From IVF Mix Up to Miracle Baby
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
May 4, 2010 9:20pm CST
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What would you do if it was you in this situation?
Me, I would have also carried the baby and I would have thought of the pregnancy as a surrogate pregnancy. That is actually something that I've considered doing in my life.
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4 responses
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
5 May 10
Wow. That is a tough, tough call. We know a 2 mom family that had IVF treatments (one of the moms, with a sperm donor) - the one who was "trying" were considered "older" like me. It took them 14 months before "it" took . . . and I can't imagine how they would have felt if there was some embryo mix up when it was hard enough as it was. Anyway, so if it was me in that situation at this age, I'd seriously have to think about it long and hard. Surrogacy is a wonderful thing and I applaud any woman who is willing to do it . . . but I don't know that I could do it - I just don't know. Being pregnant is such a personal thing and I just know I would fall in love with a baby growing inside me . . . and with the issues I had during pregnancy, I don't know that it would be worth going through knowing that I would also be giving this beautiful baby up in the end. I know that sounds very selfish. Maybe if I were younger I would answer differently.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 May 10
If you read what I wrote above, the family that I was referring to was a two mom family as well. One mother carried the baby that was inseminated with donor sperm and the other mom was the biological mother of the baby. She wanted to carry their daughter herself but her hormones wouldn't allow it. They tried unsuccessfully many times before Trinity was actually conceived.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 May 10
Yes, like they hit the floor and they lost all the embryos. They had to do another harvest. They are trying to sue the lab for the mishap still.
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
5 May 10
Do you mean about the dish of embryos hitting the lab floor?? Oh my gosh . . . that is a really bad mishap . . . I would be so livid beyond words. In my friends' case, one was recommended not to become pregnant because she had such bad back injuries, so the other carried their child.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
5 May 10
I think it would have been awesome if the woman who found out her embryo's were implanted into the other woman had offered to carry the other womans embryos to pregnancy and have them surrogates for each other.
Yea it's a big thing to ask but it would have given both women the pregnancy and bonding experience and possibly both couples a baby to nurture and raise to adulthood.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 May 10
That would have been a great thing if that would have been possible. It would have been a very unique experience for both families if that would have happened.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 May 10
hi dorannmwin oh my thats a tough one but yes I think I could have done that as it would have been so wrong to keep a child that did not belong to you and it certainly was not the real parents fault either. I think I could have done that but I would have felt torn apart by having to give the b aby up,however the joy of the real parents would go along way towards making it okay. just goes to show that those people handling the embryos should check and double and triple check before the actually implanting of the embryos.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 May 10
This isn't the first time that I've heard about mishaps in the lab when it comes to IVF. I've a friend that wanted a baby more than anything and the dish with eight viable embryos was dropped in the lab. Perhaps that is the reason that I think the woman that carried the baby is such a saint.
@newtalent (1112)
• United States
5 May 10
Regardless of it not being your child, it would be hard to give up a child that you carried for 9 months. How do fill that void or feelings of despair knowing you gave up a human life? It sounds easy to do but when it comes down to it even in adoption settings, the mother has remorseful feelings that she gave her child away the carried for so long. I think I would not be able to do it. I know mistakes are made but this is human life not a toy, or something materialistic. WOW! What a Whammy to be dealt!!!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 May 10
In a situation like this I would also hope that both of the families would be able to keep in touch and perhaps even be able to forge a friendship because of the situation.
