Hard Times

There's a bedroom already finsihed. That's where he lived preciously. The other room is adjacent to his room. So a different room altogether. He is paying $50 a week if he helps around the house and $75 a week if he works and doesn't help with household chores. He has it made as this includes washing machine and dryer use free of charge as well as food free. I can only imagine your nephews feelings being out of work for a year etc. It's rough out there that's for sure. Glad I take care of dad and he pays me.
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Well, good luck.
Hope it doesn't come to a move for you all.
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It's always smart business to do the right thing by our kids. You never know if or when the tables might be turned and they are needed to return the favor. Besides, families should support and take care of each other. Isn't that what love is all about?

Oh gosh catdla1! Try telling my two lovely brothers that!! HA HA HA HA!! Here I am down here all alone caring for my parents and not once have my brothers helped or even offered!! My husband and I do it all by ourselves and it's not easy. Yes I've asked for help a number of times and got into it with both brothers! The oldest called a couple of days later and apologized while my middle brother and I don't speak at all. But I've found out that it's because of secrecy. Mom isn't telling them anything and when I told my brothers something, they'd call our parents to "verify" what I said is true and mom and dad would deny it. I'm at a loss at what to do now except to carry on the best we can and have been and do what we can when we can.

He's my kid, I can't leave him in the streets.
Not yet anyhow.
He is not the greatest chikld but he has his bad days.
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That's rough, Cats. Another reason to be good to your kids... they're the ones who'll choose your nursing home.

Yes it is very rough Barbara. It's been hell for the majority of the last year and a half but we're still doing what we can. Hubby and I can't have any kids so we do wonder what's going to happen to us in our old age. Hopefully we'll win the lottery so we can hire someone to care for us! LMBO!!

Cats, you and your husband are doing a wonderful thing for your parents. I helped my mother care for my dad when he had late stage cancer, and 18 years later did it for my mother too. My brother (there are only 2 of us) lived 2 towns away and hardly ever even bothered to visit let alone helping out. There were days when I didn't feel like I could put one foot in front of the other. But I go through it, and I know that mom appreciated it...as I'm sure your folks do too. Someday when they aren't here, you will have the peace of mind because you did the right thing, your brothers will have regrets because they wouldn't listen. That will be their cross to bear. Now that my folks are both gone, there isn't a day that I wish for some of those days back...even the ones that seemed the toughest at the time.

I agree catdla1, and is another reason I've tried to get my brothers to come down to help. I didn't and still don't want them to live with regrets but they won't listen so that's for them to deal with but for them to not help out is another issue. It's not fair for hubby and I to have to do it all alone. We have a life to live too. Not saying that we mind helping, not at all but help would be oh so nice. I don't think we're asking for much. Knowing they live 4 and 5 hours away, all we ask is for them to come down every 4 to 6 weeks, spend a couple to a few hours helping with what's needed and go back home for another 4 to 6 weeks. That's it! Instead, they come down when they feel like it and visit with them, take them out to dinner and go home. It's like, gee thanks for the help! What about us? What about mom and dad's NEEDS? They don't seem to care. But yeah, you're right, the guilt when they pass is on them, NOT US.

My son has no real skills.
He works at a gas station/convience store part time is all.
He tends to be like me, very unstable as far as work and work history.
So I bear with it. It is great to have him here though.
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Just because he has no real skills now, doesn't mean he can't learn any. It's only 2 or 3 courses to get certified to be a security guard, which immediately pays better than pumping gas and working in a convenience store. He's living very inexpensively right now, so there isn't a good reason why he can't explore other options while he's keeping the job he currently has, unless he just won't do it. Even grounds maintenance pays well, depending on where you work. Does he have your green thumb?

Hi Jillhill: these are some hard times, but it's nice to know that we can find support from our families no matter if the years have past. Hope everybody is feeling fine while your daughter stay in your house.

IT'S ILLEGAL TO KICK OUT A 10 YEAR OLD?
Oh man!!!!


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Nope there was plenty notice given.
We knew he'd be moving in over a month ago.
We just did not know the exact date.
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