Move or stay? What should I do?:(

Thank you:)

Great advice! That's what I told my fiance, I was like, "My grandparents are getting old and what if something happens and I'm all the way up in New York?!" I would be a mess. Getting a job would be the hardest part these days, especially in the part of New York they live. Huntsville Alabama is rated number one to survive the economy, so I'm thinking stay here is way smarter.:D

Is it easy to break the engagement and will it not be a problem for her in the future?How can she remain with her family,if she is going to get married?I think,she can move to Newyork and can come back whenever she wishes to meet her family members.That will be a good advise.Cheers!

Thanks for your comment! Moving up to New York and coming back to visit when I need to would definitely work out.

Thank you, Tom. I appreciate your advice.:)

Wow, what a great comment!:) The date is actually set for May 30, 2010. See, I went through/am still going through a situation kind of like what you went through. I lost my very best friend in a car accident in August of 08. A lot of things went downhill for me when that happened. I had just started my senior year in high school, and after the wreck happened, I had no motivation for anything anymore. I didn't ever want to go to school, I didn't care about anything at all. I eventually got unenrolled 6 weeks before graduation because I missed too many days of school. Things have started looking up and I'm a lot better than I once was. My fiance also mentioned just moving somewhere completely different, not Alabama or New York. I just told him I needed some time to think about it all. It's not a decision to just jump into anyways.:) Thank you so much!

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. That's sad. My daughter has a friend that goes to a different school that just had something similar happen. It's very sad. My daughter is 16. That's very young to lose a life. I don't know how you got through that. You are very strong. My daughter's friend still has nightmares about her classmate. It really puts a damper on the fun times you are supposed to be having while in high school.

I know things will work out with you and your fiance. It makes a little bit more since now that I know you guys are in your early 20's or so. I can see where moving with his mom might be something he'd want to do. But he has to remember that he does have you to think about now too. You will be family soon too and he shouldn't forget that.

Let us know if you move or not!

I'm so sorry to hear about that. I know exactly what she is going through and it isn't easy at all. I was only 17 when I lost my best friend, and he had just turned 16. He didn't even get his first car. It's so sad.

Thank you so much for your input, it means a lot!
And I sure will let you know if we make the move or not!:)

Ah, one comment that gives me hope it will be okay.:) That's exactly what my fiance told me, "You know if something happened in Alabama, we'd be there in a heart beat." I have no worries I could get here if something happened, it would just kill me if something did happen and I wasn't around. I guess you have to grow up sometime.:) I think a move would be a good change for me, but who knows? Thanks for your comment!

Thank you, Michael. My fiance knows how I feel about it and he says the decision is completely up to me. Thank you for your post!

glad to hear that! Thanks for adding me:)

Thank you very much! And you're welcome. Always looking for new friends on here.:)

His sister in law has a job for me if I move up there, but I haven't decided if I want to or not.

Thank you so much for your comment!:) I know, the sound of moving to NY sounds so great doesn't it?! I really would love to move away and start my life with my fiance and open up to many more possibilities. I know it will take effort to get to where I want, but I think I'd be happy.:)

Thank you for your advice, freewriter. Happiness is definitely the key to a long, successful marriage. That is my number one goal in life- to be happy. I'm sure my fiance and I will come to a mutual decision and be happy wherever that may be.:)

Thank you, LadyMarissa! I'm very sorry to hear about your experience moving. Alabama to New York IS a very long way to go and I am going to do some major soul searching to figure out what it is I think will be best for me in the longrun. I would like a fresh start or to just start over because I lost my bestfriend in a car accident in August of 08. Since then, things have really went downhill for me. The only thing good that has happened since then was meeting my fiance. It's been a hard year to get through, and going somewhere new sounds really good to me at times.

Oh Honey, I'm sorry for your loss. Grief is something that takes time. Moving away probably won't leave that grief behind. It's something that sticks with you forever. However it does lessen over time. I'm getting the feeling that you've already made up your mind & I don't think anything I say will change it. I moved from Georgia to Washington DC. I thought I had the world by the tail. At the time I really didn't think of my family. I thought I could just visit home any time I wanted to. Once I moved I didn't have the money to return home often. On a good year it was twice a year. My parents resented the control my husband had over me & he wasn't welcomed in their home & he resented their love for me & didn't want me to visit. Being forced to choose between your husband & parents is not a good place to be. By the time I returned home, I had missed 25 years with my family. My grandparents both died not long after I returned home so that 25 years was time I lost with them. Time that should have been cherished!!! I could go on & on for hours with reasons NOT to go. I think deep inside you know them ALL. Love is a good reason to go though. Since there is NO way for you to see into the future, there is no way for you to clearly see what you should do. My hindsight is 20/20. My foresight sucked!!! I don't want to think I kept my mouth shut & just blindly let someone else make the same mistake I did!!! Good luck no matter what you decide to do. Just remember we ALL are responsible for the choices we make. A wrong choice stays with us for life!!!

Thanks so much daliaj! I agree with you, completely! Making the move is a huge decision, but I believe it is a great opportunity for me and my fiance wanting to start our new lives together. From Alabama to New York is about a 14 hour drive. We actually made the drive a couple months back, and it wasn't half as bad as I expected. And you are most definitely right, we do live in the 21st century now. We have plenty of ways to keep in touch with each other, no matter the distance. For instance, I'm talking to you all the way in the US and you're in India.:) I wish you the best of luck on your move!