No that is not at all what I meant!

I didn't think of a response made in a different person's perspective, but those are also rampant discussions here. It makes it hard to make a discussion inviting only one opinion. Though it's better to have many, it's easier to have a discussion where all parties agree so as to not need to defend one's opinion or to not start a fight... hmmm... I will often try to clarify or if I am not sure on a response or comment I'll do my best to understand, often stating that I don't understand but that is response or comment to them in the best of my ability given what I did understand from said response or comment.

I find that the more said the more understood, but even so, sometimes it ends up being the less said the more understood... or even illustrations can sometimes be in order, or even so much a simple definition for a word... especially with so many words in the English language either meaning the same thing or pronounced the same or close to the same way.

Mysdianait, I knew you would say that! Lol! I am very glad that you are member here as you seem to have more patience, though putting yourself into the others shoes is definitely a must if you plan to be so understand and patient... Now the latter part with those who speak English perfectly but will type in the way they understand it, that is a bit confusing to me. What do you mean?

I hope I do not do that!

Oh dear, you are the third person this week to say that you knew I was going to say that when they comment on my response - at least I'm consistent!

The last bit? For example I spend half an hour explaining the significance of the star, how you acquire one and all that goes with it and then along comes a more senior user saying that they are not important and just add some colour to the pages

Mysdianait, you are very honest, and that is good. I guess we all come to expect what you'll say...

Oh I try not to butt my nose in unless I understand completely, or if I don't I let the person know I am not sure, and usually say you'll be along to clarify it all up! lol!

Oh I definately wasn't meaning you! It's often someone who has not posted for months and they just come and blurt somethingout for a penny.

Funny you should say that about me clarifying... one friend even mentioned in a post recently that I would be along later to post the right link There is a lot of teamwork of late and that is fantastic!

You mean those stars actually DO something other than make the page all colorful?!*looks around the room suspiciously* Wait, that wasn't just me blurting out those words in an attempt to make a penny, was it?

Just like other people knew what you were going to say, you just had to know that I was going to come along and mess with you, MysD.

When attitudes flair I tend to run away. I feel somewhat bad for those who misunderstand and respond or comment with such a hateful attitude, I know in their shoes I'd feel terrible if I did that and then was corrected in either much the same way (anger and meanness) or in a kind way... either way, I'd feel awful and be less likely to respond to them in the future because of my embarrassment.

Upon reflection, I am reminded of a time I made a discussion and a responder was rude to me assuming things, and while I corrected them, so did someone else and then I reported the person who was rude to me, and they hadn't responded since, though I believe they were soon after banned!

Oh it's always great to come across responses that while meant the person misunderstood, is still a great response in that you thought of a different approach, way to see things, or like you said, a multi meaning to said scenario, or discussion!

I totally agree with all you have said. I find it embarrassing as well to find myself also being abusive back and will also usually retract myself.

Hi: I agree with you too. We don't get anything when we return the abuse. It's better to ignore these people that i think are only a few persons. It would be perfect a world where everybody could understand each other. Unfortunetly (or fortunetly depending of the point of view) we all are different and we must make our best efforts to try to understand each other. Thanks for your answer.

Starsailover, I think there are only a handful of people here who could be classified as "rude" and "abusive" but most of the time these people get banned, or at the very least reported. I think that it would be a much better world if everyone understood one another, but then again what's the fun in that too? lol.

You are really good at clarifying things and giving good pointers, Mike. You are also really helpful when it comes to finding links to things that we knew we had seen but couldn't locate again.

SomeCowgirl, I agree that there are only a few people on here that are rude and abusive, which is good. Unfortunately, I think that there are others that undermine our efforts without ever confronting us and giving us the opportunity to clear up any disagreements or misunderstands. These are generally the trolls, and they pop up every now and then. The great people on this site far outweigh the negative ones, though.

Thanks

I wasn't always tolerant and I suspect there will be times I won't be as well. There are some hardheaded people here that though you try to help them they don't try to help themselves either. English as a second language I can only assume to be hard. I am glad you try to explain to the best of your knowledge, and yes I do believe everyone thinks the same in that mylot is a place of fun and not of fight!

Friend, I believe you've misunderstood me.

This topic is hot? Well only if it's on the "hot topics" tab. No, I was not meaning for myself to come off at all ill or angry at mylot as a whole or any of it's members. In fact, this discussion was about responses, comments or even discussions that are confusing and the way you handle them. I think you've gotten a little confused by the discussion as what I meant to ask really by this discussion is how do you handle a misunderstood response, comment or discussion either misunderstood by yourself or by your responder or commenter?

I hope this clarifies things!

I don't think this site is racist at all.

It is a US site and their language is English and the admins here are English speakers so they say we can only use English here.

It isn't discriminating against any race as anyone can be a member from any country as long as they can communicate in English.

I agree with your last points about helping members who may be less proficient in English than we are.

I do the same! I say something along the lines of "I am sorry but I think I may have confused you" and then I'll explain what I meant, usually asking "Did I clarify that up for you?" and if I have or haven't, or maybe even if I misunderstood them, either way it's great to be able to clarify things or get clarified!

It can be a real pain in the butt, especially when you feel they are just not "understanding" because they don't want to, or they don't want to follow the rules. In most cases it's their loss anyway as mylot is a great site once you know how to work it!