Bachelors!

That is too much mess! I would not know how a person could survive in that! My boyfriend is also messy in a way because I have since his bedroom and his clothes and dvds are everywhere! But unwashed dishes? That is different! Where does he eat if the dishes are unwashed? Are they flies or cockroaches around? It is unhealthy to be living in such a messy place! Guys are never neat freak, if there is one who is neat in any way, then he must be in 1% out of a 100..

Probably because he thinks he has more important things to do... like play on the internet...

I can't quite figure out how this would be possible. It's just...gross. Then again my husband, when I met him, would let his dorm room get pretty bad.

Wow, that sounds really gross. I can't imagine living like that...In filth. I have to admit my house isn't always the most tidy, in fact I could really use a good vaccuuming job in the living room right now, but I never let dishes or laundry (or just JUNK) pile up like that. I think some people are naturally LAZY (NOT saying they can't help it - because they can), and other people have... well, other psychological problems... Is this guy a hoarder? One of my best friend's mom is a hoarder HARDCORE - she saves EVERYTHING - and there are boxes and boxes full of JUNK everywhere in the entire house. She has so many dishes & (expired) food things that they literally won't fit in her cupboard. I literally can't stand to be in that house. I've slept over this friends' house a few times, and each and every time I find myself up early in the morning trying to tidy up. Agh. But for her, it's a shopping/collecting/"bargain sales"-buying ("hoarding") addiction. Probably not the same situation, but I Figured I would share it anyway.

That is just gross and uncalled for. How can people live like that it kind of reminds me the hoarders show when they dont clean and keep things dirty and nasty. You know?. Ok well i lived with an ex boyfriend and a roomate and a two bedroom apartment once and omg i was the only one that cleaned well dusted i guess you can say. Now the dishes would pile up every day and i worked so i didnt want to come home to a messy place at night which it alwasy was. The dishes were never done and would just lay there. So one day i couldnt take it and asked my dad to come and help me move out so i took all my stuff and all the furniture that was mine and well left them to be. It was gross and i just couldnt take it anymore at all i cant leave stuff around the house at all.

What you are describing sounds so gross and disgusting. I have also seen a few bachelor men live in a similar manner but definitely not to the extent you are describing of your tenant. I just don't understand that how can they even live like that and how can they tolerate the bad smell. Even if they try to clean a little bit every day, things wouldn't deteriorate like this. I would never be able to live like this, I would go crazy if I didn't have cleanliness around me. I could never even imagine being this messy.

What you described is the very reason why I'll never become a landlord! I couldn't do it, but I respect you for being so patient with people. I just couldn't see my property being taken care of (or not, in this case!) like that. It's very sad. However, I'm not surprised in a bachelor's behavior. Like you, I married a very neat and tidy man, for which I'm very grateful! I did have a pretty lousy experience with a bachelor, though. I guess you could say it's as close as I've come to being a landlord lol! A couple years ago, my hubby and I went on vacation and had to leave our five-year-old German Shepherd/Husky mix behind. We decided to have one of my husband's friends - a bachelor in his early 20s who still lived at home with his parents - watch our house and dog. Apparently, we didn't know this guy as well as we thought. We gave him simple instructions and cut him a lot of slack because he was going to have a house to himself away from his parents and so on. That's every bachelor's dream having space to himself after living with his parents for so long, you know? Well, our main rule was that he was not have anyone on the property while we were gone, including his family, unless it were an emergency, and my family had to go over there. I'm a complete neat freak, and my worst nightmare had materialized when we got back. First of all, we were texting the guy several hours before we were going to be home. He was staying in our room and bed, so we wanted him up and pretty much out of the house by the time we got home. We'd been driving through the night and were extremely tired. All we wanted to do was go to bed once we got back. He didn't respond to any of our texts...a bad sign! We gave him plenty of warning, but when we got home, there was not one, but two cars in our driveway. Another bad sign. Once we got inside, I first noticed the locker room smell. Ugh! We didn't have A/C at the time, and I knew it'd been hot, but we have an attic/vent fan that usually does the trick. Next, I saw a guy on the couch wrapped up in a $300 quilt my hubby's grandma had made us as a gift for our wedding - for decoration only, not for a sweaty guy's blanket! Gross!! Our "friend" was still in our bed sleeping, so my husband had to go wake him and the guy on the couch up - incredibly awkward! I couldn't wait till they left. Also, the poor dog looked like he hadn't been fed or paid attention to. He'd been left outside in his pen pretty much all week, and again, it was a hot week. Not the ideal weather for a Husky to spend outside! The sink was full of filthy dishes. It was a horrible thing to come home to after a nice vacation, but we never made the mistake of having him dog- and house-sit anymore! Needless to say, I'm glad the house didn't burn down or anything. Bachelors aren't the best men for the job, in my opinion - lol.

hi deae alaskanray, thats a bit much of a mess, really. My mother was a perfectionist and I am no neatnik at all so I will tell you that there are more important things in life than a spotless household. LOL My husband also is no neatnik. I thought he is, when I first visited him as his place looked like these glossy magazines. Unreal for a bachelor..... but then later I learned he didnt do much for three weeks except dishes of course and then when it was time for me to visit him again it was a good push to put him into gear..... grin...... Sorry I digress. We are no neatniks but we have the shoes off rule around the apartment. Dirty dishes into the right side sink (we have a double sink in the kitchen) and dirty clothes into one of the hampers in the bathroom. Plus of course no food rotring in the computer room etc. His desk is so messy that I wont be able to find anything and I dont have to as I ask if I suspect he has something I need, and I am a paper mess queen but we can live with that.