Do you believe that you yourself are responsible for your present situation?

Hi Chaitra!
Good Morning to you!
What a positive response, what a positive response (I need to repeat the lines, because I did not expect it). It really shows your positive thinking and your kindness and indebtness to your parents and your hubby and take my words if you continue with the same positive attitude, you will go a long way in your life. Yes, you are very correct, you should take the credit for a happy married life and a good hubby, because it was you, who selected and approved him. . I am delighted to read your wonderful response. Plus rated.
Deepak

Thanks that you liked my positive thoughts.. and also thanks very much for your wishes for my future..

You deserve it.

Hi ybonjoc,

Only human being do support their children for 20+ years, The way we bring up makes it difficult to take a decision. If you are in a situation where you have to hunt for food, you will be reliable at the age of 5-10 years itself. I know people who emerged from the slums to the top level even fighting with their parents. Like your situation my parents are afraid to further spend money for me as i destroyed a lot.
But i was escaped. I do not blame them for their decision. Hope you can have the high spirits to fight further up.

Hi ybon!
You may be right when you think about your parents' actions towards you. However, what you would not have assumed is - what would have been their thinking, when they did not support you in any of your causes, they might be under some compulsions, which they did not feel like sharing with you. I can understand your predicament that you cleared one of the toughest exams and had their been appropriate support from your parents and others, you might have achieved something else also in your life. I would say that be happy in whatever you have achieved in your life because past cannot be undone at this stage and keep smiling. When you yourself become parent, see to it that you give best to your children (I am not aware if you are married or unmarried or you have children, please read my response accordingly).
Thanks for candidly sharing your inner thoughts.
Deepak

Thanks Deepak.I have a son, he is 1 year old. And you know what, it is really a different feeling when you are a mother because you always wanted to give the best for your son. Which is kind of different from the way I was raised.
Yes you are true I may never know what my parents are thinking about that. All I understand is that they are afraid to take risk for us and that gave me a very low self-esteem. Even my older brother told me that I could have been better-off if only they supported me. But well, that is part of my past. And I cannot change it anymore because I am already here. And most of the time I am feeling so trapped because I cannot step a bit higher for my career.

@PhilipGeorge...Sorry to hear about that. It seemed like you are becoming rebellious?Correct me if I am wrong.As for me, though I still have my parents, I guess that I have been independent since I started college (16 years old).I used to live in the dormitory. I was a scholar that time so I need not the financial support from my parents.

Hi ybon!
I feel you are very practical and wise and now as a mother, you can understand what a child-parent relationship is all about and how both think differently, perhaps we also call it generation gap...........LOL!. As your son grows, you will realize that his wants, needs, desires and thinking is different from yours. You have rightly said that you cannot change the past, therefore, keep enjoying the 'present' and cherish whatever you have with you. You can still work hard and can achieve your goals, which you could not do earlier. All the best.

Hello Deepak, yeah generation gap it is.
To enjoy what is today is the best that I can do. I believe there is a purpose for everything. Though dreams are still dreams until they come true.So until now I don't stop dreaming. Of course I need to put those dreams into action and that is through working on it.
Thanks Deepak for those words.

HI Cjay!
I understand that you are realistic and practical and you know it that you yourself are responsible for your present situation. I agree all do not blame others, those who are saner and wiser (like you) come to terms, without blaming others. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
Have a great day!
Deepak

HI sasa!
I am really really impressed with your positive thinking and attitude and you wrote what was in my mind (similar thoughts keep travling in my mind, most of the time). It is really good that you adopt a realistic and practical approach and do not blame others for your situation. Admitting mistakes and making corrections and not repeating the mistakes is one of the biggest positive traits and if you have it in you, you will surely succeed in your life. I fully agree with you that we cannot undo the past and future has not arrived, therefore, we should cherish the present and should do our best. Many thanks for sharing your opinion. Nice to meet you.
Have a great day!
dpk

Hi DPK,

Nice to meet you too, thanks for sharing the discussion here.

Have a nice day and happy mylotting.

You are always welcome dear!

Hi Kala!
Welcome back to mylot. Hope you would have finished some of your tasks for the ensuing event. You have said it all in your response and the conclusion is - we ourselves are responsible for our present situation. We cannot change the past, therefore, 'ifs' and 'buts' do not actually help. I really appreciate your views taht people behave the way they like with us, because it is we who allow them to behave in that manner, if we show resistance, they may mend their ways. Many thanks for joining us sharing your opinion. Nice to see you back.
Have a great day!
Deepak

Hi dear! I feel it is good for you that you have realized the hard fact that you yourself are responsible for your present. There is no use blaming the parents, I hope they would have done their best in the given situation because most of the parents think about the welfare of their kids (barring some exceptions). It is fruitful for you, if you remain productive and look forward to achieve more goals with your own might. Thanks a lot for joining us sharing your candid opinion.
Deepak

Hi dear!
It is really appreciable that you reckon that you yourself are responsible for your present state of affairs. It is no use putting the blame on others' head to four ego. We need to face the reality with boldness and courage. Thanks a lot for joining us sharing your candid views.
Deepak

Hi dear!
You have positive and realistic thinking and you are right that if we accept the fact that we are responsible for our present state of affairs, we would feel much cooler inside and would not grumble. Thanks for joining us with your opinion.