UPDATE on: I want to save my marriage - ideas?  |
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 Here is the original post for those of you who haven't seen it. http://www.mylot.com/w/di... are going to be okay. I went away for the weekend and came home to a different person. I came home to the man I married four years ago. We talked or should I say he talked, I listened. He told me what has been wrong with him lately and why he has been acting so odd. No it wasn't cheating it was more personal then that.
When we met we lived in Florida we were good there, things changed when we moved to Pennsylvania and continued to get worse as the months went on. We have been here in PA for two years now. He wants to go back to FL. He says that in order for us to be us again we need to go. He told me this wasn't really an option we are going. I am okay with that because as I told him I will do any thing for him and if he feels this is what is best for our family then its what is best. He thanked me for fighting him so hard. He said that if I hadn't fought him he doesn't know what would have happened to him. He was on a downward spiral and my telling him off telling him I was fed up and my fight was almost gone woke him up to the realty that he might lose me and he was POSITIVE thats not what he wanted.
After he said what he had to say I told him that I can't do this again. If he says that he wants a divorce again it will be it for me. I will be the one to leave. I can't take this back and forth heartbreak. He said that he understands and that he won't do it again. My feelings are that he is being true. Not just beacuse its what I want to feel, but because every thing he said he said with such emotion, heart, soul and more. It really was like looking at him the day I married him. I haven't seen this part of him in a long time. I really missed it I am really happy it is back.
Each of you that responded to my original discussion taught me some thing I thank you from the bottom of my heart and soul. Thank you all for your thoughts, opinions, advice, prayers and every thing else. Know that you helped me, you did your good deed for the day/ week/ month/ my life.
As I said in the last discussion - any questions will be answered so if you have any ask away. Thank you again! E
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 ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Thank you for your post. Thank you for the well wishes. I really think this is the right thing for us. Sunday night I actually felt like I was talking to the man I married not the man that I have been looking at for the past couple weeks. | |
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| 12. snowy22315 (8137) | 1 year ago |  I hope that things work out for you in Florida. I hope florida is the key for happiness for you and your mate, but dont be surprised if it's not. I dont like the fact that he doesnt seem to be concerned about your needs. My husband is like that and it doesnt make for a very hapy relationship sometimes. Good Luck and God Bless.
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| ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | My husband is concerned for my needs and that is why we are going because as I said it is what is best for him, me, us, our family. Financilly it won't be as great but emotionaly it will be. We will be happier in FL as we both realize thats where we belong.
The last 4 years have been really good it was just in the last 2 months that things changed I know why now and understand his points. Once back to FL things will get better. They already have. The man I married is back. | |
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13.  bellaofchaos (3116) | 1 year ago |  Hun I have no questions and I can honestly say from the bottom of my heart good luck and I hope that when you get back to florida that things change for the better. I will say this Pennsylvania is not easy on a person .. Well at least where I live in Pa .. The jobs are few and far between .. The only way you get a decent job here in Pa is for someone to pass ....But I'm in a small town and family is what keeps me here. LOL!! Take care and have a nice one...
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| ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Thats the only reason I don't want to leave - my job its great! I hear that the jobs in FL are far and few between so I am scared about how long it will take for me to find a job. Florida will give us family back here in PA his family lives but they aren't close where as in FL my family is very close and he wants that back as much as I do. In fact I think he wants in more then I do. Either way I things are already different and I think things will get even better once back in FL. | |
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| 14. Erilyn (533) | 1 year ago |  I am glad things are looking up for you hun. I am glad that you and yours are going to work things out. Communication is a big part in a relationship and I am glad to hear that you two are able to talk things out and make decisions together for the best resolution for your family. I know how hard it can be sometimes and it sounds like you are doing everything you can to keep your family together. I hope that everything continues to work out for you! Keep your head up and continue the good changes you have made together!
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| ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | The communication in my house has been next to none the past few months I can honestly say that over night it all came back. I left Saturday and came home Sunday to my husband not the man I have been living with for the past few months. It was quite refreshing to have him hug ME and talk to me again. | |
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| Erilyn (533) | 1 year ago | Sorry it took me so long to get back to you on this one. I am really glad for you. Sometimes people just wake up and realize just what it is that they have and realize that they aren't willing to lose what they have. Maybe he came to that point. However it happened, I am very happy for you!! | |
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| 16. howellslj (1089) | 1 year ago |  You're such a sweetheart.
I'm glad things are picking up and he is able to open up for you now. Good luck on getting back to Floria!
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| ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | Thank you and again thanks for the encourgment. | |
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| ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | LOL I don't think I fully understand it! It really does seem like a simple situation - We are happier in FL then we are in PA. Even going on vacation to FL makes us happy. My family is there and they are a lot closer then his family here. He is closer to my family then his own. So I think just having them around will be good. | |
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| sagesunicorn (652) | 1 year ago |  Well after all of the drama that you've gone through I certainly hope that he will finally be happy so that you don't have to jump through hoops for him again for a while...happy moving and again good luck!
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| 18. neelygal (813) | 1 year ago |  I am happy that it seems like the majority of all your struggles are over.I wish you the best in the future.I am hoping that my trip away alone with my husband will save my marriage too.Wish me luck!
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| ebsharer (2474) | 1 year ago | I hope that they stay over at least we will be in FL and things will be easier if he goes back to his ways. I don't see it happening but you never know.
I do wish you luck! Lots and prayers too! | |
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| 19. maddysmommy (10990) | 1 year ago |  That is great news ebsharer and glad that things are working out for you both. He's lucky that you held on tight and never let him go - you're a keeper!
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| 20. msedge (2421) | 1 year ago |  I am glad things are doing well with your marriage.And it is really obvious that you still both love each other and giving your marriage another try is a very good decision for both of you.Good luck and i hope your marriage will last forever.Be happy!
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