Why beat a child?

Why should we beat a child?

we shouldnt beat our children! EVER...spankings are one thing and if its with good reason then yes as far as I'm concerned a swift rap on the behind is a good thing..but BEATING your child?! oh hell no!!

Do you think if someone beats his children it improves the kid's behaviour?

No...BEATING your child will make not only their behaviour as a child worse but its also setting the tone/stage for the rest of their lives IMO..they will most likely grow up to be abusive adults to their children, partners and anyone who crosses them

Well, for one thing, the slapping in front of everybody doesn't work. She was humiliating him in front of other kids thus causing ill-effects on the child's self-esteem.

But I do agree with slapping or hitting (as long as he knows why he was punished). You see, ever since a lot of child's rights have been pushed to the limit, parents have stopped disciplining their kids (well they do try but words are not enough), children have become aware of the rules and they're more out of control than the kids of yesterday.

I think there's something good that would come out with punishment. I mean, we were punished when we repeatedly did something wrong and when we were naughty way back when we were young. We were beaten up but not to the extent of almost killing us. It was a slap on the behind or the hands, that's all.

I do appreciate how we were disciplined because it shows us parents should be respected. Who ever respected their parents or listened to them if all they can do is try talking to you or screaming at you?

Hi Sagnik,

Beating the child is not do anything and also it is totally
useless habits to beat a kids in front of the other peoples in the
school. Most of the mother would like to have their kids good in study
and also they are thinking that the son or daughter would gets lots of
marks all the times, but unfortunately some times it is not possible to
manage and also we would give them more supports to have the faith and
confidence with the kids. So the mother or parents would have the
responsibility to do more on their kids in order to make them to study
well and also would supports in all the matters in the life.

Have a wonderful day.

If the _only_ way she can get the kid under the control is with violence then she's already loosing control. Where can she go to next?

I don't remember my parents hitting me more than a few times when I was growing up - and that was after I had been warned already. They didn't need to but I always knew it was an option if I was really naughty.

My mom is a firm believer of the adage ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’…in other words, she beat me whenever she wanted to control me and keeping me in control was to her, the epitome of parental success. However, from my own growing up experience, I know that it did no good except for the fact that it scared me and made me hide things from her.
Beating is a no-no with me…especially in front of others its very humiliating to a child, though as adults we may not want to admit it. It scars the child, makes the child scared and low in self-confidence. However, there are times when the child crosses the limit of acceptance or does something very very bad and in such cases, as an exceptional punishment, the child can be beaten but of course in the privacy of the home.

In my opinion, giving sentence to the child, by beating, is the wrong action. I was not married, and of course, not having children. But I promise not to do such acts, for any reason. I agree, if the action hit the child, can have an impact on their habits, when they were grown. Perhaps there are many better ways to educate the children, without doing violence to them.

I think most parents use the tools they were taught as a child. This does not make beating a child an acceptable behavior, but it may be the only tool this parent knows. The key is to educate and break the cycle of abuse. Teach them parenting skills that do not include beating a child.

I think it is also important to define beating. Is a slap on the face or hands beating? I am not certain that I would define it that way. I am not saying it is acceptable, but the issue is bigger than it looks at first glance.

I grew up with being slapped around. At that time kids were not suppose to talk when adults were around. Any time I opened my mouth, which was a lot, I got smacked upside the head. Hard enough I might add to knock me right off my feet.

Kid's don't become better they just become sneakier.

If I saw a mother slap a child I think I would walk right up to her and smack her the same way. The only thing is that people like that would just take it out on the kid when they got home.

Hi Sagnik42,

I think it's terrible for anyone to beat a child. I feel so sorry for that little boy, years ago I saw a women beating her child with a belt in the backseat of her car. This happend in the school parking lot, the child was screaming and she was ranting about how she would teach him a lesson he would never forget. I instantly went inside the school and reported what was going on outside. The school told me the child and his mother had just left the principals office. The child had apparently stolen a bologna sandwhich from a teachers lunch box. This kind of thing just sickens me to no end. I know stealing is wrong but, my goodness if a child is stealing food I would assume he must be starving.

OMG NO she did not, in this day & age?? Are you SERIOUS???? I am an adult survivor of childhood abuse.. I was beat on a daily schedule..by my 'dad'{really just a sperm donor} I was beat from the time i was tiny till i reached 16 yrs old & left home to live on my own...All the beatings do to you is this: you do NOT trust anyone..period...you cannot love anyone, as you do NOT know what love is...low self esteem, if any at all...self conscious of everything you say & do....can't stay in a relationship, as you always expect the worse to happen to you all of hte time... I could go on & on, BUT I think you get the idea here.. IT DOES ABSOLUTLY NO GOOD TO HIT A CHILD......from someone who knows this for a fact....lori