Dear WIFE can you QUIT your JOB for our cute little BABY!!!!

This is deep. It's kind of like a catch 22 if you will. What you said is so very true. Mothers would love nothing else but to be there for their babies all the time. My sons are 12 and 13 (i also have an 18 year old but he is big)and I look at them and wish that I could be home for them when they arrive from school. But then when I look at them I see little people who needs my financial support and therefore must do what I have to do. Now if mommy is able to stay home while daddy goes out to work and make sufficient money to take care of baby,mommy, bills, and rent/mortgage than fine however, we are living in times where the economy calls for both mommy and daddy to work because everything is increasing in cost due to the oil crisis.

I wouldn't quit my job eventhough I would want to just yet. A decision like that has to be carefully made. Take care and God Bless!

There is no right or wrong - each mother has to do what she feels is best for both her child and herself. Both of them need to be happy and whichever choice the mother makes, there will be people who disagree with her decision. I have worked in day nurseries and seen that some children are happy, contented and enjoy interacting with other children and a variety of adults. There are others who really dont settle to being away from their mum and, similarly, some mums are more relaxed about leaving their children in the care of others.

Hi karjyo,

The ideal really for me is to quit the job and be with the kids during the formative years of their lives! That is one income will sustain the family! but, if it is necessary for the mother to work, I know also that there are a lot of successful mother who are a full time worker as well as wife and mother..Have to make sure that you have extra energy after work and that the stress from job will stay there time with the kids and there are weekends too!

So, it depends really! in my case, i will discuss it with my partner then out of our discussions,we are going to decide what is best!

5 years!! even the husband earns a lot and rich enough to support, a wife shouldn't be away from society for that long time. no, i don't think so. child care is the responsibility of the couple.

I think that it all depends on the mother really, if they are lucky like I was and can have the choice to stay at home with their babies then it is great but some do not get to have the choice.

Also I guess it depends on whether they want to give their careers up, if I had been in a proper career at the time of having my second child then I probably would not have wanted to give it up especially if I had enjoyed it.

One of my biggest regretst that I have now, is that I ever worked while my boys were young. Those years I can never get back now! I would have been a stay at home mom till the were 18.. if I could go back in time... I think that if you can,PLease stay home with your children.

some couples cannot afford just one salary so in some cases the mother has no other choice but to go on working...i know my mother would have much rather stay home with me than leave me to my granny and aunt, but we would not have made it to the end of the month so she had to make that horrible choice...in a perfect world mothers could stay home with their babies and FATHERS would help TOO...because when they made that baby the father was there too,...what's this thing that only mothers have to care for them? nonsense...everyone takes care of the baby in the couple

It depends - can the woman afford to stay home? I know in my situation I have to work. My husband does get paid pretty good but we have 3 kids and there isn't much of a choice but for both of us to work.

We did things a little different then a lot of people do. We work different shifts so our kids are always with one of us or grandma. And only with grandma for about 3 hours a day (at most).

usually the child is left at care the mothers or fathers parents that is the child's grand parents.and keep in mind that you are not leaving the child forever you just go to work for a mere 8 or odd hours(i don't know in your case).so you will be right back with the child after your work.
we had real family problems so i and my brother were made to go to some babysitters house when we were small some 3 or 4 years old even when our grand parents were pretty much alive.

My opinion is that, in many cases, it takes two incomes in order for a family to survive so the mother has no choice but to go to work. In cases where the mother doesn't need to work but wants to work, I would have to say that I support that, too, because an unhappy mother is less beneficial to a child than a mother who works and is happy. Yes, babies benefit greatly from having mom around full time but everyone's situation is different so I would support any choice a women felt strongly enough about to make.