Is it really OK for my just widowed mom to be on the lookout for love again?

It has been three years and life is going on around her. She needs to be able to find another love and be a part of life again. I have heard that if you really had a marriage the first time around that you are more likely to go out and look for it again. Your Father will always be close to her heart but I am sure she doesn't want to be alone the rest of her life. Please be happy for her because I know if you 2 are close she will need you to understand!

Hi Tamark, welcome to mylot. As far as your mother is concerned, I don't see why it would be a problem for your mother to make herself available again. As you've said it's been three years since you lost your father and the world around your mother has moved on.
My mother was widowed young (she was only 38 years old when my father passed away), it's now been 14 years since my father died. She started dating about three years after my father passed away. She has not remarried and has moved on to a different boyfriend, but I think it is what makes her happy.
Just because your mother has been widowed does not have to mean that life for her has ended. Be happy for her and be supportive of the decisions that she makes.

Truthfully people aren't meant to be alone.....she should be out looking for someone but she also needs to be careful.....so that she doesn't fall for someone who will just use her! But there's nothing wrong with finding someone later in life....love is meant to be shared!

I don't find it odd that your mom would be looking for some companionship after three years. But, if it is bothering you, just talk to her about it. After being married for so many years, your life gets so wrapped around that one person and your children that when that one person is gone, it's a very lonely place. Now that her grief has eases she may be looking to fill a part of that void that your father left when he died. But, you need to be honest and voice your thoughts and concerns. Just remember to be supportive.

Hi tamark. Let your mother search for her love
if she feels that she needs someone special to be
with her. Considering that she is already that old
it would be better if she does things that would make
her happy for her remaining years. I understand
very well that you are worried about her getting hurt
but you can assure her that you will always be there
for her.

It is better to talk about this with your mom, that way
she will always be open to you about her relationship.
Thus, you can always still protect her from getting
hurt by sharing each other's views on relationships and
always being there when she needs you.

I sincerely wish her all the best and lots of love and
happiness.

I am sure she is lonley and hurting. Many people do this. She is probably just looking for someone to help take her mind off of what has happened. If she is ok with doing this, you should be too!

I'm going to have to agree with alot of others on this subject. I feel like your mother really does need to find someone else. You say you love your mother, therefore let your mother love again. Your father is gone. Nothing can change that. That dont mean she needs to live alone for these further years. Let her move on, she needs love too...

Hello Tamark,


There is nothing wrong with wanting a partner in life after loosing another. My mother is 58 years old right now and I lost my dad (her husband) 6 years ago. I want her to find someone. I am 36 years old and if I was to get married, she would really feel alone, since we are so close and go everywhere and do everything together.
It's not good to be alone in life, even at 70. Just be there for her and try to understand where she is coming from. She probably feels alone, after having someone next to her for so long.

Have a wonderful and blessed weekend my friend
Happy MyLotting
Olivia~

I do feel that it is okay for her to find love again as three years has passed since her husband and your father died. I think that he would want her to find someone to make her happy and look after her and love her. He would not want her to be lonely. Some people choose not to find love again after losing their spouse and some do search for love again after some time has passed. That is great that you love your mom so much and care about her and do not want her to get hurt.

Hi tamark,
Be happy that your mom wants to keep on living.
Some people are so depressed that they just
give up hope. She has waited a long time for her
to find love again. I hope that she will be able to find
love again. Love isn't something that happens to us
very often. I am sorry to hear about your father.
I am sure that he would want her to be happy too.