why Cant We Tell Our Grown Children We Love them?

irish that breaks my heart for you, my mom just a farm woman was so sweet and loving that i grew up thinking all moms were like that, and now I know its far from true. I was one very likely person to have a mom like that. And she quite often did tell me she loved me. It broke my heart when she died of alzenheimers as she did not know me, but she was the best. yes we should start early and never stop.

darn typo I meant I was one very lucky person

Yea...well...I guess some of us have to have the bad mommas. I had my sweet granny for a bit though!

hiprarie style I have told my son that a lot lately and he
aways turns red and gets shy but I think he does like it.

Hi PrarieStyle,
I like your answer and I am not going to say this to try and change you. I just wanted to share something with you. I have three grown children, ages 28, 26, & 25, I tell them I love them all the time. I also tell them that I respect them for the adults that they have become. Yeah, I raised them, but I can now see which things they learned and kept and which things they decided I did wrong, so they choose not to do them. The other thing is I quit years ago telling my kids that I was proud of them. I realized that pride takes responsibility and when they make their own decisions it is their responsibility whether it is a good decision or not. I tell them that I am honored to be their mother or that their behavior or decision or choice has honored me as their mother. I really think it has made a difference in our already good relationship. I agree with you in the fact that we don't, as a whole, tell our grown children often enough when they are doing it right. God bless.
Rev Wendy

hi yes its so hard to say positve things and yet we can sure
pop off with the negatives but we need to really make our grown kids know we mean it from the bottom of our hearts.

hi gardengerty my dad never said it not ever, I bent over backward toplease,got a A why wasnt it an A plus, made best in English why didnt you make best in math, and on and on. He didnt approve of the man I married, he didnt approve of my having two children in 11 months, he didnt approve of the list goes on and on. maybe he neve got approval, my mom did all the approving but my dad did really approve of my first born he would carry my son around and brag to everyone hes my grandson so he did approve of something I did after alol.

My mom was also my best friend. We always told each other "I love ya!".
I can not recall the last time dad told anyone he loved them. Even to mom.
I still tell dad I love him though.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~

hi darkjedi good for you oh when we were teens we rebelled all over the place but suddenly when I was twenty myparents got really wise, wow who would of thunk it lol lol lol

I was more like 25 or so lol, but yeah. Now I wish I had listened to them about different stuff, like credit and a few other things lol.

Oops I lost the ♥

hi redkathy you are so right we never know. in 1991 my husband had a heart attack,he seemed much betterso went from Ici to a private room. I went to see him after work, and as always I told him that I loved him,it seemed right then to be almost imperative.I am so glad I did that as i never got to speak to him again. the next day I was called a noon from work, he was dying of a massive heart attack, come at once. I never got to say good byebut he died knowing that I loved him and that was a solace tome.you just never ever know. things change in a moment. Mymom was a very loving woman and I learned to be loving from her.

Hatley how sad. My husband also had a heart attack but he is fine now. It brought us closer because we know life is precious. You just never know when the last time you will see someone.

hi grandpa bob yes I can remember learning your daughter was minnie, and thinking what a wonderful relationship you two had
as mine with my dad was really bad, and I always felt bad about it but we could never seem to get it mended, He did something to me when I was a kid that was unforgibeable but in his older years he wou ld not apologize but he seemed to mellow more towards me. if I had wanted to I could have turned him in for what he did, but I was only 8 and I did not w ant to hurt my mom. anyway I just wished it cou ld have been different. mymom and I were very close.

hiu scorpio good for you .I was so glad that the day before my hubby died when I left fromthe hospital I told him that I loved him. he had another heart attack the next day and never regained concousiousness. so it is so good to say it often.

bhebie when you get to be twenty you will think your parents are really smart. lol then you should tell them how much you really care. when I w as your age I had a hard time relating with my dad. but it got better as I grew older.

hio barbietre true there is nothing stopping you from telling
your loved ones how much you love them. no matter if you may have had words, you c an still overcome that.