Will You Ever Get......

i was just thinking about that before, there are so many what ifs and one of them is..what is my huby would die?(hope not!!!) will i ever re marry again?? well i really cannot answer it now, because if i would then i would say i would never! but then my huby would tell me i could not say that because if it would happen today, and i am still young then sooner or later i would find someone to make me happy..and i guess he is right but then there is the fear of losing somebody again..and i guess i do not want that to happen.

but as of now, i believe i still do not have that problem and hopefully in the future i wont be having that problem

you are right in saying that i should not judge anybody without being in their shoes first but i feel,be it any age,people do feel the need of companionships,for this reason they may get married.(it not for any other reason!!)

Hi zandi!
I am divorced. It is 16 years since my marriage ended (plus a few more trying to make it work) and since then I have been in other relationships which have ended too, sometimes because I wanted them too and others because of the other person.

I will not be marrying again ever and I am not wanting to be involved again either. I have thrown away too many chunks of my life into what I thought at the time was the story of my life. When I am in a relationship I am not half in but devote myself entirely to it and when it goes wrong and I pick up the pieces I realise that more years have passed. I will not let that happen again. When someone gets too close now I back off and i am aware that I do it too. Life is too short too waste it so I prefer it how it is now.

In these modern times,anything is possible,,its hard to forget the first love if life was going healthy,,After separation,, as u say there is a fear of being devastated again,, but My view is to think positive,, go ahead and start again,, fall in love(CAREFULLY)

As you said during those times that I feel quite so disturbed, you mentioned about time being the factor that can tell if I, or some other people want to get married again. As of now, my concentration is to become better financially, so that what happened may never happen again, if God allows me to get married again. How about you, will you get married again if you meet someone special?

My situation was different, I was widowed, not divorced. I remarried after two years. All the time my first husband was ill, we discussed this. I feel that a widowed person who remarries makes a statement, that married life was good, and life does continue, and it is good to have a partner. The second marriage is not the same as the first. Some is better some is worse, but it is good.

I married my childhood sweetheart whom I met at school at the age of fifteen. We dated for seven years and we married when I was almost twenty two. It lasted four and a half years and when we separated I was devastated; not only because my marriage was over but because I was alone after eleven and a half years with someone. I had no friends to speak of because the people in my life at the time were initially his friends so I found myself having to start over on my own.
I vowed then never to marry again; the hurt and disappointed were so intense

When I met my current partner it took a lot of work on his part to convince me to allow someone to get close.
We've had our ups and many downs because he suffers from bipolar disorder (he was diagnosed on our first wedding anniversary) and there have been times that have been a tad difficult but I'm still here and at this time have no plans to go anywhere but I know that if I was ever single again I would not ever consider bothering with romance again.

It is too easy to lose yourself in a relationship and I must say that is what I managed to avoid the second time around, I am still me as a whole instead of half of a couple.

This is a second marriage for both Hubby and I...we both had very bad first marriages. Although I never wanted to be married more than once, I finally took the plunge with Hubby and it's working out really great. If he should pass away before me, no I won't be getting remarried. I'll just stay a widow and leave it at that.

~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~

**STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**

Way back wehn . I found someone new and it lasted till he passed away as you know.
And Now I say never again will I marry.
One thing I wouldnt get my SS check.
another I just not open for another relationship and I am still pineing.
But thats not to say I dont live a full life!. Yup there is that empty spot adn I dont think anyone could fill it up.

Hi zandi,

Undoubtedly a nice topic if not for me for many others. Practice is harder than theory and the same thing applies on me. I have been married since 2001 and have not had any unwanted situation for all this long and though I can feel the feels of one whop had a break up or unfortunately had a bad relation that ended and is now past. But only those who have been in the shoe know better what the reality is and how it feels like.

May be if any relation that saw fissure and it gradually widened and finally there was gulf and later longing to be together again could occur if the wound was not that heavy but in many cases it is observed that a tiny things create a bush fire and all is burnt and nothing is left to remember.

After all we are human beings and each one is an individual case. What applies on me might not on you and so and so forth.