Can't you tell I don't want to talk to you?
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
August 15, 2011 8:25am CST
Years ago, right after high school, whilst living with friends we had a polite at first but then down right creepy neighbor. I've seen him around several times, and last night while waiting for my ride to come pick me up, was one of them.
I watched as he entered the lobby of the store, but didn't say anything. At first I wasn't sure if he was the creepy one or the polite guy that used to work at a walmart my friends and I would frequent late at night.
It was the creepy guy. I know because as he was leaving he stood and chatted with me. He looked me up and down and I was just not wanting to talk to him at all. He asked about my friends and I tried to give him as little info as possible. While I was outright with the "I don't want to talk to you" face, I was atleast obvious enough that he should have known.
I guess he either didn't care, or truly was oblivious.
What would you have done?
11 responses
@somethingbig (282)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Aug 11
Pretend that something just came out and you need to go ahead. I always do that when i don't want to talk. :)
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I wish I could have, I mean I really should have but I wasn't thinking. It had been storming (though had slacked off a bit where I was) and I was partially wanting to watch it, and partially wanting to just stand there and him just go away. I was looking out the door, hoping that my ride would come up and I could say "gotta go" and run to the car.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I was waiting for someone to come pick me up, and so the only thing I could have done is to either go outside, where he could have just followed me or gone inside where I wouldn't have been able to watch for the person coming to pick me up.
I guess I could have said, "woops forgot to check something, I've got to go and bye" but I hadn't thought of that. My thoughts were "I've got to call my friend and let her know" and "I wish he'd just leave!"
LOL
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@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
15 Aug 11
Was stepping back into the store an option? If so, I would have done it, and gotten busy at a front desk or something. The other thing that I have heard of doing is pretending a phone call, put the phone up to your ear, turn your back, like for privacy, and just chatter away. I also usually have reading material in my purse and I can pull it out, and say "Excuse me, I need to get this read." and pretend to read, while keeping an eye on creepy. I hate that he knows where you work now. I guess if you had been on the bicycle you would have already left and been home.
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@GardenGerty (169448)
• United States
15 Aug 11
It is good to have a plan, and that way, it may never happen. He may come at another time of day. On the other hand, if he is a real creep he will come on purpose to bother you, especially if you have a regular set schedule.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
16 Aug 11
This week I have a few days that are about the same hours, but I doubt my schedule will ever really be "set" atleast not for a few more weeks. I said I was available any time of day, so it may be that they start using me for somewhere between first and second shift as I'll be taking over for the kids going back to school.
If he does start to come and he bothers me I'll be sure to get the attention of a manager or someone.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Aug 11
It was storming so I probably would have called someone either way. Usually I wait outside for my ride to come and get me, since it had been raining I stayed in the lobby. I should have stepped back in the store, acting like I had forgotten something. Yes now he knows where I work so while I don't know if this trip to the store was just a fluke or not, I wonder if I'll see him more.
I know one thing, if he creeps me out to the point I feel uncomfortable I'll tell a manager.
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
If I were you, I would have made a lame excuse out and went somewhere else where I know he won't be able to harass or bother me at all. There was a time where I had encountered a similar problem and I got so irritated and just blurted out that I don't want to talk to anyone right now. 
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I should have and next time I will, that is unless he comes through my line one day at work. I can't just stop the line and get a manager to escort him to another line. Though if he comes through my line and makes me feel uncomfortable I'll tell the CSM the next chance I get.
@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Aug 11
I would make my excuses. Have to go potty, forgot something, etc. The least positive you give him the better. You have seemed to him to be friendly now. Some people just don't take 'oblivious' as not interested or not into him. I hope that you don't have anymore run ins with this one.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
16 Aug 11
I hope not either, but now that he knows where I work he might come back. I am not quite sure. I just hope that if he does, he doesn't come through my line. I'll check him out, but if he starts making me uncomfortable I won't hesitate to get the attention of someone.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
16 Aug 11
Oh I won't, and I'll do what it takes to get attention. I think if I see him again and he starts acting creepy, I'll make sure a coworker notices as well and then go to the CSM or someone.
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@celticeagle (189820)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Aug 11
Well, remember the basics. Don't make him think for one minute that you are interested. Don't take a ride from him. You might let a co-worker know about him. ANd if you walk stay out where there is traffic and/or people. If he grabs you yell 'RAPE!' That will get attention quickest.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I felt bad but felt uncomfortable too. I should have just walked away but I wouldn't want that to be done to me either.
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I would have come up with some lame excuse to go back inside. A few minutes wouldn't have made a difference in terms of your ride, and this would have, hopefully, gotten rid of the guy.
If he sets off our creepdar that badly, pay attention to it. Women should never stay in situations that make them uncomfortable just to "be polite."
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Aug 11
He already set off my creepdar because I knew him. I know why he's creepy but won't disclose it here because it wasn't to me he was creepy to before. He did give me an up and down look last night though.
I should have gone back inside but if he had threatened me anymore I would have gone back inside and told my CSM or someone.
@yugasini (12892)
• Secunderabad, India
16 Aug 11
hi somecowgirl,
yes i too have said this that i do not wish to talk with you to my girl friend,but i could not ,with out seeing her i could not stay a day, i have uploded her photos in my mail, every day i am seeing her photos and feeling she is with me, i like her very much, this i have not said it ,my one of the staff said about her girl friend,have a nice day
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
16 Aug 11
Well this is a bit different. This is a girlfriend that you seem to love, the person I am talking about is not a friend at all.
@bounce58 (17380)
• Canada
19 Aug 11
Not creepy guys, but there are a few people around me that I don't really care much about talking to. Usually, I just avoid them altogether. But if they are persistent, I would also give them the I-don't-want-to-talk-to-you-face.
Maybe he thought you were obligated to talk to him because you were working.
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I WASN'T working, I was off work waiting to be picked up. I was in the lobby as it was storming and I didn't want to stand in the rain. I hope I don't have to deal with him again, but if he creeps me out again I won't hesitate to tell the manager.
@annavi23 (6633)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
I guess I would just leave without saying anything or to be polite, i'll just excuse myself and pretend to be in a hurry or will it be pretend someone was calling me and then me rushing to anywhere else avoiding him... what would you like there?
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
15 Aug 11
I know I should have just left... but I'm too nice of a person to do that...
