Her boyfriend is cheating how do I make her listen?

She already sees the truth and is dealing with it in her own way. It's not the smart way and it's definitely the more emotionally painful way but you really can't walk in another person's shoes. Instead of pushing her to leave this jerk for good why not just let her know that you will be there for her when she finally decides that she's had enough because only she can make that decision. I hope she does soon.

I know you want to help your friend but you are fighting a losing battle. She is aware of the situation, but something about her self esteem tells her that she doesn't deserve better. In her mind its better to be one in the number than not to be counted at all! At some point, she will figure out that this guy doesn't give a flip about her and she will realize that she deserves better. Until the only thing you can do is try to support her. When she is ready to deal with it on her own terms she will.

In a sense people can become blinded by the love they have for another person. This may very well be the case with your friend. And as unfortunate as it sounds, she will have to be brought around to his ways, by her actually seeing it for herself, that her boyfriend is a real sleeze ball. All we can really do as friends, is be there for them when the truth is found out and the hurt begins to take hold. I know the feeling all to well about wanting to protect friends and family from the hurt, but unfortunately there are some things we just can't protect them from. This is not an easy road for anyone to travel down. In time his true colors will shine through and she'll see the truth. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your friend.

We cannot control her feelings because she loves him to much, blind folded. I think I can only tell her the truth, I think thats enough of telling your friend the truth,it will be very hard to open her eyes.Have a nice day!

You can't make her listen. Not until she is ready to believe it for herself and that may not be until she catches him at it...or not even then. What you can do is just be there to listen when that time comes. She will need you then. And don't say I told you so....best way to lose her as a friend.

I had a friend before that her boyfriend is cheating on her everytime she's not around but everytime our friends told her about it she wont even listen to us and she trust her boyfriend that much so we plan things and we make a compromise that if she thinks that we still lied to her then were out on the scene...so what we do is we go to this place that weve seen her boyfriend with someone we hang out there and to her surprise she saw it with her own two eyes so from then on she believes on what weve been telling her.

You can't make people like that listen. I'm sure she knows deep down but she's in denial. May seem like a strange suggestion but I would try to introduce her to some new men and maybe she'll see that their are better fish in the sea.

Don't bother, you are just wasting your time and you will end up looking like the bad guy. I think I would bring up the fact often that she needs to get tested. Maybe that will open her eyes. But, she probably has low self esteem and needs to know that she can only get it by leaving him. Maybe you could arrange for her to meet someone else without her knowing it?

Well sometimes other women are trying to be blind to what is happening. It is really hard to tell this kind of person that doesn't accept reality anymore. But then as a friend perhaps try to be as patient and hope that someday she will wake up from her insanity and realized that she has committed a mistake in loving that person.

[i]HI walk, that is hard when she is trying to ignore or tolerate the act of the boyfriend! There are really people who will stay in the relationship even if they know about it! Love is blind indeed! If she don't like to listen or admit the said cheating, friends have no choice..Just pray that soon she will learn how to respect herself so other people especially her boyfriend will learn to respect her too![/i]

She already knows the truth and the simple fact is that she wants to be with a man who treats her like crap and cheats on her. Telling her something she already knows won't help at all. She just has to grow up emotionally and realize that it's bad for her and that she deserves better. There's really nothing you can do to make her a more emotionally mature person. She just has to learn that on her own.

i believe she knows what her boyfriend is doing, she is just indenial about it, or somehow hoping that the person can still change and it can still work out. i have friends who has been into that kind of relationships as well. actually one of them is in a worst relationship than your friend is. my friend's boyfriend beats her up and goes out with out girls. she knows that, and we keep on telling her to let go of the guy and find somebody who really loves and respects her, but she can't just end the relationship. she tried breaking up with the guy and did not communicate with him for 2 weeks, but after that, they were together again. there is absolutely nothing that you can do for her. you have done your part of explaining to her the situation, the decision is always up to her. we'll just pray that someday she'll realize that she deserves better.

oh, i would not like to hear that! silly girl ! you know, sometimes people want to hear advice from friends, but they actually refuse to take it and stick to their old ways . So one way is to find a new, better guy who deserves her love, second, show her the proof. and third, time will cure her, let her realize that by herself, this works !

...i can help you with it....grab your cam and make proofs to prove to your friend that her boyfriend is doing something fishy....

Maybe instead of trying to convince your friend her boyfriend is a scumbag maybe you should help her feel like she deserves someone that treats her better. She knows as much as she's going to accept about him, she's been given all the proof she needs but refuses to see the truth because she doesn't believe she deserves a faithful mate or he's such a great guy she'll be second best. She has to learn to love herself to get away from him.

You can't MAKE someone listen if they choose not to. If you have told her then you have done what a good friend should. The only other thing to do is try and get evidence, a taped phone call, pictures...etc. This can be done by hiring a private investigator, don't do it yourself. But be careful, it seem like your girlfriend feels more confortable living a lie, if you burst the bubble, you may risk your friendship.

In her heart she knows whats going on she's just not wanting to belive it and let go yet.Most of us have trouble trusting our feelings but usely come around,she will too.

I found out my man was cheating when he would have glitter on him including his balls lie about where he has been takes hours on end to return home and all that other good stuff.

Sometimes love is blind. Maybe her friends just try to give her advices or bring her to see the true color of her boyfriend,example when her boyfriend is dating with other girls,follow her boyfriend and let her see the truth. Whether her friend want to accept or not,it's her call. I don't think third parties can do much about it.

I think this girls sees it but just doesn't want to believe it. Until she sees it with her own eyes she will most likely stay with him. You always want to give the person you love the benifit of the doubt. Maybe her friends are just out to break them up because they don't like the guy and so on. She'll have to witness it first hand to be able to make that decision of leaving him. Also, it could be a case of low self-confidence. Most woman that have low-self-confidence feel that this guy is the only guy that will ever love her and would never find another, therefore, she'll let him do his cheating and deal with it just in hopes that he'll get it out of his system and continue to love her. I think the best way for her to open her eyes though is to plant her in a spot where he is with another girl and let her witness it. I know it's harsh and her friends will really have to be there as a shoulder to cry on after but its a wake up call that she probably needs. Sorry to hear your friend is dating a looser! She deserves better!