a child is an eternity. The benefits of turning them off by far out weigh the damage of them getting a little rusty on how to turn on the play station. :) thanks for your reply.

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9. myLot reputation of 98/100. buldwgz (892)   ranked 1,889 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

Sounds like you made a very smart move that turned out even better than anyone could hope for. I would do the same except that I would be punishing myself I think...LOL. I enjoy playing games with my kids on our xbox to much to stop it.


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

I admit I enjoy playing the games on the computer and TV with my kids. What I found out though is that I did not enjoy it near as much as I thought. I found out that I enjoyed my kids more when I played away from the electronics. For instance. i have a 6 year old son. He used to always say, "Dad can you play start wars legos on playstation with me?" I would sit down with him and not say one word to him. Now he says "Hey dad can you wrestle with me" We get down on the floor and wrestle and then when he is all worn out he will cuddle up to me and talk. WOW!! some people would pay big money for that from their children. All I did was turn off the TV.

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10. myLot reputation of 99/100. sweetdesign (2193)   ranked 988 out of 9,012 in parenting   4 years ago

Good for you for sticking to your guns! I know that when a ban the tv in our house my daughter is sooo much more cooperative. She has started to cut down on her tv watching by herself now. When she is hung up on the tv she throws a huge two year old fit if I ask her to do something (she is 17). When I was growing up i never stayed inside the house in the summer time. Kids nowadays just don't spend enough time outside with schools cutting down on recess and pe times lots of kids spend less than an hour outside a day which is sad.


myLot reputation of 98/100. doubleloveyou (838)   ranked 208 out of 9,012 in parenting  4 years ago

True. Kids need a good healthy dose of fresh air and quite frankly exercise. I fear to see what will become of children today when they are 30 and 40 years old.

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