Should You Let Your Kids Stay at Someone's Home If You Don't Know the Family?

Hi, getbrowser,



I haven't got any children but if it was my child, no I wouldn't or I would go visit the parents first and discuss it with them then if I don't think that is ok then I wouldn't let my child go, for a start the parents should have come to you first before inviting your child over to stay, you just cannot trut anybody this day and age.



Tamara

No Never I would not let my child, stay at anyone house, if I know nothing about this family, anything can happen to your child, people are not trust worthy, like they use to be long time ago, you can never be too careful, when you come around, someone you don't know.

My daughter has received invitations like this before in fact she just got an invitation for a birthday party for this weekend although it is a bit different because we sorta know the family.
She was invited last year to a birthday party sleepover and she really wanted to go but I felt a bit uneasy just because I didn't know the parents at all so what I decided was to let her go to the 2 hour party with her friend but picked her up after and didn't allow her to stay over just because I didn't know the family and while I thought she might be upset about it she was actually alright with just going to the party and get cake and ice cream. Now the party that she is going to this weekend is with s school classmate but also the mother is her girl scout leader and the father is my sons boy scout leader which I know doesn't mean that she is 100% safe but I am a tad relieved but I still went ahead and had a talk with her about good and bad and to call if she needed anything at all. This will be her first over night at a friends that we don't know real real well. She has another friend that she spends the night with but they have been friends for four years now and we know her parents. I would say if your friend is feeling uneasy then she should follow her gut feeling..it might upset the son but he will get over it and it is better to be safe than sorry.

Sorry friend....cannot agree to it....

I just cannot leave my kids in nowhere as it is very dangerous to leave them where you have no idea what the place is like...it's better to leave them in the house alone if it is the case....

Though i donot marry and havenot a child,i think i will allow my child to accept this kind of invitation.I donot think there is any bad effect to the child.Only two days can they change a person.I think it is you friend think too much,but i think it is no need to worry about such a little thing.

Since this is the first invitation I think the parent should be sure to handle this well. If I was the parent I would be excited for the child and go right along with him over to the friend's house. Explain right then and there that I would like to meet the parents and just know what kind of environment he will be in. No need for a background check or anything. A parent's gutt feelings and how the other child's folks react to your concerns will be enough.

Well,i think it is not a fault of your friend,This sort of situation will come but one thing we must clarify our children that staying any body's house is not good.They will want but we parents have to explain them details about everything.They are kids,they will want many things but which is good or bad we have say them.And the main thing is that your friend don't know the family,so i think she should think twice before sending her son.

Hi Getbrowser,

I'd get nervous too. But it actually depends. If any of my kids get an invitation to sleep in a friend's house, I would want to know some details first. Is he going there alone or with others, are they being managed by someone (say the parents). And I will call the parents first to know the reason for the invitation. If I feel that it's clean fun, or a group study or the likes, and the parents are on top of it, then I might allow my kids. If not, then I won't.

Just like your friend, I would not let my child go on even if he is invitid.
Now a days, you cannot really tell if he/she is safe.
Not that, the friend who is inviting is dangerous but there are other factors which might interfere like location of the house, distance, and others.
I would know first the family and activities that my child will be involve in before I will let her/him go. HHHHMMMMMMMMMM

no of course not, you often allow it with your kids they will do that often and will learn to defy you once you tried to forbid them, at that time that would be too late already. it's best if they're not used to doing it while they're just kids.