What is the interpretation of ‘Missing in action’, here on mylot.

@dpk262006 (58673)
Delhi, India
August 2, 2011 2:40am CST
Hi all! Some of the dear friends here on mylot observed and told me that I was missing in action in the recent past. I am perplexed and unable to comprehend the puzzle. I am unable to understand their observations. I am very much active on mylot, however they find me ‘missing’ from action? I keep responding to various posts of my friends/other mylotters from time to time, provided I am on line. Does the inactivity on mylot mean that I start less number of posts that too occasionally, as is expected of me? Does it mean that I do not participate in their discussions regularly or miss to respond to their discussions? Does it mean that I do not post counter-comments to their comments or their responses to my posts? Does it mean that even if am absent from mylot for 2-3 days, it is assumed that ‘am missing in action’? Will my friends help me resolve this riddle so that I could come to know the parameters which will make me considered as ‘active’ on mylot.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
2 Aug 11
Hi deepak, I feel that when someone tells you that you are missing in action, it means that you are not active since sometime.If one is logging in but not posting, then also one can say that the person is missing in action...
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
The friends who say that I am missing in action, simply means that am not responding to their posts or comments.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
3 Aug 11
Oh O;k got it ....I have done that so many times mainly because of lack of time, when I log on I try to respond to as many discussions as possible and may easily miss out some of my friends' discussions...
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 11
I think it means all of what you described here. When you open mylot there is a section when you will notice whoever of your friends is responding or getting a BR or commenting on photos and pictures... I did not see you there, at all. It could be mylot slackness...? Normally you are quick in counter comment on my discussion, but I notice it takes time now for you to do that. It could be that you were not online when I commenting...? I did not post a lot of discussions, so I would not know what happened with your other friends' discussions...?
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
Hi Jen! It means that if I fail to comply with any of the parameters mentioned in my post, I will be coutned as 'Missing in Action'? As regards, my appearance on mylot home page, I would say that I just cannot do anything about it because when I open my home page, I can view activities of friends not my own activities (on the left side of the page). It is also possible, mylot authorities perhaps ignore me, while listing my activities on home page. I might have missed some of your comments because I would not have been on line (and am not on line 24x7 ). I have taken note of your observation. Thanks for dropping in.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
3 Aug 11
At least I would say that I am lazy or I am bored for the moment in responding or commenting to others' discussion even when I open mylot everyday... so what's your excuse?
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
I can understand your point. I try my best to respond to my friends' post and to post my comments/counter-comments. However, due to paucity of time, sometimes I miss these activities. (Hope you will understand?)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I assume that some of your "friends" expect you to start many posts like you used to. They don't see any of your posts so they assume you are missing in action. I , on the other hand, assume you must be busy or . most likely, the posts I am starting you can't respond to. No Worries , True friends will send a PM and ask how you are doing , not whine about you are missing.
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• United States
3 Aug 11
If they are True friends then they will worry and Want to know what is going on!
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
You are very right Sara that my friends expect me to start new post, every other day, which does not become possible for me due to so many preoccupations. Yeah, true friends, if they wish to communicate with me or want to know about my whereabout, could use other channels to get in touch with me.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
hello Deepak, I don't know why are you getting so upset. All that your friends want to say is that they miss you.......It is a compliment for you because if you are all the time active and inaction and yet people are missing you then it means you are indispensable and your fans just cannot do without you........it means you are everybody's favorite and so you should be happy and smiling........ . There is no riddle and no puzzle in this, it is just indirect appreciation
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
2 Aug 11
You are welcome deepak
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
Hello apsara! You have made me speechless with your logical statements.. It is great to hear that my friends actually want to convey that if am not here, they miss me. I just cannot be omnipresent . Even though am 'active', I may miss some of the posts/comments of my friends and whosoever does not find me in his/her discussion will 'mark' me absent. Many thanks for dropping in and making the discussion interesting.
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@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Aug 11
You were supposed to be on here working(that's the action part)and missing is self explanatory. If people that usually see your responses and discussions don't see them for a period of several days then they begin to wonder about you. I think 'missing in action' is just a cute way of saying you were missed.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
Hi Cel! I loved your statement that 'missing in action' is a cute way to say that 'my friends are missing me'.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 11
Whosoever says that 'am missing in action' will take the credit.
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@celticeagle (157563)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Aug 11
I thought they said that not me. I'll take credit though. hehe
• Pamplona, Spain
2 Aug 11
Hiya dpk, Do you check in your Friends List to see if they are all turned on to receive your discussions and responses? Well maybe that is not the problem. Sometimes I have to go and check responses for myself as they don´t reach me either. I don´t think you are missing in action as I have your discussions and responses but I don´t have all the time I would like to answer all of you at the same time. What about if I had eight arms like an Octopus eh? I could finish off all the backlog I have in no time say an hour and its all gone. Should I be so lucky. He is already trying to persuade me to get off here and I have only been here a little while as you can see by what I have posted. You see a few or a lot of your Friends could be on your list but turned off and they won´t receive all your responses. So all you have to do is go and check every so often to see if everyone is set to "on" to receive them. It happens to me too you know as well.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
Hi lov! I am bit confused to read your response. How can I check from my end whether my friends keep their notification'on' for my discussions, it is for them to decide and them to see. To check it, I will have to PM each and every friend, is not it? Thanks for confirming that you do find me 'active' as you keep receiving notifications for my posts. I understand that we sometimes do not find time to write our response or to post our comments.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
2 Aug 11
My feeling is Deepak, when people only respond to discussions there is a chance that friends may not choose the same discussion[say if I am going to call you "missing in action" and I myself am participating rarely, then we may at times choose different topics to respond and miss one another. THis gives a feeling of "Oh ! here you are again; it is quite some time since I saw you" comment when we participate in the same discussion. On the other hand if you are going to start discussions then there is a bleak chance of a friend missing this . Whether a person is active or not too active , there is a probability of amny of us choosing friends' discussions to respond. So, when a person does not start too many discussions this gives a feeling of being "absent'' or 'missing in action" When a person starts a discussion and writes comments to all responses , he is definitely seen more, and by more people.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
Hi Kala! It means that till we bang or cross path with each other, it will be presumed that we are inactive?. I got your point that when we start a new discussions, most of our friends come to know either throgh notifications of mylot home page, that we have started a new discussion and they consider us active, irrespective of the fact whether they are going to respond or not. However, I find it difficult to start new discussions frequently, due to so many reasons. Thanks for dropping in. How are you doing? Deepak
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
2 Aug 11
In my interpretation of 'missing in action' (MIA) in mylot is totally non participation either posting or responding. Our presence in mylot isn't felt when we just respond with no posting of discussions. Our paths doesn't cross unless we post discussions which friends can read and respond to. I am always here too but only responding to discussions and whenever I happened to be in a friend's discussion I am always greeted with words like 'it is nice to see you back again'.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
Hi Zandi! Let me also say - 'it is nice to see you back again'. . I can understand your point that those who keep starting discussions very frequently are much noticed rather than who keep responding only. You see - some of the mylotters like me just cannot start a new discussions every day, due to so many reasons. Therefore, for those friends, who want me to see starting a new discussion every other day will label me as 'inactive' . Thanks for kick starting the post.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I would think you are just "missing in action" from their posts only. Not that you are doing it intentionally of course, just that you had been busy with others, and they'd been busy with others, that neither of you "bumped" into each other here at the hallways of mylot.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
Hi SCG! How are you doing? Am impressed with your response. I fully agree with you that when dear friends do not cross their paths with me, they assume that am missing in action. However, it is always not possible to bump with each other everyday.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
2 Aug 11
I belong to the ‘missing in action’ club too because I no longer start discussions but spend all the time I have here responding to my friends’ posts. The reason for this is that due to a change in my circumstances my time on MyLot is limited although I am here almost every day. I think the people who don’t participate in the same discussions as us presume we are not here at all.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
It means paula you and me fall in the same category because we do not start discussions so frequently. I love responding to my friends' discussions and posting my comments rather than starting my own discussions. You are right that we do not cross path (we means we and our friends) they feel that we are missing in action. Thanks for dropping in.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
In my opinion it means you are not active. But,you are active...so,I don't know what does the person means when s/he tells you that. You are visiting mylot almost everyday and posting responses everywhere. Maybe ,let that person say what does it means. have a good day always jaiho®
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
[b]Hello Jai! Many thanks[/b] for confirming that am 'active' here and should not be marked as 'absent'. If they (those who observe that am MIA) think that starting a new discussions is the primary condition to appear as active, then I fail to quality their parameters.
@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Hello friend! No idea why they're saying that because you've been very active as far as i can see and i guess because i constantly hear from you. Maybe they were referring to you not having your own started discussion. Well, you just made one today.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
[b]Hello Toni! Many thanks[/b] for vouching for me that am very much active here on mylot and should not be counted as 'missing in action'. If they think that starting new discussions is the only criterion for counting anyone as 'active', then I feel, I fail to fulfill that condition because I just cannot start a new discussion every other day due to so many reasons.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
hi dpk, If you are actively participated here then suddenly they don't see you for a day or two they will think you are missing in action means they are not able to see you around like what you used to do. happy mylotting
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
Hi bhaby! Practically it is not possible for me to be here on mylot each day......, it happens sometimes that I do not log in to mylot for 2-3 days.
@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
Hello DPK, In my opinion "missing in action" here on MYLOT means something the person is not participating in discussion means he/she is not responding to the discussion or starting any discussion. But you say that you are active on MYLOT then i think that person might not be active then as he has not noted your presence.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Aug 11
The myLot interpretation seems to be when a person (yes, just one) hasn't seen you around for a while so I guess they assume you are not on the site. I have several times been greeted with..."I've wondered where you are...nice to see you back " and yet, I am here every day. Sometimes I can be away all day or for part of the day so I get behind but I still come on every day.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
18 Aug 11
Your point is relevant that even if a single friend misses us, s/he may point out about our absence. Thanks for joining us.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Aug 11
I'm not really sure what they mean since you are active here. I do not start discussions. I only respond to them so if someone does not see me starting any, then they may think I am not here at Mylot anymore also.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
3 Aug 11
Hi step! Yeah, those who only respond are not noticed so easily.
@mayka123 (16555)
• India
3 Aug 11
MIA would mean that you have not been regularly responding to all discussions started by your friends just as you have not responded to a couple of my last discussions . I know you do not regularly come online and I dont think you have the notifications on for all friends. So may be you are missing out on a few discussions and as a result your friends are missing your responses
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 11
Did you check closely that I have not responded to your posts?
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@mayka123 (16555)
• India
6 Aug 11
Yes I am very sure
@garson (884)
• United States
15 Aug 11
You asked too many questions for something that you don't have to worry about. I think 'missing in action' started as a military phrase. Nowadays, it has been used for inactivity or for someone that is hardly seen or appear. There are other more important things in life than mylot. It's up to users how they want to use it. Some get involve in many discussions daily or weekly or monthly. Some just login every now and then or when they have time or mood for it. In other words, you are not committed or do not need to be committed to mylot. I go into mylot as I go through my Yahoo weekly inbox. I've been receiving daily digest. About twice or three times a week or sometimes more, I would go through this daily digest and choose 1 I would like to respond to. Many times, the discussions are not that appealing or not interesting. Lots of time I find discussions that are too similar or too familiar, meaning I see them more than once or twice and more.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
18 Aug 11
I am not worrying as such but was trying to enhance the sphere of my knowledge. You are right that there are other things than mylot in life, which needed to attended first. Thanks for sharing your views.
• United States
22 Aug 11
Hello dpk! Very sorry for my so late response here. I too was MIA from myLot for a good 2 1/2 weeks and actually for about a month still not my same self yet. I had my step-daughter in town from England and since my boyfriend can only see her one month out of the year it was time to be MIA here. I had noticed early on prior to me being MIA that you too were MIA, hope all is okay and MIA for me means not around, no where to be seen and no communication what so ever. Hope all is well with you.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
23 Aug 11
HI HWG! Please do not feel 'sorry', I can understand that you were busy, therefore, you just could not respond to my post. I was also missing in action in month of June and July, due to some personal reasons. Thanks for dropping in.
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
Basically, being "missing in action" means your participation in discussions is not being felt, right? Probably, considering the number of posts you've already made, in terms of percentage your current posts might just be too small now, right? I mean, with the increase in total number of posts might come with the rate of posts per log-in? I dunno. Just a weird conclusion.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 11
You see one cannot be on mylot each day and responding to various posts and starting one's own discussions. I get limited time for mylotting and I make most of it.