Do you think its right when the Bride makes her wedding party pay...

It depends on the bride...the dress and the cost. With my sister she purchased the dresses for us and they were really nice dresses. I wouldnt have minded paying for those because they were only about 70 dollars from Sears. However when i was supposed to be a bridesmaid for a friend of mine i actually said no after i found out she expected us all to pay 400 dollars for an ugly pink dress. I figured if she expected us to pay for the dresses she could have atleast picked out something a bit more affordable. I even wondered at the option of having the same dress made (found someone to make it and everything) But never had to because she started treating me like i didnt matter (standing me up when making plans then getting mad because i got tired of waiting for her because she didnt bother to let me know she wasnt gonna show...i sat in a food court for 2 hours waiting for her with no phone call) and i ended up telling her i couldnt be the kind oif friend she seemed to expect me to be...one to walk all over and she needed to ask someone else to be her bridesmaid because i wasnt going to do it.

I don't like that idea, though many people do it nowadays. The part I can't figure out is if you have a small budget for your wedding, then why try to have some big fancy wedding that will either put you in debt before your 'I do's" are even out of your mouth or you have to ask everyone to donate their time and money plus give you a gift. I never sponsor or host an event that I could not pay for.

Well let me tell you about my situation. A good friend of mine from high school asked me to be her Matron of Honor for her wedding. (For those of you who don't know, a Matron of Honor is the same thing as your Bridesmaid, except a Matron of Honor is married herself). Anyways, oh she chose this Godawful, ugly, polyester, draped bright blue dress. It was just disgusting! Anyways, she chose this hideous thing for me and bought it for me sight unseen. It was too big for me and I would never wear that thing again as long as I live. Then she presented me with the receipt for it and asked for reimbursement. I was embarrassed and did not know what to do so I gave her the $80 or $100 for it (this was back in the early 1990's). I still to this day do not know why that ugly thing was so much. Anyways, there you have it - my little sad story... I think the bridesmaid is supposed to pay for her dress, isn't she. But I think it is nice for the bride to pick something that is classy looking and that could be worn for something other than a wedding. Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!

It depends. My bridesmaids paid for their dresses at my first wedding, but I found some very elegant matching cocktail dresses from Penneys I think, they were not the traditional 'bridesmaid' dresses. I chose them not only because they were the perfect color, they were only $35 apiece and orderable in the sizes we needed and I know for a fact that my sister wore the dress again when she went to a New Year's Eve party with her husband. I wanted them to be something nice, not something everybody would hide in the closet and roll their eyes about years down the line. I can say that I have never minded purchasing a dress for a wedding party - what I HAVE minded is being asked to SEW A DRESS!!! I can't sew a dress! Not if someone expects me to wear it in front of 200 people! I would say if the dresses are reasonable (less than say $100), I don't think it's farfetched to ask people in the wedding party to pay for them. The groomsmen often have to pay for their tuxes, right? If the dresses are all custom and very expensive, then I might think that the bride and groom have a little responsibility toward helping, especially if they have LOTS of bridesmaids/groomsmen and it becomes an affordability problem for people as in - they can't afford the dress, they can't be part of the wedding. I didn't have a wedding this time around, it's nice to be able to take some of what we would have spent and have a stress free jaunt to pick out rings, a nice quiet dinner and some cuddle time with our daughter. She was 14 months old when we got married lol. We had one friend there as a witness. Marriages CAN be stress free. Weddings? No, NEVER.

Me and my fiance are currently planning are wedding which is set for September of next year and we are not doing a traditional wedding we are doing a cowboy/cowgirl wedding so everyone is going to be wearing western looking shirts,jeans,and boots and we are buying all the attire,and we would not make any of our party buy their own attire,I do not believe it is right for a groom or bride to make their wedding party buy or rent their own attire,because it is not their wedding,now if they volunteer to buy or rent their own attire that is fine,and one of my groomsmen has volunteered to buy his own cowboy boots because he has always wanted a pair and this gives him an excuse to buy them,and my brother is going to be in a friends wedding in December and they were going to make him rent his own tuxedo which he can not afford it right now,but they have decided to do it a little cheaper so my brother is no longer trying to get out of it.

I've done it a few times and wish it would be a lost tradition. It can be overwhelmingly expensive and seems to always come at a time when you are just broke. What makes it even worse, sometimes your spouse will be in the wedding too! Oh gosh what a ton of money for just a few hours... I would much rather give the newlyweds a nicer gift. I wish people could see this for crying out loud!

I think it depends on the wedding and the bride. I personally had my made of honor find a dress she could afford. I remember looking around and finding it for $17.00!!! It was a clearance dress from prom! I going to be in a wedding in April. The dress is about 150 which is expensive but it could be worse. Why do I think that the wedding party should pay because its the least they could do! The bride and groom have enough to pay for! Aside from that your most likely very good friends with the person if you are in there wedding and why not?

well,, where I am from, it is never really the custom to force the entourage to buy the outfit they are wearing. Usually, as long as they fit a general theme (ie all white, retro, all dresses...etc) and the bride will be good with it. Rarely I see the bride force her entourage to buy the same outfit. It is usually the sisters within the entourage that are willing to go out and shop together for the same out fit cos they want to. Not because they have to. Your maid of honor is lucky that she does not need to specially go out to spend some money to get the out fit for helping you out. It makes me wonder, especially after watching 27 dresses where Katherine Hagel (hope I get her name right ) why the bride would insist on getting her entourage to dress up in those nasty looking clothes.

I believe that it's proper etiquette for the bridesmaid to pay for their dresses. But I believe that the bride should bear their budget in mind. As for wearing the dress later: Who would ever do that? "Oh, Betty, where ever did you get that dress?" Betty: "Oh, I wore it in my friend's second wedding in 1995". Not happenin'!