I need to blame 'Someone'.... okay, 'Something' too would suffice for now

@thesids (22180)
Bhubaneswar, India
April 3, 2016 3:14am CST
Hello MyLot Ever since the site started paying, and friends and folks from all across started coming in, I have been almost happy. But... (I wonder why they invented this word) When Mylot stopped paying a few years back, many migrated to other venues. many lost communication with their best friends (yes, that is me). Then one good day, it was news that the site has started paying again and the hopes of finding and reconnecting with the lost friends became alive again . But... (oh no! not again) Some of the old friends returned, found the ways of the new site quite cumbersome - so they left again. Some of the old friends informed that some of the friends of the past are no more with us and have left us on their journey to the Heavenly Abode. Now, I do need to blame someone, something whatever I can for the loss. I have lost more dear friends that I had made here during the past stay. A remedy can be - Please put up your contact details (WHAT?) - maybe your facebook link or even your blog or url on your profile so that some of your friends can try locating you in case anything goes wrong with something somewhere again. OR Would you respond to a PM from your friend here who asked you about your contact information? Losing a friend is painful... and those who have lost a friend would understand that better. Have a Great Sunday. Cheers, Sid.
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• United States
3 Apr 16
Hello Sids. I see your focus is as mine is here. The friendships have taken front and center to earnings here. We do wonder where everyone still is to this day.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
For sure ocean. during the past years I have been around, I have got attached to so many of these souls. Missing out on even one of them seems like a personal loss to me. I am glad that you did share your email with me and now we are better in touch - if anything goes wrong again, at least we can find out if either of us is doing good. I agree, I am lazy when it comes to contacting, but still, I do see it as something positive.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
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• United States
3 Apr 16
@thesids Indeed, it is best to have friends personal way of contact. I am lucky to have you, blessed my friend, thanks you always
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@rina110383 (24497)
3 Apr 16
I'd choose not to put anything, another reason why I removed my blog. Someone asked me to leave my contact number through PM. I didn't reply. I prefer no interactions outside myLot.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
I respect your views dear rina. But then, being into an online world (more applicable to you and me and others who work online) sometimes, these contacts can become helpful - not only professionally but personally too (just my view).
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@rina110383 (24497)
3 Apr 16
@thesids I respect yours too. We are so respectful.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
@rina110383 That how it is and should be. We all are individuals and I believe in respecting and taking friends as they are
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
3 Apr 16
You have my email address Sid! One of my friends here told me that when mylot returned he hardly got any respond and quit on mylot. He asked for my email address and we are keeping in touch with each other there. I'm sorry if I don't respond fast on email sometimes. It's because I hardly open my gmail. I use the same email address for my hotmail account too so you can also contact me there.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
I am glad that we could stay in touch even when mylot was not there. And though we did not interact too much (via emails), I was happy knowing that you were doing good and an email definitely helped.
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@toniganzon (72317)
• Philippines
3 Apr 16
@thesids Receiving an email from a friend always makes me happy. If you wish, i could send you a snail mail too.
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@silvermist (19706)
• India
3 Apr 16
@thesids I think if a friend sends PM then definitely many of us would be giving contact details.Have a nice day.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
That is so very nice of you. In fact not many of us had a clue that our friends whom we had been interacting for years would just disappear only because MyLot would stop paying. Also, on another note, not many of us think of the bad things first... sometimes being positive and optimistic makes us procrastinate more.
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@silvermist (19706)
• India
4 Apr 16
@thesids We never think about the contingency when suddenly we are cut off from our friends and we do not know how to contact them.
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@Jessicalynnt (50525)
• Centralia, Missouri
3 Apr 16
I totally agree, I have worried about some now and then and had no way to check!
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
I am happy that your profile has that url where one can find information about you and am sure, over there, you would have a few close friends who would know about you. One of our friends here, I found her on Facebook (because of the group). But she has only a very few friends (5 or 6) and unfortunately, none of them have responded to my need - at least they could drop in line only to say she is doing fine.
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• Centralia, Missouri
3 Apr 16
@thesids right, I hate the not knowing!
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@Daljinder (23222)
• Bangalore, India
3 Apr 16
Hey Sid! I hadn't lost a friend here yet but I know that I wouldn't want to lose contact with any of the friends I have made here. I like your idea. I will put my facebook link in my bio. It may take some time since my pc had crashed and my phone is not letting me access the settings option from the drop down menu. It is too low and disappears at the bottom. But I will put it up there.
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@vandana7 (98515)
• India
6 Apr 16
What is to be done there...that does not look like facebook page..
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
During the small time you were away, I dunno, many might have missed you for sure. I would say I did but I doubt if that would hold. You see, when you have nowhere to go and stay 24x7 at home and in front of computers and online, and on a site like Mylot, like it or not, you start getting attached with those whom you interact almost daily. A set of friends. [Initially, I believed it is just something Indian, but no, I was wrong as I did realize many from West too feel same - and most of my friends here whom I stayed connected over FB are from West.] I will keep looking out for your FB link and will send you a Friendship request to start with for sure.
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@Daljinder (23222)
• Bangalore, India
6 Apr 16
@thesids My pc is gonna take time. So, here's the link: @vandana7 for you too.
Daljinder Kaur is on Facebook. Join Facebook to connect with Daljinder Kaur and others you may know. Facebook gives people the power to share and makes...
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
6 Apr 16
I did respond to such a PM, that too with my email address. But I am not going to do that anytime soon. Not even to the damsel who offered me blankets and food! She is a sweet person, but I am boring and intend to remain that way. Anyone can PM me on myLot. That goes to my mails and sooner or later I may decide to check the mails. In case I am nowhere, well....
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• India
6 Apr 16
@thesids change "where" to "more"... rule of world
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Apr 16
My Mysterious kid brother But wait. What makes you think you are nowhere... err... ummm... okay, will be nowhere?
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
6 Apr 16
@hora_fugit That wont happen this early. Prayers will always work in case you need them...
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@vandana7 (98515)
• India
5 Apr 16
Oh yes...I was about to leave too..till allknowing helped me increase the script size. That was something I needed the previous time...I would not have left then .lol
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@vandana7 (98515)
• India
5 Apr 16
@thesids ..No...in between...when they stopped paying ...they changed the script size to much smaller one. Pretty much like what Bubblews had at the beginning. I wrote mails after mails but there was no change in script size...finally I was leaving myLot, the second time...when allknowing told me how to increase the script size. Now I have no issues on that front. The distance between the monitor and my eyes is slightly closer to three plus feet.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Apr 16
I remember many great discussions and interactions between us on the earlier mylot. ...and I doubt if it was the script size back then or even now.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Apr 16
@vandana7 Ah right. I noticed that during the days when I would log in and start hopping on the profiles of all on my friend list - and try to find anyone who had left a hint of where to find them. By that time many had deleted their profiles and I could find very limited number of oldies who had links to their existence beyond mylot.
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@much2say (53650)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Apr 16
I have been meaning to set up a FB account for my online friends (I've been saying that for YEARS). The reason I kept anonymous all this time was to keep my personal and online relations VERY separate . . . as I often vent about the personal relations to my online relations! . Oh help me should all the stories leak So this prompts me to do it sooner rather than later. Of course you can PM me anytime here - and I shall let you know as soon as I set something up. And I hope I can somehow leave instructions so if/when the time comes, my friends here can be informed about little ol' me. I'm sure you would want to know the truth should I happen to overdose on coffee and chocos . I know, I have lost some friends too. It's good to know rather than "wondering" as we often assume the worst.
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@much2say (53650)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Apr 16
@thesids Yep - I don't do any of that "discussing" on FB - I only play nice there I actually know how to find many of you . . . in case something happens to our PM system here. And - what was I thinking - you and I would have to fight for who would overdose on coffee an chocos first!
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Apr 16
@much2say No fights. I wont let you overdose at least on those two things Yes, Facebook is a boon. Most of us have accounts there. and the better thing is that there is a Group created by Lamb, and it has many of us as members. Also, there is a document available which can be handy to identify who is who - many use a different name here and finding them at Facebook gets difficult without their link. So this document provides us info about their FB names along with their names here and when Bubs existed, there.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
as I often vent about the personal relations In my opinion Facebook is definitely the wrong place for this but I have seen them do this again and again. I will keep that invite in mind and ask you sometime sooner ... in case you have set up the Facebook should I happen to overdose on coffee and chocos Do you think with me around, that can ever happen to you
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
7 Apr 16
Yes, i remember professor . He would just suddenly YM me before . But you have me in your FB account .
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
7 Apr 16
Professor was a very loving soul. I recall meeting him once at the railway station - he had informed me of his departure time, and I along with my wife had been to the station to meet him. We were also in touch over phone and he would always ask me about my wife too. He had too many ailments. And one day a PM from another Mylotter (who is also on FB - tigeraunt, if you remember her) mentioned that his health was critical. I called him up but it was too late. I even remember it was Jan 7th. I wished I could have gone to spend some hours or days at their place which is about 500 kilometers from here.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
8 Apr 16
@SIMPLYD Yes, I did expect Kalyani mam to be around maybe after some months but you know things are much complicated in Indian Households specially with their age group. Maybe she finds the memories of Professor here and so she did not re surface or even, maybe she does not know MyLot has started paying again.. On another note, I havent seen tigeraunt, jaiho back on newer Mylot and even on Facebook, both of them are not active. Jaiho had some deaths in her family just about the time when MyLot had restarted and folks were coming in, and even posted a discussion about her return and delays. But that is all. I feel worried at times and think of contacting them via Messaging at FB...
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@SIMPLYD (90727)
• Philippines
8 Apr 16
@thesids He is a very good friend , even if i haven't met him personally . She treated me like his sister . And i love that because he was the brother i never had . It's nice that you have met him personally and a friend for real . Yes, i remember tigeraunt , the Filipina whom he befriended while here in the Philippines . It's sad though that you weren't able to see him on his last days . How i wish his wife , can again be active here to share her stories of professor .
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@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
3 Apr 16
Do you need mine ?
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
Was that a Question If so, send me your FB.
@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
3 Apr 16
@thesids yes it was, check your PM
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
@sjvg1976 Thanks. By tomorrow you would have my email delivered.
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• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Apr 16
I would have no problem giving my contact info to someone if they asked for it. I have lost some friends here too, and I hate that. I wish they would come back! =(
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
I wish they would come back! Amen!!! Unfortunately some of mine are nowhere to be found. We had a discussion earlier and other interactions too wherin I was told about the sad demise of a few of them. And for the others, no one really seems to know anything about either their whereabouts or even well being. That makes me feel so worried for them. But i always pray wherever they are, lord, keep them healthy and happy. I had found you on Facebook and I am happy that we are connected there. Thanks for mentioning that you would have no issues in giving out your contact info.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
@LovingMyBabies Sadly the discussion (url beneath) informed us that hardWorkingGurl is no more with us and has left us on her way to the Heavenly Abode. And she was a dear friend to almost all who knew her here
myLot can be such a cool place. Many of us have made friends with people over the years here that we never would have met anywhere else. But sometimes, we only...
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• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Apr 16
@thesids I don't know exactly if this is her name but has anyone heard from hardworkinggirl? I know she was here long ago and I really liked her but I haven't seen her in forever!
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@rebelann (110754)
• El Paso, Texas
4 Apr 16
Gheee, I'm so sorry you've suffered such losses, that isn't fun at all. I vaguely remember when I first joined, it didn't make any sense at the time so I didn't come back for years. I love this new format though, discussions are so much more fun than the old Gather or Bubblews format of posting and getting credit for comments made to the post.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
I remember a few interactions between us on the earlier Mylot. I am glad that you are liking this newer format and yes, though it took a while to get accustomed to the newer format (old habits and preferences take time to die or overridden by the changes), I do appreciate it too. I have no issues with the format. But then, some friends who are older in age 9say above 60) did find things difficult and also had other things at hand. Hence they left. I wished they came back and stayed to get tuned to the newer look and feel.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
@rebelann You have a right to laugh here more so because i did not know that at your age, you are still much into the modern technology. Unfortunately not all your age are that actively interested.
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@rebelann (110754)
• El Paso, Texas
4 Apr 16
@thesids I know I shouldn't laugh but I feel like the odd woman out, I'm 66 and love to fiddle round on the web and learn new apps .... but I draw the line at intense video games although I do love solitaire and bejeweled when I have time.
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@jaboUK (64363)
• United Kingdom
24 Apr 16
I would and have responded to friends asking for my contact details. Quite a bit of that was going on when it was clear that Bubblews was going under. We didn't have a pm system there, but one of us would put our email address in the comments on a post, and then delete it when the other party had got it.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Apr 16
I wasnt there at Bubs but I was told that the rules there too were quite strict in terms of sending out personal information. I never knew that it did not have any messaging system except the discussions and comments. So it all sounds good that some people used the commenting system to send out their emails. I feel happy to know that you too value the relationships that develop here or on sites like this
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Apr 16
@jaboUK I wonder why I always feel scared of responding to you despite the fact that I follow you here. If you do not mind, I somehow had an impression that you are more of the non interactive types - as I did see some of your responses earlier being just one liners. But our recent interactions on the two discussions (this and the other one) does make me feel that I sincerely misinterpreted you. Right now, after these interactions, I do feel you are just one of us around, and you are as caring a friend as many others whom I have befriended here.
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@jaboUK (64363)
• United Kingdom
25 Apr 16
@thesids I really do value them, I've made more friends than I've ever had in my life. I really do think of them as true friends too.
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@AmbiePam (84628)
• United States
19 Apr 16
I prefer to blame everything on the government. Mylotters pass away? Government. Break a leg? Government. *Woe to the person who thinks I'm serious.
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@AmbiePam (84628)
• United States
19 Apr 16
Yep, multiple replies.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
16 Apr 16
Your suggestion is appreciated, yes link with the blog or facebook id will be advantage and keep in touch with the members so that we will be knowing the latest news about the sites.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Apr 16
Akka, as we are already connected at Facebook, it is all good. Somehow, I think that if we all had some place where to find us outside Mylot would always be helpful/handy.
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
4 Apr 16
Hi bro If I am not wrong you already have my email address.. Don't you?! So we can contact anytime bro. Yes as compare to past we have very less friends remain on mylot. Hope they will be back again.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
Of course, I have your email and that is how I could reach out to you and inform you about the new version of Mylot. And your emails also mentioned something about what you do in real life... but sadly I was not aware about your marriage. I need an invitation now to attend the ceremony
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@LadyDuck (454862)
• Switzerland
3 Apr 16
I will add the link to my blog, so that people can find me.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
Thanks a lot Anna. It will be great to have a look at your blog... at least I am interested. And on another note, the same blog can help me find some more information about you
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
@LadyDuck I hope that some of your friends would try finding you via your blog and for others, I do think it might be late, but now it makes you more prepared
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@LadyDuck (454862)
• Switzerland
3 Apr 16
@thesids I also lost many friends from Bubblews and it's a shame I had no emails or another way to contact them.
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• United States
3 Apr 16
big hugs!! i know that feelin', hon. i've got my blog thingy listed i believe? though i'm prone to not dribblin' there much. i doth believe my mojo's lost.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
You have a very pleasing blog and I loved the color selections in particular. And also that blue Denim Britch. I agree, blogging is not as easy today as it was some years back. Some who do it for money (I am sure you are not) tell that making money via blogs is becoming difficult with each passing day. Though you have small number of posts, I do believe you have been busy elsewhere and as such the blog seems to have been ignored for a while. I do hope that you get your mojo back as your niche is quite good. Not many blog about horses and mother nature. I loved the pen name on your blog.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
3 Apr 16
@crazyhorseladycx You have some great love for Mother Nature and you also love your horses a lot. Letting the world know about your love for them, in today's times can be an inspiration to many.
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• United States
3 Apr 16
@thesids aw schucks, hon! i think i've jest tired'f puttin' myself out fer the entire world to see :( the thoughts'f goin' back underground seem more appealin' with each passin' day. big hugs to ya!
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
4 Apr 16
I love it when the profile has fields for social media contact, so users know it's OK to add them. Otherwise, a lot of people will avoid doing it lest they violate a rule or something.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
Well, I do not have my social media link up on my profile, but I have my website instead. It can be helpful in case of emergency as I have my phone and emails listed on the website. On another note (about the rules)- yes, I understand, but between closer friends, I think they can and should share the contact information via PMs. Unfortunately the newer version of MyLot does not have too many profile customization options like they had earlier. Probably they do not want any sort of spamming or even referral links on this site now which is all good to many
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Apr 16
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@Ruby3881 (1963)
• Canada
4 Apr 16
@thesids I tend to just keep my current contact info on my G+ profile. I guess I should add that link to my profile here!
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