Mom was so funny today!

mom is only 83 and I WISH she were as lucid and able as you are. The fact is that she's really gone down hill and getting her to say hi to my sister on the phone is often a chore, so getting such a clear statement out of her was a thrill (picking me up off the floor) and yet not knowing where she was - at least she wasn't trying to tell me was was in Jail in San Marcos again....

I sometimes wish mom had gone like her mother, in a single, massive stroke, rather than suffering from the effects of all these small ones.

hi Again some of the people here have had strokes but still'
maintained a lot of their memory which really helps.the thing I hate here it that so many stick their moms in here and that is that. they arent like you and your family that care so much and are always there for your mom. my son comes to see me every Wed and we have a grand visit.I am only here because we were evicted from our apartment after my son lost his job and the two of us were homeless. my son because of my age and my bad leg and the diabetes did not want me to be having to scrounge all day looking for lodgings for homeless so he hAd me move in here and the gov.has paid for him to stay in an apartment with three other young men all of whom are looking for work. as soon as he gets a job and accumulates money he willmove me back in with him. but it will take time. God bless you an d your Mom

Oh! I hope its soon! I did wonder why you were in there since you OBVIOUSLY are of sound mind and reasonably sound body

Yeah, this is a pretty good place, but there are some who are "warehoused" even there.

One lady who I grew up down the street from is there, she has an aide that she (or her kids) hired before she even moved into the Manor, and the lady is still with her - she thinks it amusing that I can talk about what the lady did when I was a child. This lady, by the way, is the VERY first adult I ever called by their first name because that's the way she wanted it.

I get some serious laughs myself, that's why I love this place!

well, I'm planning to die in a single massive stroke like my grandmother - you know about plans - right? The fact is that mom has stroke related dementia, most of the time she just sits and smiles, so to get such a clear retort just blew me away!

I am so sorry - you seem to have mistaken what I was trying to say and obviously I did not explain myself clearly.

I live in the third World now but have lived in the U.K. where I was born and lived the for the fist 22 years of my life.

I have seen in both countries that people with Alzheimer's or people with disabilities that have to live in a home being abused in the most dreadful way. And from what I have seen on TV this als happens in the USA.

I am so sad for these people as they are open to abuse and it makes me so unhappy as they are dependent on the carer's that employed. and many of them are just downright mean. I pray to God that I do not end up like this or anyone else for that matter. I hope that this makes it clear to you. I was not being unkind. Blessings

I've seen those places even here, but if the family, or the residents, or even other staffers have a problem with an aide treating residents, they get corrected and I've even seen a few fired.

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I know what u are saying. My aunt was like that for years & it so sad to see them that way, breaks your heart. I am glad you have siblings to help u out. I just can't understand why people have to get in such pitaful shape. Have a good day, Elic.

mom is 83 as a matter of fact, hopefully he won't be as disabled as mom, after all, one lady in the manor is 100 and still driving!

Mom's friend, Lou, is about 90 and still driving.

Fact is, a number of mom's friends live here, some doing well, but one has basically been given a final timeline (months not years), but we'll see.

I guess you have to know my mom - this is not something she'd EVER have said before.

They say dementia bring out your true personality, well, all the staff love mom because she's still sweet and pleasant...

at least my sister recognized it was funny - mom is now showing her true side, and its still wonderful!

I'm glad you're Mom is sweet and that you both love her as well as the staff. Some people are precious and some situations, you just have to be there!

Guess it was because my brother had just called and told me he needed me to get him somewhere by 5:30Am and that would have meant me getting out of bed by 4:30AM with my stuffed up head, so I guess too close to home, I told him to go take a taxi. He did. Thankfully, cost him $20, but he did it.

I've meowed and had the cats looking for the strange cat in the past, but now they just look at me in disgust... I also once fooled a horse by neighing - I'm probably not as good as Ayla from the Clan of the Cave Bear books, but I'm pretty good at some animals...

I told you this story...

Aaaannnd...your point is??

Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"

before I started back to work and mom was in the health care center, I was going over to the manor to help her take a shower, fix her breakfast and lunch and generally keep her company - I got a lot of beading done...

after I started working she once told me that I was spending too much time with my client (who is also a long time friend of mine), I told her that I was only there for the hours they paid me to be there.

I think she understands since I stay "I have to go to work" that I do have to leave, I think she might have a problem if I mentioned my client's name - just one of those little things

I really think she must not recall who I am. I know she hasn't a single spiteful, mean bone in her body, so when you say "my client," my guess is she's not sure why it's important for you to leave. Maybe she's feeling a bit lonely. Poor "McMom." How I miss her younger, vibrant self. It has to be very difficult for you, dealing with her slow deterioration. I admire you so much, "Elic," for your stalwart patience with her. With me, too, for that matter. You surely have your hands full!

Maggiepie
"WHERE'S THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE?"

it was a surprise - and I know what you mean about turning mean, when she was there in the summer of 06, the lady she was with was surly and nearly nasty - the family finally had to get her a room alone

then the roommate she had until early summer had lost so much ground that while she's not nasty all the time, she wouldn't want to get dressed unless her daughter was telling her she had to. she was combative to the aides, and it upset my mom when she did it - so her daughter had to get her a room of her own and a sitter