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myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)3 months ago

I have a friend whom I meet online and I feel uncomfortable with him because he is too demanding to meet me in person but I never trust him. We chatted before for sometimes online and we have shared ideas but now I don't hesitate to chat with him because he want me to meet me in person. I told him I can't entertain him anymore because I have a boyfriend but still he insisted to meet me but I always ignored him..

Did I make a right move? I don't want to offend him but I don't want him to expect for him to stop.

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 97/100. amyson (772)   3 months ago

well,i advice you to ignore him anyway dont chat him if you dont have intention to have him interest on you.yes, just make sure that you are not interested to him so not communicating is one way to ignore the person that are very annoying.


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

I never chatted with him and every time I am online on yahoo messenger.He always buzz me and told me that I am so mean. That's why I just keep my yahoo messenger invisible when I saw him online.I am really so mean?

Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.

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2. myLot reputation of 91/100. manong05 (2930)   3 months ago

Meeting people in person is always exciting specially when there are no ulterior motives and purely for frienship and acquaintance. Since you are uncomfortable and don't trust the person, these are signals enough not to meet the him, if you don't want to offend him, you may want to continue communicating online until the interaction dies a natural death. Chances are he will stop to communicate anyway, sooner of later. Personally, I have met online friends in person and we had a good time sharing experiences and laughter.

enjoy life irene!


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

Honestly, I can't meet him in person because I have a boyfriend and he don't want me to meet someone online. I have shared some thoughts with him but it ends there.Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.

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3. myLot reputation of 77/100. mesuaky (261)   3 months ago

If you don't want to met him or chat with him anymore you can alway make yourself in permanent stealth mode to him so you don't need to go invisible to everyone even to your friends. or blocked him out. if you don't know how to permanent stealth him its easy. point your cursor to his ym id right click there is an option there to permanent stealth mode click it and its done. you can go online available to everyone else except him.


myLot reputation of 77/100. mesuaky (261)  3 months ago

oh and by the way yes you did the right move, be loyal to your partner.


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

Really? Thanks and I will follow your suggestion. I think it's better that way.

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4. myLot reputation of 92/100. dpk262006 (9122)   3 months ago

Hi dear!
If you are still talking (chatting) him it means that you want to continue the friendship. I think there is nothing wrong in meeting with him, if you meet him, you will come to know more about him and then you can decide whether he is worthy of your friendship or not. All the best.


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

I can't afford to meet him because I have my boyfriend already and I respect my boyfriend. And also I don't trust the guy online to meet-up because he is too eager to meet me in person even though I ignore him.


myLot reputation of 92/100. dpk262006 (9122)  3 months ago

Then tell him clearly and boldly that it is not possible to see him in person.


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

I've told him about it but he keep insisting to see me. He told me that he knows where I am working and he might visit me in office. That is what I am afraid of.I told him in the end that I don't want to meet him because I don't like him which makes me rude.


myLot reputation of 92/100. dpk262006 (9122)  3 months ago

Hi!
Please do not feel afraid of him, even if he visits your office, he just cannot see you without your permission or your willingness, you can inform the 'reception' people/Security Guard in your office that if any stranger, who asks for you, may not be entertained and allowed. You can again tell him that he should stop pursuing/following you and should not try to meet you, without your permission otherwise, you will report the matter to Police etc. (you may not actually report the matter to police, this is just to threaten him).

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5. myLot reputation of 96/100. kevchua (756)   3 months ago

Hi Irene. You have a choice - don't talk to him (ignore) anymore, or continue chatting online but leave whenever you like without feeling obligated to respond. Some people just don't know how to respect the wishes of others.

So far, yes, you've done the right thing.


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

I did it already and he still insist. Anyway, thanks and I appreciate your response.

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6. myLot reputation of 99/100. voldrox (1539)   3 months ago

Hi irene

Well it depends, you are feeling uncomfortable means he is expecting too much out of you i guess, then you plainly tell him you don't want to meet him, if he agrees happily then you can continue chatting with him but if he still insists even upon your hesitation then it doesn't look like a good sign, you will have to ignore him... hope he just wants to be friends with you, and if that is the case he will respect your disagreement and chat as usual...

have a nice day irene!cool


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

I agree with you. I am not comfortable to meet him in person because he is expecting more than a friend though he knows already that I have a boyfriend. I keep ignoring him until he get tired.


myLot reputation of 99/100. voldrox (1539)  3 months ago

well then you are so sure about it then you should probably ignore him and he will understand and wont disturb you then...

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7. myLot reputation of 90/100. Craicha (720)   3 months ago

then stop chat with him and if you dont like to meet him in person then dont....just simple as that..ignored him if you dnt feel comfy and dnt like him and you said you had BF, why your chatting to others does your Bf knows about it...


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

I have been said that I'm not chatting with him anymore since then that he insist to meet me in person. I have respected him an online friend but he goes beyond. I never chat with him but every time I go online, he always buzz me and say anything so I keep it invisible.

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8. myLot reputation of 94/100. Lucky09 (766)   3 months ago

hi Irene^^;;
i think you'd done the right decision not to meet him especially that u have a partner. anyway, try to explain to him again in a nice way that u cannot just meet him like that because your bf will not allow and u don't like to be sneaking behind his back. if he still persist, you'd rather delete him as one of your buddy rather than always to be in invisible mode. that way, he cannot bother you any longer. thumbup
have a nice dayhappy


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

Thanks.I did explain to him that I have a boyfriend and it is not appropriate that I am going to meet someone but he don't understand. I don't want to be mean but I think it's one way to ignore him and stop.

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9. myLot reputation of 30/100. shilley (148)   3 months ago

Hi,you are right as you have decided not to meet him in person,but i feel you should have also avoided chatting with him online.Hope atleast from now onwards you stop chatting with him.I feel it is not safe to chat with a stranger online.Many a times we fail to recognise the true colour of a person whom we will be knowing from years,only in certain situations their true colour comes out and most of them will be so clever,that they keep us in dark for a long time.So think twice before any decision,think if you really want to continue friendship with that stranger online.


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

Thanks and yes I did stop chatting with him that makes him call me rude. Every time I am online, he always buzz me and send many messages which keeps me invisible every time I log in. Anyway, I appreciate your response.

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10. myLot reputation of 93/100. 23uday (2353)   3 months ago

hi
meet that online friend if you trust him and just do what your heart says and just blindly dont meet him,we can never know how that person might be in real.and if you are compelled to meet him,then go along with your boyfriend.first make sure how good he is and then meet him or just you ignore him and you wont have any headache because of him.
have a great timehappy


myLot reputation of 41/100. rajka970 (159)  3 months ago

so if u have really boy riend so avoid him


moonbabydragonfly (3)  3 months ago

If he's pushing you into meeting, it's probably not a good idea. You should feel comfortable meeting someone new, especially if it's someone you met online! You never really can tell about people these days without a background check (even though you may want to trust him).
As long as you're being honest with him he should respect that. Stand up for yourself and let him know that he can't bully you, and if he doesn't like it then you won't chat him anymore.


myLot reputation of 91/100. irene3184 (669)  3 months ago

I agree with you guys that I should never meet him if it against to my will. I will ignore him and I don't care if he will call me rude because I've tried to explain to him about to meet him but he don't understand. Thanks and I appreciate your response.

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