No that is not at all what I meant!

Oh this happens so often almost every day too. I try and explain things clearly to the new users but somehow many of them do not understand, So I go back, rewrite what I said the first time with different words and then hope and keep the page open and I keep going back until they get it clear - then the post usually gets deleted because it was in the FAQs in the first place! I can appreciate that many of them do not understand certain ways of saying things (like 'earnings' and 'payments' often get confused) and I try and put myself in their shoes. I was a foreigner here once and that was not an easy situation so I can understand what it must be like for many here. It is not the new users who aggravate me. It is usually the older ones who speak perfect English but explain things as they understand them, and not how they really are, that gets me more irritated

I know I was new at mylot once myself,but I still get aggravated when people respond to my discussions or comment to my responses with things that have nothing to do with what I said and I wonder why they did not understand,I think some people refuse to read the whole discussion or whole response and that is why some people do not understand and others are from other countries and do not know good enough English to understand what you say so they get confused,I know we need to cut newbies some slack and try to help them whenever we can to help them understand,I love you.

It happens and what I do is ask the Person to clafify what they meant If I am the one that has confused someone and they approach me about it or I get a response where you can see that you have confused someone I will go and apologize and explain it again properly

hi somecowgirl I have had this happen too. and wonder if it is me or the person just did not read all of my discussion. but I do try to clarify and hope maybe I just was not explicit enough or maybe Ishould have just worded it a bit differently. I am sure I do get annoyed but still try to help.I remember when 'I was new and confused at times too.

Yes, this has happened before. In one discussion I think somebody called me a liar, but I am not sure. They said that they did not believe what I was saying. Instead of taking offense at this statement, though, I asked exactly what they did not believe. I asked whether they did not believe that something like this could occur, because the thought of it happening was just too shocking to imagine or whether they did not believe that the event occurred at all. I try to clarify the situation as best I can and reword things whenever possible to help us both understand better.

I'll have to clarify. By no means I don't intend to confuse anyone so I'd have to explain myself so others won't misunderstand too. Of course I will have to check first what's wrong if it's really me, if it's the way I deliver it or something. If not then I guess I'll just have to rephrase what I said and straighten things up. I wouldn't mind explaining it all over again just as long as I make a stand in my opinion. It would also be good because the discussion will go on and on but not with arguments on it. Haha. Take care! :)

I won't mind if the others misunderstand what I mean as long as the induced ideas don't make them think about me as in a bad way. Sometime, a confusion cheers me, because I find that my words are multi-meanings, haha.

I hate when that happens! It's the worst when not only the person misunderstands me, but responds with hateful comments. When that happens I don't even feel inclined to clear up the confusion. I remember one time a lady responded with extreme anger and was quite insulting to me over a discussion that only she had misunderstood. She was American like me, so the language barrier was not a factor. I didn't even have to defend myself that time because another mylotter got annoyed for me and responded to them. I appreciated that because they straightened her out without rancor, and the lady then apologized to me. I was completely caught off guard when that happened. It makes me more aware that I can misunderstand someone's discussions, so in all of my responses I try not to "cop" an attitude when something upsets me. Most of the time I succeed, but not all of the time. : (

Hi Amber, well I say what I think as I'd rather do that than lie. I responded to someone the other day who expected everyone to sympathise with his annoyance at something, I did, up the point where he said he stuck his finger right up into a womans face, and I said that I did understand his annoynance at her rudeness but he'd been just as rude himself by doing the thing with his finger. Surely he expected someone to point that out but he didn't. I was also looking at someones discussions a little while ago and he was shouting at the responsers to read his topic properly if they were going to respond whilst his own introduction was confusing to say the least.

This is a dicussion so I beleive it should go all ways. I would be honest but in the nicest possible way. Like saying That is not exactally what I meant but.......and maybe look at their perspective also. It could start a whole nother discussion. Which is never a problem with me. Or if I am confussed I try to just give a simple answer, and use my best judgement on what they really meant.

I just say thank you for responding, and try to undestand their way of thinking on why they misunderstood the topic of the discussion. I keep it short because if I add more to the discussion they might just get more confused. Usually, if it is a response from somebody who trully understands the discussion then that's where I make a conscious effort to write a lengthy discussion. Nice to connect with a like mind.

Hi some cow girl: thanks for open this discussion. It seems that you're a very tolerant person and that's nice. As you mention there's a lot of reasons why we can commit mistakes and be misunderstood. When i notice i was misunderstood i always try to explain what i wanted to say and i else try to be as helpful i can be with newbies. In fact Mylot is place to talk not to fight and i think that's what almost everybody thinks. Have a nice day

Yow! The TOPIC is Hot! Very HOT! Take it easy, anyway this is a good topic cause it happens to all of us more often, but of course before posting or responding to someones topic, we have to make it sure that we choose the words that we will use or will throw to that certain topic. If we cannot give any good response or cannot control ourselves to throw words that will hurt or offend the person who posted the topic, better not to respond, better just ignore the topic even if it caught your attention. We have to be sensitive sometimes to lessen the probability of committing mistakes and hurts someones feelings new or old it is a must for us to understand how things should be done. IF we think that the question is irrelevant why bother answering it? If we think the topic is a little not so good for our feelings, why answer it? It's better to skip than to hurt someone. Anyway we have freedom so we can do whatever we want or whatever we say it is our own right and we should practice but, but we have to think also that we need to be sensitive enough cause if it will happen to us we will also feel hurt. But.. we also need to accept feedback and criticism since this site is build for it, but of course a very nice criticism. A very nice feedback, and you know if you want to tell something negative choose the best negative word that fits. And by the way help those person whose language is not ENGLISH? Is this site for good or native English speakers only? It's being a little R_c__t i think. Anyway What important here is that even if the ENGLISH of the person is not perfect nor even if ENGLISH is not his/her main language, we need to understand the thought of their responses, it's the thought that counts not the language and the grammar we just need to be more understanding so there will be no misunderstandings.