matola

@matola (32)

Tanzania • Age 56

Joined myLot 16 years ago

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If a married woman has no kids, does that make her less of a woman?

polaris714 @polaris714 (607) • Philippines 17 Jul 08

My friend has been married for 10 years, but until now they are still childless. She really wants to have kids, but so far no luck. And lately she has been lamenting that she feels as if she makes a poor wife and inferior as a...

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matola I think it depends on the culture you are in .In Africa a married woman with no kids has a very slim chance of surviving her marriage. Even if her husband loves her the in laws will do everything to frustrate the two of them.But from what i gather in he...

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are you a bread winner?

funtasticsakura @funtasticsakura (133) • Philippines 10 Jul 08

Are you a bread winner?It's hard to be a bread winner of the family.I am the eldest of 5 all girls.We used to live a hard life,i've have'nt finished my college.But i'm not disappointed with that,although i wanted to have a...

family

support

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matola I admire your courage,few people would do that,and 5 siblings is a lot BUT i think you should not overdo, when they grow up and go away you will need that degree,so try and find a way to get your degree.

11 Jul 08

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Family or Boyfriend?

Sammyjoz33 @Sammyjoz33 (19) • United States 10 Jul 08

For the past three years i have been seeing a boy who I am pretty sure one day i will marry. Ever since the fist day of telling my mom about him she has not approved. until about three months ago i had hid the relationship from...

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matola Has she suggested anyone else? you haven't said why she disapproves,probably if you tell us then we can give suggestions.

11 Jul 08

Love Marriage VS Arrange Marriage

Ricky007 @Ricky007 (512) 11 Jul 08

What do you think friends, which is more successful.. Luv marriage or arrange marriage and why??? Share your views here..

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matola Ricky,i was always a believer of true love and i married the man i was deeply in love with.After 20 years of marriage and going through highs and lows, he got a well paying job and all of a sudden he was cheating on me,only a quota of his pay was coming home...

11 Jul 08

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does my husband deserves another chance?

sophie_142005 @sophie_142005 (52) • Philippines 2 Jul 08

my husband and i had a very serious problem.. it almost ruin our family.. he cheated on me many times and this time i gave up.. i returned everything including our wedding ring.. i packed his clothes and all his belongings.. and...

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matola hi sophie,its so sad that when you are cheated on it feels so bad that it puts your confidence down and makes you loose self esteem.why the hell should you go to the extremes of looking better,cooking better,having a face lift and so on!? i don't think he is...

3 Jul 08

The truth is revealed...

cream97 @cream97 (29087) • United States 16 Jun 08

Well, some of you at myLot know the story about my sister-in-law trying to break my marriage up.. Well yesterday, my husband and I had a long talk. He told me the reason why he has taken the old numbers out of his cell phone, is...

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matola cream29,mabe you dont know this but i learnt it through my 20+ years of marriage. sometimes they cheat and realize they have done wrong and come back with more love than before,so dont sweat,just love him when he is there and dont think about it when he isnt...

1 Jul 08

Marriage on the rock

gretarose @gretarose (11) • Philippines 29 Jun 08

What will you do if you fall out of love of your husband? Will still keep your marriage for the sake of your children or you will decide to go out in your marriage? Just want an opinion for my friend whose is that situation right...

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matola Some people would find it hard to beleive but it does happen due to a lot of reasons the most common one being betrayal.personally i hold on for the sake of the children if they were too young and move out when they grow older.

1 Jul 08

Been getting ghostly visitors- what would you do?

arcadian @arcadian (930) • United States 4 Aug 07

I read tarot cards in a small shop- and this week I have had two uncanny experiences during the readings. A woman came into thebooth and sat down. A teen age boy was standing in front of her, but there was no room for him, I knew...

ghosts with messages

tarot cards

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matola hi arcadian,i once had my palms read that was about 20 yrs back, and the guy said i would have 4 children. now am 41 yrs old off contraceptives but only have one 15 year old son.Did i miss anything?any ideas?

23 Jun 08

grumpy wife

justadevil @justadevil (65) 10 Jun 08

Thats me a grumpy wife, Hw makes me grumpy, nothing i do is right, i speak and i get don't be silly, if he not careful i will wollop him with a frying pan, he only really nice when he wants a bit of the other

wife

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matola If your not careful,the grumpiness will turn into an ulcer, or premature Grey hair or even age lines on your face. if he says" don't be silly" just laugh it off!it might change his attitude

17 Jun 08

i need moderators

urssunil4u @urssunil4u (44) • India 6 Apr 08

i am just established the site www.fulldownloadz.fourm5.com which is a fourm site i am an indian. i need moderators for my site and i will give share on my earnings also. so if any one is interested please contact me hear...

urgent help

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matola Hi am interested but i would like to know what exactly you want me to do

17 Jun 08

Red Cross Disaster Fund has been depleted

estherlou @estherlou (5015) • United States 17 Jun 08

The Red Cross has depleted all of its funds for disaster relief. I'm shocked. I'm also shocked at myself to think that they have a "never-ending" supply of money and help for all of us that need it. They have responded to 30 plus...

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matola This is not good news since you can imagine what it feels to be involved in a disaster and not expect anyone to come to your rescue.

17 Jun 08

My FATE is in your (the MyLot Community's) Hands!!!! Help Me!!!

buldwgz @buldwgz (1489) • United States 8 Jun 08

Ok, my wife usually has some very good ideas and I pretty much do most of the things that she reccomends...I mean, she is smart and gorgeous and I am in Love with her, so why not. Now, however, I think I need some more opinions,...

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matola Hey buldwgz, the very idea that you need our opinions spells out something- the earing is not for you and thats it! BUT-break it to her gently, you respect her opinions and i think she should do the same.Just imagine piercing your ears and hating it whenever...

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What can man do if wife go in vication alone?

alkurishy @alkurishy (2068) • Iraq 16 Jun 08

I have this life now me and my kids without my wife, becouse of an argent reason my wife foced to travel to her family and leave me alone with my kids, I am so confused cos she have to do all the home duties she is so important...

kids

lover

wife

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matola Has it ever occurred to you that she has a life outside your marriage? She has a family who occasionally need her ?That she also needs time alone? you miss her because she does everything around the house?Its time for you to see that she may have too much to...

16 Jun 08

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Are you a punctual person?

heartsoul @heartsoul (311) • China 13 Jun 08

Again, I waited my friend Tom 1 hour more than the time we made for the appointment. He is always unpunctual and I'm used to his being late. Maybe for the next appointment I should put the time 1 hour ahead. I hope he will be...

punctual

respect

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matola Am not a punctual person but not as unpunctual as your friend Tom. I don't disrespect my colleagues but i think i have poor time management. believe me tom does not feel good about being late it just happens!

16 Jun 08

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Let's start creating our own great life!

xiaojing1226 @xiaojing1226 (236) • China 14 Jun 08

A great life doesn't happen by accident.A great life is the result of allocating your time,energy,thoughts,and hard work towards what you want your life to be.Stop setting yourself up for stress and failure,and start setting up...

a great life

life

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matola Great tips but i would like some insights on stuff .Simplify- could it also mean,don't ignore the small stuff there could be something big in it?I have a friend who always wants to work in prestigious places where the competition is too big that he finds...

16 Jun 08

Who is your best friend?

abarrojr @abarrojr (85) • Philippines 14 Jun 08

Who is your most trusted friend? someone who has been with you through good and bad times

best friend

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matola My most trusted friend and lifelong girlfriend(about 30 yrs)is a lady called Irene.Mind you am female too.she is now married and has 4 children and lives a long way from home(Africa) in china but still has time to call me,visit me, and link me to other...

16 Jun 08

Dutiful wife

@mayka123 @mayka123 (16583) • India 27 May 08

Who exactly is a dutiful wife? One who always listens to her husband and does only what he says and likes? One who is at his beck and call every minute of the day and does not make some time for herself? One who only thinks of his...

dutiful wife

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matola I think being a wife doesent mean a slave sentence! infact the more you hover around him the more suffocating it becomes for the both of you.Going out with friends helps to put new ideas in your mind that you can in turn share at home with him.Its about time...

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what are the limits to a womans responsibility

matola @matola (32) • Tanzania 26 May 08

You do the housework,help the kids with there homework,go out to work for money,look after your husbands interests,look after yourself(or you will be termed as an old hag)etc,etc.Where does it stop?when can you relax and still be...

working overtime

Ammonia in our bodies

matola @matola (32) • Tanzania 26 May 08

Is it true that the ammount of Ammonia in our bodies is responsible for gray hair,others greying earlier than others etc?please enlighten me.

going grey

gray hair

toxic ammonia

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To Dye or not to Dye?

thebeaddoodler @thebeaddoodler (4262) • Lubbock, Texas 25 May 08

I've had people ask me for the last 30 or so years why I don't dye my hair. I started going gray in my late 20's and have faced that question many times. My answer is generally "I believe in growing old gracefully", but in truth...

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matola Personally i have grey hair but only at the beginning near my face,and i really hate it!so i wont share your views of growing old gracefully.But i found a remedy that keeps me comfortable,the sap from the leaves of the henna plant.Freshly plucked ,grounded and...

26 May 08

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