Would you tell them how to spend it?

Thanks, NL. I agree that they shouldn't be given money if their intentions are to use it on illegal things. That's just not a good idea. Thanks again and have a great day!

What if their need and how you tell them to spend it match up? What if they need new socks, and you tell them to buy new socks? I have a coworker who has been given money before because the giver felt she needed it and felt sorry for my coworker. My coworker turned around and didn't spend the money on what the other person intended, which was to repair her car because she needed money for the repair. People can lie about their needs too. They'll say they need money for food or something normal like that just to get money. If it's a true friend, I'd certainly hope we'd know their needs better than that and be able to trust them to spend it on the right things! Thanks for your input.

Good one, Eb! I have to say that I've either never heard that quote before or I haven't heard it in a really long time. That's a great saying to apply to this discussion because it's more than the truth! I like your reasoning and sincerely appreciate your contribution to this discussion. Wow, your response is very exciting. I think you hit the nail on the head! Great ideas and thanks a bunch.

By the way, I completely agree with you that people shouldn't give away money they can't afford to lose. That goes with borrowing or giving. It doesn't matter for what purpose because if you can't afford to lose it and give it to someone anyway, you're in trouble! (LOL) Thanks again. I love your response...it's very inspiring.

Very good idea!

Hi there, I have to say that I agree with Eb. I really like your husband's reasoning. Once the money is given away, you can try but you have absolutely no control over where the money is going. You can only hope it'll be spent on the right things. Something similar happened to my coworker a few months ago. It's pretty long, though, so I think I'm going to start a new discussion about it right now to see what everyone else thinks. A coworker of mine actually experienced kind of the same situation as your husband did, and the results were pretty surprising. Thanks for your response!

Hi! Your reasoning is very down-to-earth, and I agree with you. You're used to what it feels like to have to earn money to pay for things for yourself as well as others in your family. You're a hard worker who doesn't just give away money to someone who wouldn't deserve it, especially unless you know exactly where it's going. They need to put it to good use knowing the person who worked so hard for it! I'm glad you handle your money well because that makes you rich in the end! (LOL) If you don't know where your money is going, then you shouldn't have to spend the money in the first place...that's the way I look at it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

Hi, Teka! I understand you completely. I like your ideas because we have no way of knowing that person's needs. We're not them, so we can't judge exactly what they need that money for. It's good for us to know they have a need, give the money, and then see it work and be blessed by our sacrificial gift to them. We shouldn't become a dictator when it comes to giving away money. If they plan to spend illegally, then it's time to step in and have some boundaries on how the money should be spent or not give it away at all in the first place. I appreciate your response because I never thought about it that way. Take care, friend!

Hi JJ4Ever, I am happy that you understand and liked my point. Be in need is a hard thing and if someone treat us like a child saying what and what not to do make all the situation worst. But I think that we don't have any friend that use drugs right? LOL. Have a nice day.

I'd surely hope not! Ha, ha. You never know. I know how it feels to be in need of something and having that need fulfilled, but with insane stipulations. I felt like a fish in a bowl because I could see everything going on, but could do nothing about it. It takes on a whole new meaning when you've actually been in that spot. I can honestly tell you, I hated it! (LOL) As soon as I could, I got myself out of that predicament. It was kind that the people involved were trying to help me, but they were going about it in the completely wrong way. I'm thankful for what they did because I wouldn't be as well off as I am today if they hadn't given me an incentive to change my surroundings by making things frustrating for me. (LOL) Probably sounds weird and confusing, but it's a long story. Anyway, thanks for your comment. I appreciate it!

Yes JJ4Ever, you are right. When people do this with us it is an incentive because we do our best to get off this situation and to never more get in the same situation AH AH! Cheers my dear.

Thank you, Teka. Incentive is definitely key. I appreciate your comments. You have some excellent points. Take care, my friend!

You're right...I don't think money should be given in general because then they'll take it and spend it on whatever. I think the giver should have a good understanding of a few needs and things the recipient will probably use the money for. If not, then who knows where that hard earned money of yours would be going! I'd hate to be responsible for purchasing something illegal with my money through someone else I was trying to be nice to by giving to them. (LOL) Thanks for posting your thoughts, Polly.

I'd feel the same way as you. If I gave the money and they spent it on something I wouldn't approve of, I'd rather not know. Thanks for pointing that out. Great thought.

I think illegal drugs would be a waste of money, too, but there are people out there who think differently, and of course, you have the things where in various countries, what's illegal in America might not be illegal somewhere else. The idea of giving away the money means you're not expecting it back and not expecting anything in return. I know you're a gracious person and would give the money in a heartbeat not really minding how it was spent as long as you could do something kind for someone. That's the important thing. It gives me a warm, fuzzy feeling inside to give something away and know that I helped someone. It's wonderful. I appreciate your response, and of course, agree with you whole heartedly. Thanks, Lori.

Wow, great analogy. I'd hate for someone to tell me how I'm going to spend my myLot earnings because I earned them, and the money is rightfully mine. I guess it's a tad bit different, but it's still a great comparison. It'd be kind of insulting with myLot money because it's like I already figured out at the end of one month (if I make payout) what I'm going to use that money for. If someone were to come along and tell me I couldn't, I wouldn't be too happy. I agree with you, though, because if someone told me they needed money for a certain thing and then didn't bother spending it on that after I kindly gave them the money, I wouldn't be too happy about it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!