Do you have a habit of saying "It's okay" even though you know it's not?

I guess you're right about that. Maybe somehow we just want to avoid making things more complicated than it already is.

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It just shows that you are mature in accepting apologies. However, be cautious because sometimes the unsettled feeling may just burst up at the right situation and all the record of wrongs will be released. There are people whose responses to situations are delayed. They realize that they are hurt intensely only after they have forgiven the other person. Problem is, the burden is still in the heart. I am saying that because I know I have the tendency to be like that.

The advantage of saying "It's okay" may lead people of understanding you as a very forgiving person.
The disadvantage is that it may not be the most honest answer you'll ever make, which makes you a liar. HAHA!

Well, I'm like that sometimes too. When I'm so mad or upset that I couldn't control myself. I usually just say it straight that it's not okay but there's nothing we can do about it. What's done is done, so he just makes it up to me.

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And yes, sometimes I express myself too. If I don't, I'll burst. But it only happens when I feel really really bad. Sometimes I cry without me noticing it. I can be such a baby sometimes. But yeah...it helps to say what you really feel. Although there are times that they could be sensitive enough to see that we're not really okay.

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yes true, but on my part, as long as i can keep it, i try keeping it...hehe
but not to the point that i will be bursting for anger...
i can control my emotions and sometimes i just write my feelings down...that way, it helps me release the burden im carrying in my heart...

its good if they notice what we really feel...anyway, action speaks louder than words most of the time, & i think for people who knew us, it will be easy for them to see what we really feel...

It's good that you are very honest when it comes to your feelings. Not everyone is like that. Some people just don't have the courage that way. But that's really a good thing.

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I also feel the same way. I'm not really good in handling arguments. The more I argue, the more I feel bad about it. It's worse if it's not really worth arguing for.

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Haha! I know what you mean loneraver! My friends are telling me the same thing too. But sometimes I just can't help it. I don't like confrontation either. It's because I don't know how to really express myself so I'd rather keep quiet about it.

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But what if you couldn't handle it anymore? Of course there are circumstances that you can't stand it anymore. There's nothing wrong with expressing yourself...I guess there are just some people who doesn't have the courage to say it.

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I must say I love your answer. You're right with everything there. But for some people, it's not easy to get rid of that habit. However, if I was in your situation and my boyfriend would talk to me like that, I'm going to have to do the same thing you did. One thing I hate the most is being compared to anyone, let alone he's ex. Your boyfriend has crossed the line and that's really insensitive of him to say those things.

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Well, it's not really healthy to plot revenge on anyone. It won't do any good anyway. And it won't help make you feel better. Forgiveness can though. It's not easy to forgive sometimes..depending on the depth of the mistake. I forgive easily if it's just a small mistake and not much harm is done to me or to anyone close to me.

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I agree with you on that one. But sometimes it also helps to accept that it's not really okay. I believe it would still hunt you and the painful feeling won't go away unless you accept and embrace it.

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