do you want to change for your lover?

It depends on what he wants me to change. Normally I wouldn't change things about myself but if a guy tells me I am not considerate enough or whatever I would try to change that. I have tried to be less emotional or sensitive but that is part of who I am. It's a little hard to change.

Can't say I agree with most of you here. I say this being a male. If a relationship isn't working, it isn't working. There's no need to degrade the person your with. If your not happy, just end it. Most problems aren't one sided. If you feel the need to tell the person your with that their, "too lazy" or "too fat" or whatever, you obviously have your own set of issues.

Long story short: Nothing wrong with minor changes (quitting smoking, cutting your hair, etc.) but when it comes to insulting your partner I just don't understand why anyone would put up with that.

We, meaning my bf and me, have had this talk MANY times. There are things that he made me change about myself, but there is TWO big things I asked him to change for me. One, to stop watching naughty sites 24/7 and the second to stop wanting to be around the girl he almost left me for. I feel that If he loves me the way he claims, my feelings should be important. Not only does those girls on those "naughty" sites make me feel small and ugly, but he looks at them and somethings jokes that I should be like them. Then he mentions that girl and wonders how she would be. He claims he wants to marry me, but idk when this is what I go thru.

yeah.........i would like to do any thing for my lover..........;D

thank you

Yes angeliam, I changed a lot for my lover. I had a habit of drinking alcohols and smoking cigars. But after i got her love, i intend to leave that habits. I don't know why but i like to change myself. Maybe its due to impress my lover that i'm really genuine and good personality and I don't have any bad habits. So now and then, i'm like this. Ofcourse some little compromise only leads our life. Great..!!

i would change for my lover before,but now i wouldn't,because i always hope become so perfect for my lover,finally i still lost him,because we have a lot of difference on the personalities,so i think perfect match should have a lot in common,don't make a change deliberately?

Hi angeliam, emphatically not, and I don't want him to change for me either, or we would just be playing false. I knew mine as a friend for a while before hand and I liked him as he was, and is. He has a bad habit of not liking to speak on the phone much but that's ingrained as associated too much with work, but that's just a habit overdue for a bit of shaking up as he well knows, it doesn't involve actually changing him.

Yes,I really want to makea change for my lover,but that seems really difficult.I am lazy as you,and I am also not a good girl,I can't cook,I can't do housework,I am also always make him feel angry.I have made up my mind to change myself again and again,but I am fail again and again.
So at last,he change himself,he have learnt how to cook (he does housework well),and learn not to be angry when I do someting wrong.