Not His Fault??!!??

I'm assuming the guy wasn't physically restrained or drugged. I'd be inclined to say it 'wasn't my fault' as I cut the legs off his trousers and key-ed his car on my way out to the solicitors office... Still, that's his wife's choice.

oh my goodness i can't believe someone actually said that. how can someone be not responsible for having an affair? it's not as if he is raped or something. this is totally ridiculous! i'll never accept a lame excuse like this. it takes two hands to clap and certainly more than that to have an affair. i pity the wife whose husband can't even be bothered to think of something better to appease her.;[

I agree that saying they were seduced seems very much a cop out. As far as accepting that a spouse had an affair, and forgiving is a personal thing.
I talk of experience when my husband cheated on me last year. I kicked him out and we were separated for several weeks until I could get my mind straight. To make a long story short, we are back together. Now I have forgiven him and gone on with our married life but I will never forget.
As far as comments that you made in your post, I learned that you don't judge people's actions. You never know when that might happen to me.

Ok i think that is the best one i have ever heard and i thought i had heard them all,but that one got me.who in the right mind would believe such a tale,now let me back up on that some women would.

Depending on the situation I might forgive, but I wouldn't forget. The old adage..burn me once shame on you, burn me twice shame on me.
As far as the "seduced" excuse, give me a break! What type of situation do you have to get yourself in? Sounds to me like maybe he has some issues with his wife to begin with, whether she was aware of them or not. But tht "I was seduced" excuse doesn't fly with me at all. I'll be honest, I chested on my first husband all the time, and I'm not proud of it.(He was cheating on me too I found out later) When I finally got out of the situation it dawned on me that my reckless behavior was because I was married to somebody I felt no connection to. I can say that I have been with my current husband for 8 years, and have never cheated. Why? Becasue I am happy, secure, and know I couldn't look myself in the mirror if I ever betrayed the trust and love he has for me.

That is nothing but a cop out! I completely agree with you Whiteheather. I dont care how much a female would "seduce" my husband and if she was prettier than me. There is a difference between that and being raped. Obviously if he's not saying she "raped" him then obviously he thinks there was nothing wrong with it. All I know is an Affair is a crime all it's own! I cant stand men and even woman who do this to their spouse. What's the point in marrying the person "Till death do us part" if you cant stay committed. The world does eventually find out.

No acceptance and no forgiveness. Even alcohol is not an excuse. You have to remember that they willfully decided to drink and lower their inhibitions in a place where they needed to have their full wits. Short of someone being held at gun point I don't think there is ever any sort of valid excuse. It's definitely a cheaters fault and once a cheater always a cheater.

Hi whiteheather,
This sounds so much like my ex-husband. Every affair he had was never his fault. He was always being seduced or something of that fact. You are right you can't be seduced like that all he had to say to her was NO!!!!!!! plain and simple NO NO NO!!!! I can't believe people and we actually do believe them. I guess that is why they say love is blind. I have forgiven my ex-husband but I haven't forgotten what he did to me. If I were you I would tell your friend he is a liar and he will be seduced again and again. It's time for her to move on. It will only get worse for her in the long run. It never gets any better as I thought it would.
Good luck to your friend. I feel bad when men do this to their wives.
Trish

NO WAY No reason is good enough

Even if the affair was initiated by the other party, the husband still has a fault on doing it. Being involved in that affair automatically makes him responsible for it and guilty of the act.