My son's regular teacher was not in class. I hate when she's not there.

Before I left the school, I said something to the aide. I asked if he had done something or if I needed to take him home. I swear, I think I am just going to find out when the teacher is going to be off and he will stay at home on those days. He can't get much out of class if noone is willing to talk to him. I really don't understand because he is so sweet and doesn't deserve that. I am sure I will be talking with the teacher tomorrow.

I understand how you feel and i felt that way too; however, there shouldn't be any reason that you have to pull a child out of school because the teacher has personal issues.

You need to speak to the teacher and the principal of the school and tell them what is going on. YOU as a parent have a lot of power and YOU as a parent of a special needs child can use your parental rights and those rights of your son to get the kind of edcuation he needs.

This is a teacher that shouldn't be in the classroom. Yes talk to the head teacher, but please also talk to the principal and tell him/her what is going on. They might not have any idea but it's setting the example that only his main teacher can teach him - that's a bad example for your son.

It might take alittle time but this is for him remember. You have a voice because you are a parent and I encourage you to use it.

I definitely let the teacher know. She was apologetic. She said there was no one that would teach pre-k. When it comes to special education on top of it, there are even fewer teachers to choose from. She said the lady just does not know how to talk to the kids so she doesn't. How can she pretend she is going to teach them if she can't talk to the children?

I have no idea. I asked the aide before I left the school if he had done something to her, did I need to take him home. Her answer was not that she knew of, but if I wanted to take him home that was completely up to me. That's just the aide though. She is just harsh.

ah, it gives you such a nice, warm, fuzzy feeling when you see that your children are being taught by such people...

Dawn practices her sarcasm...

Yeah, my fuzzy feeling is going to be spreading because I will be the itch they can't get rid of no matter how hard they scratch.

Practicing anger management. You are much better at the sarcasm than I am at the anger management. Practicing to look innocent as well. LOL

The regular teacher is great and I have came to at least understand the aide. I just wish they could find a decent sub! I felt like it would be a waste of his time being at school today. He could probably have gotten as much interaction with the television. LOL I just picked him up and they at least tried to color one worksheet with him.

Tomorrow I am sure the teacher will be expecting me. She usually knows when I am going to come to her. LOL Maybe her aide tells her or maybe she knows what type of sub she really has.

I know that the only thing the principal does is pacify the parents by telling them what they want to hear. I would like to know why you can't drop in on your child though. I never could get a straight answer from the principal. You have to give a 24 hour notice just so you won't interrupt class. Okay fine. If you are doing something you aren't supposed to do, how is one going to catch you. LOL

hahahah.. my thoughts exactly!! Very good thinking. Sorry I laughed but it just caught me off guard! YOU are so right.. AND sharp!!

I guess wisdom comes through trial and errors and I have been exposed enough to know it doesn't matter who's who anyone can hurt a child. I was going to put except for the parent or caregiver, but unfortunately that isn't even true.

yes.. I am glad you have this wisdom.. I know one needs to have it.. an awareness AND an instinct as well.

When it comes to my kids, noone is going to get close enough to hurt them. That includes teachers. I don't like the fact you have to give 24 hour notice to check on your child. Fortunately, I am not a parent that suspects foul play. I think they do an excellent job except for the subs. I guess I don't like change. LOL

What a mum you are! grrr!

But, the 24 hour thingy is a buttcover I think.

And if the subs are the problem .. who looks after that problem then.. the principle? not really eh?
Such problems not addressed means that subs have clean records and keep doing what they are to other kids as well. This activity I am totally against. Subs should NOT have rights above and beyond any other teacher. I am really glad you have a great teacher there for your son and that you can talk to her, but the principal should also know better.. HE/ SHE must be held accountable?? Any chance you can ask her the right procedure, since she understands you and the situation??

I can't imagine my son doing anything offensive because he has about a two year olds mind. At this point he is still sweet and starting the terrible two thing. Maybe she doesn't like babies.

haha, your son will grow to a ripe old age since he has a young mind.
fortunately he does not go around biting people like a 2 years old kid, else everyone will fear this little terror oh.
I think that substitute teacher is really not up to standard. if she continues for a month duration, I bet she can go mad.

HAHAHA. He started the bite thing, but quickly grew out of that. I guess he realized he was hurting me. I was the only one he bit and most of the time it was accidental. I wonder what his little teeth would have done if he really wanted to. Most of the time he would watch for my reaction. I think the one time that I almost dropped him as we were walking because he bit me, cured him.

Ok, that's not funny, but it's so hilarious! I am glad he is smart enough to figure out he needed to stop!

I'm glad you said that. You are in the school system and would be a good person to tell me if I was looking at it the wrong way. That principal has a chair with my name on it. Usually they have chairs with the students name, not since I have been there. LOL

You have to stick up for your kids no matter what. Sometimes even when they are wrong the school is still not right. In your son's case they can not hear enough from you and not just about your kids either.

Yeah, I have really tried to help the autistic kids in this area by telling the teacher and the principle what I think they should do with the autistic class. They would really like me to keep my opinions to myself. The teacher doesn't mind, she actually agrees. She just keeps saying that there is no way to change. I don't believe that. With more children being diagnosed with autism than the last few years, they are going to have to change and they are going to have to be able to handle more autistic children and all the situations that come with that.

I wonder at how many of the diagnosed children actually have autism. There is a teacher where I work who uses sarcasm a lot in a mean way and I wonder what I should do about it. I kind of feel bad for the kids.

Hi, I remembered those classroom situations you were writing about. That was 3 years back. My son is autistic and I was allowed in the class with him. Year 1 was okay cos there was another class combined and another teacher in together (2 teachers) but year 2 which was 3 years ago, the classes split and back to norm so there wasn't another teacher looking on how the teacher behaved. Even with me the mom in and looking, my son was made to felt non-existence. The teacher would call all the other children's name to mark attendance except my son's, daily affair. Even with giving out of the workbooks, it would be the same, she would call one by one except my son, then she would pass it to another child to pass it to us. It badly affected both of us. The worst part was her saying to the other children who did a little wrong "shall we get your mummy to be in the class ....." and many other sarcastic words, in front of the whole class and us. Year 1 my son's results passed but in year 2, he failed. His confidence was smashed. Year 3 and 4 won't good too cos although they had changed teachers, those teachers couldn't accept him as a child, not that he's bad, there were other problematic children (behavior) but they are not labelled, the teachers would teach them repeatedly but my son's labelled "special need---autistic" so they can't see him as their student. In front of my son, they would always mentioned "go to the sppecial need school". Luckily this year and thank God, there are 2 teachers, his form teacher and his english teacher that are able to accept him and finally there is a sense of "belonging". For the past 3 years, only 1 form teacher that teach every thing except chinese. See how badly affected. This year, my son's result had doubled in marks, not yet pass, but we are happy that his confidence is improving. Next year will be his last year in this school and I hope he will still be under these 2 teachers. This is also the 1st year that I need not be in the class cos the teachers accept him and handles him themselves. Actually in pre school, I wasn't needed in the class too and my son attended pre school like others without mom.

Wow. It makes me so angry to hear of that teacher and the harm that was caused. Today it was really hard for me not to be impatient with my students. There was one kid in particular who was just not getting it and normally he does well. You really have to be careful what you say because the least little thing causes the kids to get this look on their face as if they are being picked on.

Or students just had an entire week off for the Thanksgiving holiday and while everyone needed the break (teachers included) it also throws things off and it is so hard to get the kids back into their routine and my classes are their fun time!

I hear the way some other teachers talk to kids and it makes me so self-conscious because I worry that I sound as mean or sarcastic as they do when I talk. My students are young and the wrong thing can harm them the way your son was harmed.

I am glad your son is doing better and getting proper instruction from a good teacher. I hope that he will continue to progress and become at least somewhat independent so you do not have to worry about him in his adult years.

I am so thankful I had joined some of the social sites that I did. I feel so much better about my son's ability. I think he will eventually be able to dress himself and maybe even take care of himself. I hope so for his sake. I see alot of little progresses. I read where these other people are having battles with their child and I thank God that hasn't happened yet and I pray that it doesn't, especially as he gets older.

It's funny, he just got a pen and was "coloring" in a coloring book and I heard him say "scribble, scribble". I guess that's what they are saying to him at school. I don't know. It was funny to hear him say it. He was associating what he was doing.

If you are making a conscious effort to not talk to the kids meanly, then, chances are good you don't.

A friend of mine whose specialty is special ed told me I don't have anything to worry about and I actually talked to my Principal about it last night at the Xmas party, you know, learning the language, and she remarked about that as well. I guess it just shows there is always something new you can learn.

Thanks for your encouragement. You know how hard it is for us to deal with our children. We shouldn't have to deal with rude teachers as well.

Yes. WE always want the best and the friendliest teacher for our kids, somebody who will have the heart for our kids and passion to really teach special learners like our kids!

I am actually sad that my son will be going not only to a different teacher next year, but to a different school.

...why is there a need for him to transfer to another school? is there no further level in his present school? you must be happy and satisfied with how his teacher is doing her job as it relates to your son's academic and psycho-social intervention and development. let's pray that your son will be blessed with a passionate teacher and a supportive school!

The school he is in now doesn't have a class that isn't as lenient as what he has now. Their classes don't have people that can help him at the level he is at. He needs someone to help him color and pick things up or put things away. This school doesn't have a class for him as he progresses.

really? we have a pull out session to give focus on a particular subject where my son in the mainstream program i shaving difficulty. there is also a shadow teacher to assist them in their class activities and seatwork. i am happy with the kind of school my kids are in now. even the teachers are so committed and passionate to create improvements in them. this is the best school ever for my kids out of four???

I'm not sure she even knew she did it. I hope she didn't do it on purpose, but it wasn't endowing towards me or my son. I think my son was really scared to go to school today. He started fussing in the parking lot. Then he saw the aide and he screamed out. He went into his classroom and he was upset until he realized it was the regular teacher. Then he flipped a switch and he was happy.

Oh, I feel bad for you. I actually want my child in a separate class. He is classic autistic and can't really speak yet. Granted, he is four, but I don't see where he will ever be on his physical age mentality. That's okay. I am preparing myself. I just don't want the teacher to ignore him. I know he will have problems with the other students, but I at least want the teacher to be social.

Yeah, I think he knew too. When I took him in today, he didn't want to go. He saw the aide and started crying which is something he normally doesn't do. Then when he got to the classroom he saw the teacher and a switch flipped in him and he was happy and fine. I think that says there may have been a problem yesterday.

Unfortunately, I don't think he understands these things. He does well with rejection because he is in his own world and really doesn't care if someone doesn't want to be a part of it. I think he can actually teach me how to deal with the rejection for him.