If their money is tight, is it OK to take a child away from its family?

No the child should stay with its parents, I think if you are that worried and can afford to have the child there through adoption then you can afford to offer them money to help until they are back on their feet. A child is always best with its parents and anyone who truely cares will do their best to make sure they stay there not remove them at the first sign of money trouble, id be heartbroken to lose my children because money was tight if someone said oh well il take them for you instead not a chance id never ever let that happen. Why do you really want to adopt their child? you seem to care about the child but are arguing on the facts of how better the child would be with you, like I say I think anyone who really cared would see that a child is ALWAYS best with their parents if their parents love them and they are safe with them i think theres better ways to offer help and what about the other children you adopt one but the others still suffer?

Thats a very tough one. No matter the decision I think there will be good and bad points. This would be a very hard situation for all involved. But I think that If I were in a financial position to help I think that I would contribute what I could for the entire family and hopefully it would be enough to carry them over until their situation changes. That way the family is still intact and less emotiional stress for the kids. Maybe other members of both sides of the families can make a monthly commitment to pool funds together which would be more to assist them.

Normally, my answer to your question would be a big NO. However, given our situation, I think it is better that you adopt the child than somebody you don't know. At least this way, your brother knows that the child is in good hands. You must consider also about what would happen in the future if the child's parents will be able to support the kids and ask for their child back. Would you return the child? Times are very hard, I know, but it would be better if at least one spouse look for a job. There are many jobs out there. They might end up giving all children away if they do not do something about their careers/ lives.

No problem if your brother is amenable to this idea. It is for the good of the child anyway. It's easy for the child to adjust... yes, she will cry at first but as she finds comfort and love in your arm same as what her parents could give. She will eventually treat you as her parent. I also have grandchildren with me because their parents can not support them well. At first they all cried because they never want to be away from their mother but as the days go by they soon get adjusted and now living happily with me. Now, even if their parents visit them in my house, they never cry when it's their parents' turn to leave.

If it were me in that situation, I would find out about all the aid i could get. Food stamps, welfare, ans many others. There is financial help available to those in need.

Did you say you were adopting your brother's child? It's not taking him away from his family. You're still family riht? It's better adopting someone in your bloodline than taking a child from someone you don't know. It's your brother's child. He's still your nephew. If you adopt this child at the age of 1 or less, I don't think he'll need the adjustment. A lot of adjustment comes when the child already recognizes who his real father and mother is. If you take them at an older age, take two children so that they don't get lonely. They'll have someone to play with and when they will finally grow older, never forget to tell them the truth. It's better that they get the truth from you that getting it from somebody else. Tell him/them who their biological parents are and that because you love them so much and that because you didn't want to starve the whole family etc etc. Always let them feel that they are loved.

I would think that there are better ways to help you brothers children out than taking one of them away from their mom and dad. If you can afford to adopt one of the children why not send them care packages. packages of school clothes, school supplies and even some food. Of course that is if your brother and his wife are trying to find work and they are just down on their luck. If they are bums then that is a different story. I don't believe that children should ever be taken from their immediate family unless it it is absolutely necessary.

Well I think it would do good to the child more if you will adopt hir or her than leaving him or her on the parents who don't have any assurance for his safety and future. It best just to explain to the child and give him/her an option instead.

If it would help your brother then I would say yes adopt a child, as long as the child is happy moving to your area. They wills till be able to have contact which is more than what they would have if the child was being adopted with some else. Also the child is going to a trusted family member and so will be easy to see every so often. I mean I know the child would rather be with his parents and siblings but if it would help with money matters, not only would the child be better of but also the family,. The hardest bit would be deciding which child to adopt!!

Hello polaris714. I really don't think its right to take a child away from its family as the child will suffer more than being starve, how would you like to be taken away from the people that you love if you were a child and go to a strane new place, where you cry for your mother and father brothers and sisters alone in the night? it is very heart breaking, don't do it , the only way you can help is send money to your brother to help his famiy out and tell him to look for a job at least. Tamarafireheart.

Adopting your brother's child is a very good idea because you will personally have affection towards your brother's children rather than any other child who you adopt from outside of the family. My suggestion is you could go for adopting two kids from your brother if you can manage them so that they have siblings and as time goes on, they will realise that they are happy because you are able to provide them what would not have been available if they were in their mother's house. Initially the children may have some trouble or longing to see their parents but that is very natural. Just ask his parents what would they do if children are satying in a boarding hostel. Whenever there is a vacation try to get together with your brother's family and the rest of the kids.

no!!