Don't Leave me here all alone?

No, I have never lived alone, just me on my own. The closest I have ever been to living alone is when I was a single parent but that is not the same really. I have four children and so if and when they all leave my house will be terribly silent! But that will not be for quite a few years yet, as my children are still little.

I have lived alone before I had my daughter and I really hated it. It was so lonesome with no one to talk to and I was scared alot of times when I heard noises and such. I was bored during the day and was scared at night time when it got dark. I always liked to have someone to talk to when I laid down in the bed and I also liked to get cozy or warm with someone beside me. You will miss your kids when they move out, but the peace of mind of being able to make decisions for yourself in life again will be nice also.

I never really technically lived alone. I lived with my friend for a while. She had a baby and we worked at the same place, opposite shifts. She worked the 4:00am shift and I was her relief so I would take care of the baby and hand her off when the shift changed. She was always at her moms when she wasn't working so we never saw each other beside that so it was like living alone. I didn't really like it. She was going to move after a few months and I was glad. Like you I was used to having lots of people around all my life. Our family was not real big but a lot of my aunts and uncles lived close by so we were always together. My parents always had company. In fact, many of my cousins have lived with me.

As for your son leaving, I know all about that. All of my kids are gone, the youngest left just a few months ago for the second time. Empty nest syndrome is true!!! I was going crazy for a while, especially the first time he left. Mylot and other sited have helped a lot lol. Oh yeah, a word of advice, make sure you have a myspace and/or facebook to keep up with them while they are gone!

The only time I was on my own was when we first moved to Samoa. Because my husband and I were not married yet (samoan custom), we were not allowed to live together, so he stayed with his Dad at his grandparents place, and I stayed in a one bedroom flat on my Uncles property, with them living next door in their own 3 bedroom house. It was lonely especially at night. My husband would visit every day but was not allowed to stay over (he did a few times though haha).

Quiet! And incredibly peaceful.

I'm sorry to hear this, but you should be happy for your son. I'm sure a lot of parents feel this way and there are ways to go on. I think taking a class of an interest of your choice would be good. Find something that will take some of the anxiety away about being alone. And by associating in a classroom you will be surrounded by people and possibly make new friends.

If you can entertain yourself. If you are comfortable in your own skin. If you are interested in your own thoughts. And if you don't mind eating straight from a can, you can live alone. In fact, you'll probably enjoy it. You are so totally your own boss in your own home and the freedom is liberating. I've done it often and frankly prefer it. That's because I don't depend on other people to give my life meaning and purpose. I make my own. I think you will be just fine momma. I really do.

Momma..you will either love it or hate it...
I grew up with 5 sibs and married at 18..had 5 children and now all of them are on their own..most with children of their own..and when i found out i was going to be alone for the very first time..i was hesitant..its been now 4 yrs and I Love IT!
I can come and go as i please..watch what i want on tv..eat what i want..and sleep wherever i want..my children live close by so i can see them if I want but i fine that after we have get togethers and have fun i look forward to MY TIME..where I can kick back..take whatever clothes off i want and relax and come on here and bug all of you..LOL
Enjoy it and Do something for yourself!

As you know it all depend on the person. Some people get along just fine living by themselves. No one to account to or depend on and can do everything you feel like it in your own time. Hard to beat right? The other type of person that needs someone in their life to feel alive have a problem. They feel alone and can'
t wait until they can get together with other people again. I have been in both situations. When I got divorced way back when I did live alone for about a year until I got custody of my boys. During that time I took in a room mate who was a friend of mine. We got along great and everything worked out fine. We did have to have rules though. I expected things a certain way and he had to comply of move out. It was my house. He finally came around and we hit it off and got along fine. Now when I got custody of my boys he had to move out. The judge did not want to leave any room for things to happen. Then too as you get older and you will get there one day, you tend to like being alone more an more. Don't forget there is always holidays, spring, winter and summer vacation. Hell he will be home more than he is now. LOL

34momma hi not recently but when I was much younger and single, I lived in a one bedroom apartment but then I worked in the loca
hospital and was with oodles of people everyday as a nurses aid so never really felt lonely but a number of years back when my husband died unexpectedly I was really afraid of being alone but my adult son had just lost his job so he moved in with me and he got another job almost immediately so we shared the rent and expenses and made out just great, and I was not alone any longer.And he and I still share everything and it is nice not being alone.