What are your feelings about a married couple in love but not sleeping together?  |
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 Hi,
I've been married to my hubby for 9 years now and yes we still love each other. For the past 7 years, we've slept in separate rooms, in separate beds.
Reasons:
1. he likes it warm, I like it cool
2. he snores and I'm on a noisy CPAP machine for sleep apnea
3. he tosses and turns, I sleep mostly in one position
4. we sleep alot better separately
My 25 year old son says he doesn't call our marriage a marriage because we don't sleep together. I say, we both need our rest and this works out the best for both of us.
Opinions please.....
Thanks,
Char:-)
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| 1. raina21 (74) | 4 months ago |  Well thats strange and I've not anything about this before.If u are comfortablesleeping together its ok but then u say u love each other.I think when u are in love u can compromise on these small little problems instead of not sleeping together.This is my personal opinion and obviously its ur life so u know it better.
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 Foxxee (2242) | 4 months ago |  You might of never heard of it, but the truth is, this is going on all over. Doesn't mean they don't love eachother.
Me and my husband don't sleep in the same rooms at night, but we love eachother.
I also have a friend that has been married to her husband for several years and they do everything together but they don't sleep together when it's time for bed.
TO each their own. Sometimes it works out better this way for people.
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| raina21 (74) | 4 months ago | Ya may be u r right but i didn't mean to say that this is right or wrong.I just gave my opinion on it.Please don't mind but it was what I thought. | |
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2.  patriciaqualls (1213) | 4 months ago |  Hello Char, If this works for you both then I say keep doing what you are doing! Maybe that is what so many of us are doing wrong. We need to be in separate rooms like grandma and granpa did way back when. They were fine with it. Why change anything if it works for you.
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| Foxxee (2242) | 4 months ago | So true!
:)
Works for me & my husband. And we are 25 & 27. Still going strong & happy! | |
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 CharRay7 (765) | 4 months ago | Thanks for your response.. it's nice to hear we aren't the only ones that have this sleeping arrangement.
Char:-)
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| patriciaqualls (1213) | 4 months ago | My best friends parent's had this sleeping arrangement also. They were very happy and very much in love. | |
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| AnnaB7 (300) | 4 months ago |  I think that whatever works best for you is what you should do. And you can get more rest sometimes without company in the bed with you in my personal opinion.
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| deweykharl (3) | 4 months ago | thats okey as long as you stay faithful to each other | |
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| patriciaqualls (1213) | 4 months ago | Absolutely!!! that is the main thing. | |
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| 3. dmcollie (178) | 4 months ago |  This is normal. or as normal as normal can get. As long as you love each other than you are married. My adopted grandparents where sleeping in different rooms before Gramps passed away. They loved each other dearly and didn't spend a day apart but at night they had the same problems as you do.
Now I couldn't be apart from my Husband because it feels safer when I hear him softly snoring.
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| 4. Hatley (12699) | 4 months ago | My husband and I slept in twin beds for all the same reasons but'
we always made love a few times a week, as we still loved each other and had passion for each other, you do not have to share a bed to make love for heavens sakes, it is just as easy in a twin bed as in a giant one, mnore fun perhaps in a twin bed. | |
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| 5. bluerubymoon53 (672) | 4 months ago |  Where is it written that a married couple has to sleep in the same bed? If you are both well-rested because of this sleeping arrangement, that's wonderful.
My aunt and uncle slept in separate beds because of the way my uncle's arm was. When he was a child, he had broken his arm and it did not heal properly. It caused his arm to be all akimbo so he was not able to lay his arm in a good position while asleep.
They were married for many years and I knew they loved each other. 'Til death did they part.
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| 6. cmelton (121) | 4 months ago | My husband and I sleep in separate beds most of the time, mostly for the same reasons as you. If he falls asleep first I can't go to sleep because he snores and tosses and turns. I have to have sleep so I go into another room. But we love each other very much and not sleeping together is going to change that. | |
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| 7. magojordan (1939) | 4 months ago |  I think that whatever is comfortable for them is the best. It really doesn't mean that if you sleep separately then your less of a married couple.
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| 8. ketybhagat (934) | 4 months ago |  Better to sleep separately and still be in love rather than getting on each others nerves and losing the tranquility of the family. I think there is nothing wrong in sleeping separately if your likes are poles apart. The fact that you love each other is more than enough and maybe your son will understand one day.
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| 9. deepyasu (8) | 4 months ago | It does not matter if a couple sleep with each other or not. It is there personal relation and it is their choice .till the time there is love, support, care and cooperation in one relation .it is healthy... | |
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| 10. midautumn (84) | 4 months ago |  it's normal.personally I think it's the best way to solve these problems.
don't be sceptical.you are right,and it should be like this.
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 kennyrose (1127) | 4 months ago |  My hubby and I have separate bedrooms now for 8 years,it works nicely for both of us.
He just read the beginning of my post here,read it an smiled saying I support this.
For them that maybe be thinking he is an old man,no he is just 43 years old and in his prime of life.
We both get a much better nights sleep,we are less cranky because we get the rest we need at night.
This has worked for us and it is more conman then we may think.
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