What's the hardest part about parenting?  

Isn't that a symptom of Asperger's?

I'm a control freak too, because I was raised by a control freak... little things do tend to stress me out too, but I tend to ignore the things I can't control.. and freak out over the other things that should be controlled but aren't.. like the fact that my daughter still tries to leave the house without brushing her hair.. I just feel like she should know this by now and I shouldn't have to remind her (especially when I haven't had my coffee yet!).

Naomi's 9 and I still have to remind her pretty much every day or she'd go out with messy hair.

yeah, many Aspie's don't deal well with situations that are out of their control...

Messy hair is ok for a 9 year old...reminding is ok too

If it gets too messy, it hurts to brush it...

I don't think messy hair is okay... for one, kids get picked on terribly in school, so if you go to school with messy hair you're opening yourself up to a lot of trouble. Plus for me, my child looking messy looks bad for me, it looks like I don't care enough about my kids to make sure they're clean and neat before going to school. Granted they always come home looking like slobs.. but I can't control that, lol.

I love messy hair..and get the evidence from my avatar..

Ok dawn you have got a reason I will comb my hair tomorrow...

a little messy ok, but looking like she never tried to brush it, nope, not OK....

It will look so natural.I bet it will look quite casual...Even those ''Heavy metal'' guys have messy hair I wonder what their mothers will say...

Probably "get a haircut"

I would have to say that it depends on the level of unwell or hurt. Kids are supposed to get scraped knees and things like that, and obviously getting a cold can't be avoided.. so things like that don't bother me much... but thankfully my kids are healthy and have never had any serious illnesses or problems. Not sure how I'd manage if one of them needed to be hospitalized or anything.

Glad I don't have that problem.

What about me...where is the sympathy

To me this is a problem that should have been discussed before the child or children were created.

Well the fact is sometimes the parents are not bothered to the same degree by a child's behavior. Sometimes to one, it is considered disrespectful and atrocious, and to the other 'no big deal'. Of course it's all null and void when the situation is reversed and now the parent who was bothered is watching the other parent get bent out of shape over something THEY deem to be 'nothing'.

It's still all about communication between the parents. They need to find common ground and understanding for each other. Sure there are things my kids do that frustrate me that my husband thinks is no big deal, but he also understands that I'm the one who is with the kids all day while he's away from them at work.. so he respects me and will tell them to stop when they're behaving in ways that I don't like.. even if he doesn't agree.

I've discovered that I've become more patient with age.. perhaps it's a maturity thing or perhaps it's because I'm learning.

I am sure your son will be everything you want him to be... apples don't fall far from the trees you know, and he's got a great role model.

Thanks, but I don't feel like it alot of the time. LOL

I think that's what makes you a good mom. If you think you're perfect.. then you're not working on your flaws. I know I have a lot of flaws, and most days I do try to work on them.

Oh you poor thing! I can't imagine how terribly that must have gone.

You sound like a perfect mother in law. Mine was certainly a meddler... not so much that she was interfering with our marriage.. because I never felt comfortable enough to have a serious conversation with her, but she'd always have some sort of comment about how we spent our money, cleaned our house, and raised our kids. Ugh!

Hmmm.. and here I thought once the potty training was over it was all smooth sailing, lol. But we're each different. I honestly believe I'll be excited when my kids go, because as of right now I'm looking forward to it, lol.

That's a really hard age and I'm dealing with it too. My 2 year old is so defiant and that does frustrate me a lot, and the usual tactics never work on him.

Kids don't do naughty things on purpose.. they usually don't know better, or sometimes they're just trying to get attention. A talking to is usually all it takes.

Yeah, that's a hard part too.