Adding to my Friends List
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
July 5, 2008 1:06pm CST
After being here for almost a year and a half, I've noticed that there are a lot of people here that I think are on my list already because we interact so much but when I check, it turns out we aren't'friends' yet. So today I'd like to take some time to fix that by sifting through members and making sure I actually send out those requests to all my friends who aren't actually on my list yet!
To make this a discussion... have you ever thought someone was on your friends only to find out later that they weren't? Or have you gone to request a person and discovered they already were on your list?
I have definitely done both quite a few times!
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13 responses
@Trace86 (5030)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Part of the problem is the way the friends list is organized. Its not! It would be so much easier to manage my friends list if I could see it in alphabetical order.
I have no idea who is really on my friends list until I try to send them a PM and am told they must be on my friends list to do that.
Like I think you and dfn are on my list, but can't be 100% sure!
I will also try today and in the next few days to doublecheck that the people I interact with most and share interests with.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
5 Jul 08
You and dfn are both on my list already and I just added Grandpa Bob who I was sure was already on my list. I got through the first three pages already and was surprised at how many familiar faces were not on my list yet! I agree that we need a way to better organize our lists! It would make things so much easier.
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I've only been here for a couple of months, but I have done both at least once. Its funny how you can answer someones post all of the time and not know that their not on your list or that someones on your list but you dont relize it.
Cheers, Tianna
@ellie333 (21016)
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5 Jul 08
Oh yes I have done this, I went to PM someone I thought was on my friends list as we always appeared togeter in most discussions and her on mine and I on hers only to find I couldn't as she wasn't my friend, how embarrassing so I requested immediately and we had a good giggle over it. Ellie :D
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I have had the exact same thing happen! I offered to PM someone info and then had to leave a second comment of oops, add me first! We laughed to because we interacted so much in discussions, we just assumed.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Jul 08
foxy fire I have interacted a lot and am constantly thinking some one is on my friends list so go to make a comment on
their photo and get the message you have to be a friend! I am surprised as I just thought that person was a friend lol. and again sometimes I go to request a friend and find they are already on my list lol.
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
5 Jul 08
No, this hasn't happened to me although I like the idea of having a lot of friends I really don't have the time, or my own PC, to spend interacting with them.
I hope no one feels I'm not paying them enough attention but my time on the net is limited since I am using the office machine, not having one at home.
I can't wait to get my own machine !
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
6 Jul 08
In all the time I've had a computer, I always had my own at home. It is so nice! I hoope you can get your own soon too!
@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
5 Jul 08
I have done that. There are some people that i actually look for their discussions when they don't show up in my inbox and after fussing about it i go to my friends list to make sure i have them turned on only to realize that not only are they not turned on they also are not there! Their discussions are interesting and i enjoy reading them so i'll just keep an eye out for them.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
6 Jul 08
My problem is that I do forget to turn on notifications for new friends.So then I see all these discussions from them that didn't show up in my e-mail and think I'm losing my mind since I was so sure they were on my list.
@sunita64 (6468)
• India
6 Jul 08
Regarding friend's list is concerned whomsoever requested me to be their friend I accepted them. But from my side I have not tried to request because without my requesting I have a large number in my list and not always possible to answer the question of all of my friends as the discussions I attend to are the ones I like, so it is better not to request as it is difficult to do justice to friends.
@zeloguy (4911)
• United States
5 Jul 08
I haven't run into that particular problem per se but I have gone through my list and found that notifications were off and I wasn't getting an e-mail when my friends were posting... I think by default it is off and that doesn't make any sense to me.
Thanks
Zelo
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
6 Jul 08
I have done that. I have thought someone was my friend, because we seem to answer each other's posts, and what usually happens is that one of us makes the request, most of the time it is the other person since now I am on the request list. I have also found out that I forget that I made someone a friend and I go and ask her to be one, especially if she has not written that much.
It does seem to happen.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
5 Jul 08
Hi foxyfire,
I have experiences both...LOL! after those incident, I always check my list again to confirm! LOL! We have plenty of friends there and some aren't active for awhile so when they're back,sometimes, I will not remember if they are in my list or not! But, there are also a lot whom I remember specially those whom I have encountered here everyday!
@grecychunny26 (9482)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
I have friend here in Mylot and we became close. She was the one who find out that she is not on my list. We laugh about it. So she invited me on her list. Its really weird because we became close but I just discovered later that she became knowing here in Mylot and i forgot about it. We even went to shopping not even talking about Mylot. When she adds me as her friend I gave her a message, because she is very nice of adding me etc,and she replied Hey I am blah blah...we went shopping remember...i blushed and said sorry to her. I am blaming myself of forgetting where we started. She is now my buddy. I am glad we met here in Mylot.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
6 Jul 08
I have done both also and I have found that I have a few friends on my friends list, with the notify turned on, that I don't get the notifications from them.. I go in and check only to find that it is on but I am not getting any of their messages.. I am not sure if this is a mylot mix up or what, I will figure it out later as I can never catch up on all of the discussions anyway.. I do try and answer all that I can and as soon as I can..
@littlepinoy (600)
• Philippines
6 Jul 08
Thinking that a friend of mine was already in my contacts already happened to me a couple of times.
Most of the time, a friend of mine would add me up after a series [often long-term] interaction online.
Then I would exclaim, "Oh, I thought we're already in each other's contact list?"
To which he/she would respond, "I thought so too!"
Our conversations were so great we forget to add up each other. Hahaha
