UPDATE on: I want to save my marriage - ideas?  |
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Here is the original post for those of you who haven't seen it. http://www.mylot.com/w/di... are going to be okay. I went away for the weekend and came home to a different person. I came home to the man I married four years ago. We talked or should I say he talked, I listened. He told me what has been wrong with him lately and why he has been acting so odd. No it wasn't cheating it was more personal then that.
When we met we lived in Florida we were good there, things changed when we moved to Pennsylvania and continued to get worse as the months went on. We have been here in PA for two years now. He wants to go back to FL. He says that in order for us to be us again we need to go. He told me this wasn't really an option we are going. I am okay with that because as I told him I will do any thing for him and if he feels this is what is best for our family then its what is best. He thanked me for fighting him so hard. He said that if I hadn't fought him he doesn't know what would have happened to him. He was on a downward spiral and my telling him off telling him I was fed up and my fight was almost gone woke him up to the realty that he might lose me and he was POSITIVE thats not what he wanted.
After he said what he had to say I told him that I can't do this again. If he says that he wants a divorce again it will be it for me. I will be the one to leave. I can't take this back and forth heartbreak. He said that he understands and that he won't do it again. My feelings are that he is being true. Not just beacuse its what I want to feel, but because every thing he said he said with such emotion, heart, soul and more. It really was like looking at him the day I married him. I haven't seen this part of him in a long time. I really missed it I am really happy it is back.
Each of you that responded to my original discussion taught me some thing I thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul. Thank you all for your thoughts, opinions, advice, prayers and every thing else. Know that you helped me, you did your good deed for the day/ week/ month/ my life.
As I said in the last discussion - any questions will be answered so if you have any ask away. Thank you again! E
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1. rsa101 (7434) | 1 year ago | Well I am glad things went on fine with your fight right now. But as i read your post the reason was kind of very light. He just wants to transfer residence and he would want to divorce you from that. Well, i really could not understand that but hey, you've solved your problems and now you have to move on to FL for that. I hope that is also what you want.
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | It isn't exactly what I want I mean moving back to FL means a lot of changes for us but I truly think good ones. I understand your not really getting it because even the people close to us don't. But the only way I can say it is there is him, me, and us. He is happier in FL, I am happier in FL, WE are happier in FL. So because we will be happier the US will be happier.
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rsa101 (7434) | 1 year ago | Maybe I will not really be able to figure it out myself. The important thing in here is that the communications line was opened and emotions flowed out of it and you are happy with the results of that communications. Sometimes its all about communications that link a marriage to grow. That is why make the line always open to each other and be mindful of what you and the other feels. Congratulations for that big effort of yours
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Thank you again for all the words of encourgement! In a month or so we will be leaving for FL so I will update again same discussion tital!
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Irishfrndly65 (7395) | 1 year ago | Said a prayer for that house to sell. Be sure to bake something(loaf of bread, cinnamon rolls, sugar cookies) on the days you show it! It's said to influence the buyer by an amazing percentage. It gives them a 'homey' feel to the place. No fooling, try it! God bless!
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Funny you say that my real estate agent was over last night and asked me to get some apple pie scented candels for the days that he is showing the house. I can't bake LOL! He said the sented candels would work just fine. So thats next on the list of things to buy.
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Perfect - thank you!
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3. redkathy (1787) | 1 year ago | I am SOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU! xoxoxoxox
A word of caution- NEVER SAY NEVER - You might be called to step up again so do not put those limits(I can't do this back and forth heartbreak) out there!!! You are a strong willed person - it's a attribute sent from God you know so use it for the good. He obviously loves you and you him! Your daughter will thank you, God will bless you for honoring your vow of marriage, which is a loving and giving relationship that combines two hearts and souls into one!! It will be worth it when you are old and grey if keep this advice close to your heart, I know that for sure.
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | ANY advice you give me is kept close to my heart! Thank you again. I will email you later with more info.
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Irishfrndly65 (7395) | 1 year ago | Excellent point red! Wise words from a wise woman! Aren't we proud of this gal-eb? Woohooooo! Holding on to keep holding on!
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4. ZephyrSun (3502) | 1 year ago | Wow that's wonderful! It's always nice when problems can be sovled so easily. So I guess you are all off to warmer weather and a better life! That's really great! Good luck with your move and getting things back to the way that they were.
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Believe me things aren't perfect yet they are far from it. But this is truly our new begining. Things will be as good as they once were. Thank you again for your post on the first discussion.
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5. penny64 (643) | 1 year ago | That is wonderful news. It's midnight here, and I was just about to go to bed. I just did a quick check of my emails first and saw your post. You have done your good deed by bringing your problems to MyLot - how many people have you helped without even realising it? I'm very, very happy for you and your family. You have proved that it is worth fighting for the things which really matter!
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Thank you again for the words of encourgement! I will update again in a few weeks.
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penny64 (643) | 1 year ago | All the best with organising your move back, too. Again, I can't tell you how happy I am for you.
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6. pioneer2009angel (129) | 1 year ago | It Sounds like he was truly unhappy with move to PA in first place,but I think if moving back to FL saves the marriage then it be great! I am happy you take the step to save your marriage, not alot of people will do that to save marriages. I think people who are truly lazy in marriages just divorce when things are not right, though it good you save it and move to FL. Though I wounder if he truly miss FL because warm air and stuff. But if he didn't cheat on you that is great, I think move to FL is a good one. If I was married now I would move anywhere with my man as long he stay faithful and honest. I also think that if he truly loves you theh he will work things out. I don't believe in divorce because it does nothing but heartbreak. I can not take much heartbreak as I am really sentisitve person, but I believe you and your husband is doing a smart move, just it will cost ya to move to PA TO FL.
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Yes it is going to cost us a lot of money to move BUT we are lucky enough to have my parents there to help. My parents own a condo as well as the house they live in. They have been trying to rent the condo so they said they are willing to continue to pay for it until we get on our feet.
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7. rjscott (3074) | 1 year ago | EB, thanks for sharing the outcome of your trial with us. I'm truly happy for you and if being back in Florida is key to both of you being happy, go for it!
I left PA two years ago, and I now live in Southwest Florida. Maybe it's the constant summer, but I'm thrilled to be here.
Best of luck to both of you in your return!
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | I grew up in Cape Coral 20 years there! (I'm sure you know where it is) We met there and moved here to PA about 2 years after that. Now going back to the Cape. Hope it turns out alright just scared about the job hunting at this point. I know there isn't a lot down there. He has a few leads already I don't but I'm sure some thing will come up. At least its a pretty good place to raise a child. I think my daughter will love it.
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rjscott (3074) | 1 year ago | Yep, I know where Cape Coral is. I've never been there ... but there's always tomorrow.
Next time I hit the lottery big, I can take a side trip from Fort Meyers to Cape Coral.
:D
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Where in PA were you?? I have found that a lot of people here in Pittsburgh either have places in Cape Coral/ Fort Myers or go there for vacation once in a while. Its like the cities are paralle to each other.
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rjscott (3074) | 1 year ago | EB, I was in Whitehall, but not the Whitehall in the Pittsburgh area; the one in the Allentown area ... nestled about halfway between Philly and New York.
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bellaofchaos (3116) | 1 year ago | eb you live in the pittsburg area. I love going shopping there during the weekends. LOL!! Again congrats on keeping it going and I hope the move works. I live in a smaller town about 45 minutes to and hour east of Pittsburg. Pm and we can talk more if you want ebaysharer.
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8. floridachick (423) | 1 year ago | awesome glad it all worked out in the end, so do you know when you're moving and where in Florida? as you can tell by my sn I live in Florida.
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ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | My husband and daughter are leaving the first week of Septemeber and I will follow once he finds a job that way we will continue to at least have one income the whole time. We are going to Cape Coral/ Fort Myers area in Southwest FL. I grew up there and its where we met also is where my family is. We still have a house to sell here in PA I am hoping that it sells as fast as some of the others in our neighborhood. Cross your fingers for me! We are lucky enough to have my family there in FL that is willing to help a LOT! My parents own a townhouse and it has been sitting so we will move into it. Funny we are going back to where we started. That was our first place together and now could be the last. If we make enough on the house we are going to buy the town house. Wouldn't that be nice! Anyway theres another book for you thank you again for your well wishes and words of encourgment.
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floridachick (423) | 1 year ago | I live in southeast palm bay, it's good that you have family here. good luck with everything.
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9. ashleecook (159) | 1 year ago | i truly hope you are doing okay. things are going to be alright. marriage takes work - that much i know for sure, first hand.
it takes a lot of open communication to make things go smoothly. those marriages that are worth saving will work out in the end, that is what i believe. xo.
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10. Hatley (21165) | 1 year ago | ebsharer I am so glad your husband has made a change in himself.I love to see people work to save their marriages . that is just wonderful and hope you and your husband will really be happy together again. You sound really happy and your husand seems to havefound out hust what was wrong with him. many happy years for yuou both. love.
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