Just Because You're Pregnant...

Yes! I totally agree with you! Its just that some people, the only solution they can think of is marriage.. Usually the parents of the girl who dictates these just to avoid issues and scandals... Another thing also that breaks my heart, is that the marriage usually not last...

Married or not, the guy being the father is still responsible for the baby and be ready to support the baby with his needs.

Love, respect and maturity are vital ingredients in marrying your partner. I agree with you if love is not present and it's only lust or accident that made one pregnant-- not a good reason to marry.

Wow! Congratulations! It seems that you're pretty excited with the new baby. Well, as I read your comment it shows that your responsible father... Again, Congratulations and Best Wishes...

Congratulations in advance soon to be father and advance best wishes and congratulations for your 2011 wedding. I can feel your excitement to see your baby and to be a father and i guess to be a responsible and loving husband to your soon to be wife.

Thanks guys. Its kinda busy now since it's already fast approaching. I'm just excited and happy.

Let me just add LOVE... all these will not matter if the two of you don't love each other. And marrying mere out of responsibility only might not work out, don't you think???....

I am glad that you and your hubby made it through... How long hav you been married by the way???

Yes LOVE is the main reason for getting married. I am happy too to hear your story and know that you're getting along well with your husband. More babies to come and years of being truly in love with each other!

Oh,yes. Love should be No.1 reason. I love my husband very much. Ilove my baby too.

I have a horrible mom too. She is also strick regarding this matter, because I shouldn't be involve in this kind of practice in the first place. I don't think its her right, as your mom, to dictate things for you. Its your life... What if the marriage won't work, who are you to blame?? Just because your mom said so?

I think, you should weigh things and see before marrying the father of your baby: is he mature enough?; is he willing to accept the responsibility?; does he love you?... before you jump to a decision of marrying that person.. don' you think??

Lucky for us we have boyfriends who are responsible enough to be fathers of our babies and loves us dearly. I still believe that the two of you should be emotionally secured for each other before getting married. Because jumping to have a family really is tough, so atleast you still have love for each other where you can get your willingness from.

yup, that's true... Both must be not only financially ready, but emotionally as well.. marriage is not a walk in the park, we all know it.. that's why getting married is a serious thing. Plus, it's hard to get an annulment here in our country, so better think over it a hundred times before saying I do.

Yes, I totally agree that having a baby ahead of time should not be the only reason why the two of you are getting married. You should be responsible enough on how to handle family matters.

We decided to get married first and have some time for ourselves before having a baby. After three months of being married, i got pregnant and we celebrated our first year wedding anniversary in the hospital. After three days i gave birth for our first baby.

Hehe... We're planning to get marry too, May next year. And we already talk about kids (as in this early, lols!), and we planned to have a baby the following year. But if given sooner than we expect, then so shall be it...

It is timely to talk about the family size that you and your soon to be husband want to build, so that you can also consider birth spacing and ways to do prevent untimed pregnancy. I am happy that you are really taking all the time to be as detailed as you can be with your wedding plans. Congratulations and best wishes in advance.

For the meantime enjoy life being single. Stay sweet and loving!

and also its depend our parents, sometimes our parents make a decision for us,when they knew that your pregnant and they see that your boyfriend has no vertebrae, they will tell you that dont get married just because your pregnant.

Yes I agree with the part that the parents get into picture if they see their daughter's boyfriend no capacity or not responsible enough for their daughter. Or if their daughter is too young to get married...

I'm sorry but I have to disagree with your comment. I'm not comfortable with the idea that you two are married because of the baby... Yes, the child may grow in a different environment because he/she has a disfunctional family. But marriage is not the solution and it has no guarantee that a child will grow happily. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and commitments needs a lot of stabilities to make it last, such as physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually. If one of these is absent, then the marriage might not work.

Yes, I'd probably do the same thing... If we're really having plans to get hitch but the baby went soon before the wedding day, then we'll move the wedding date before the baby is born.

But regarding the statistics that you mentioned above, that I'm not sure... I know some who wish to keep their children but never want to get married for the reasons either their too young or the father of their child is married to other woman... tsk!