~People Ask Me A Lot~
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
Valdosta, Georgia
October 18, 2016 7:28am CST
People ask me all the time and it truly leaves me puzzled. Their so surprised with me expecting my 5th child, they look at me like I have 3 heads or something. How do you handle that many? How are you still sane?
For me parenting comes naturally. I truly love being a mother and I don't find it all that difficult. I find that the parents that think it's real hard are the ones who lack in the discipline area of their children. Or the people who are not parents themselves think I'm truly insane. Lol.
My only concerns for having 5 children is having a bigger home which costs more money. And I'm not too thrilled about going through the pain of labor again either. Lol.
I'm not worried about if I can handle another child. I know God has given me the gift of being a good mom. That's one thing in this world I do know I'm good at. =)
So yes I am having 5 children-with my husband (ALL of them). Yes we will be fine. Yes I can handle it. No I'm not insane. Yes I will be Home Schooling all of them.
God willing we will all be fine. 
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42 responses
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@marlina Thank you, I'm definitely not perfect when it comes to being a mom but I do the very best I can. =) That's what matters I think.
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@marlina (154165)
• Canada
18 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies Yes, doing the best that one mom can, that's the best way to handle it.
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@Juliaacv (48633)
• Canada
18 Oct 16
Maybe those that make comments to you like that are secretly envious of your honesty and ability to raise 5 children. There are lots of things that we give up while raising a family, and I'm sure that you're no different, but some people are just a little too selfish to give anything up for themselves, but really......who doesn't just LOVE a little child, and that new baby smell?
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@Juliaacv That could be the case, I didn't really think about it that way. Yeah being a mom there's a lot I have given up for my kids but I wouldn't have it any other way. =)
Babies are so sweet and such a blessing!
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Stay blessed! @LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@sishy7 Oh my gosh yes! Some people even ask like at the stores... Eventually it just hits a nerve I guess.
I am proud to be their mom too, it's just a hint of annoyance when people look at me like I sleep around or something to have them all.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@Ladyduck If she was happy that's all that matters. =) I wouldn't want to go through labor that many times, phew!
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@LadyDuck (460346)
• Switzerland
18 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies Poor great-granny she has lived so many year pregnant.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@amnabas Thank you, i think so too. =)
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@Happy2BeMe (99386)
• Canada
18 Oct 16
Great post! I think it is probably because most people these days don't have large families so they find it surprising when they hear of one. My friend is having her 5th baby and they are all under the age of 6 so she has her hands full but she is an excellent mom. I am happy for you. I always wanted to have a large family but the man I was married to at the time did not want more then two. He didn't even really want to have a second one. He thought one was plenty. If I had been with somebody who wanted more children I definitely would have had more!
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@Happy2beme Thank you! =) She most definitely has her hands full with them all being under 6. That would be more challenging for sure. My older 3 are pretty self sufficient now so that will make things easier with having 2 little ones.
I'm sorry you didn't get to have more children like you wanted. I didn't expect to have 5 but I'm grateful for all of them. They are such blessings to me. =)
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@Happy2BeMe (99386)
• Canada
18 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies I wish I could have children with my fiance. We are both older now so that won't happen but I can't help but wonder what our children would be like.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@Happy2BeMe I'm sorry I wish you could. =(
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@GardenGerty (157839)
• United States
19 Oct 16
First of all , none of their business. Secondly, it seems to me over the years that when I was taking care of more children it was easier than fewer (home daycare). One of my best memories was an afternoon spent with seven children.. I agree that it depends on how they are raised and disciplined though. These seven had two great families .
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Oct 16
@Gardengerty Your right it isn't anyone else's business but I had to get that off my chest.
I have never found it hard taking care of children. I have babysat and worked in Daycare my whole life. Being a mom just came naturally to me. =)
@dodo19 (47133)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Oct 16
We have neighbours with six kids. They are all older than yours, as the younger two are now in grade 9, but they managed.
If you and your husband are happy with the family that you have, then that's really all that matters. My husband and I only have three kids and some people look at us as though we're insane. You're not alone in this, but we're happy with our family and that's what matters.
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@dodo19 (47133)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
18 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies It's true. you have more than two kids, and people question. I find it silly as well. It shouldn't be strange if you have 3 or more kids.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@dodo19 Thank you we are happy with our family. =) Yeah anyone with more than 2 children get looked at that way. It's silly to me.
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@annierose (19491)
• Philippines
18 Oct 16
I believe that you are a wise and strong person. People always ask questions. Don't mind them. As long as you know that you are doing your best for your family, you will always be in the right track.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@annierose Well thank you very much. =) I do my very best for my family.
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@vandana7 (99102)
• India
18 Oct 16
I have no issues with you having as many kids as you want and think you can manage, as long as you have no issues with me not having any kids because I can't manage. :) Seriously, none of my business. My opinion? Teenage is tough...we can manage them somewhat in other time..but when those hormones kick in that is pretty much like bus with four tires each one moving in different direction..and driver looking confused..why is it happening to me? But I think you will manage then as well...I suppose. I am kinda glad I don't have. I can shamelessly love babies of many others and not feel guilty about it. :) And always look for playing with babies rather than older kiddos with whom I may not have much in common.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@vandana7 I have no issue with you not having children. Not everyone wants kids and I respect that choice. =) Everyone should do what makes them happy.
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@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
18 Oct 16
I just think some people aren't really cut out to be parents.
I'm inclined to disagree with your comment regarding discipline. I think it's harder work to instill discipline in your children. Most of the parents I knew who found parenting easy were actually the ones who's children were completely out of control because they were effectively just ignored while the parents behaved as if they didn't have children.
Not that I'm saying this is why you find it easy. You are obviously a natural mother who loves looking after her children. Personally, I'm one of those people who think you're insane (in the nicest possible way), mainly because I've had two children of my own and am absolutely dreading the day I'm told I'm going to be a grandparent.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@wordozza When your enstilling the discipline yes it's harder but I was saying once they know right from wrong for the most part it gets easier. Or I have found that anyway.
Lol it's okay a lot of people think I'm crazy! I do absolutely love being a mom and I cannot wait for grandchildren to be part of my life too! =)
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@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
19 Oct 16
@vandana7 I changed plenty of nappies when my two children were babies. The smelly nappy holds no fear for WorDazza. It was the 18 or so years of putting someone else first (I even came after the cats in the pecking order in our house), barely having a minute to myself and essentially putting my life on hold.
Don't get me wrong, I love my kids more than anything but I'm really happy that they are now pretty much independent.
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@JamesHxstatic (29360)
• Eugene, Oregon
18 Oct 16
I would worry about feeding, clothing and educating so many. I am sure that you are a great parent.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@JamesHxstatic Somehow we manage. God really helps us through. =) Our kids don't go without their needs, their wants yeah at times like all kids.
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@Daljinder (23233)
• Bangalore, India
19 Oct 16
I am having 5 children-with my husband (ALL of them)
I am very sorry for you have to come across such implication and remarks that this sentence imply! Knowing you, you are a non-confrontational person and so am I most of the time but I am sorry. On your behalf, I just have to send a huge Cyber Slap to whoever didn't seem to mind their own business.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Oct 16
@Daljinder Yeah I have gotten some looks offline and comments from some people like I'm a person who sleeps around or something. Definitely not the case.
Lol, thank you. 
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@ms1864 Thank you! =) Your awesome as well.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Oct 16
@hatley Thank you so much. =) I try my best to be a good mom. I definitely love my children with all of my heart.
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@allen0187 (58444)
• Philippines
19 Oct 16
Congratulations on you fifth child!
I'm sure you will continue to do well with being a parent. Don't mind what others are saying! Children are blessings we should be thankful for.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Oct 16
@allen0187 Thank you! =) They are a very big blessing to me.
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@CinnamonGrl (7083)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
18 Oct 16
You bet you'll all be fine! You're good at caring for your babies, obviously. You are probably more organized than a lot of us were.You kind of have to be to home school, I imagine.I think it's kind of rude for people to question you like that, but they are probably admiring you for all that you do.
AND. ..may your labor pains be over quickly, lol.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@CinnamonGrl Thank you. =) Organizational skills before kids was hard for me. Since them though I have gotten quite good at it. Lol.
Thank you, I hope labor is fast and not too difficult this time.
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@mom210 (9041)
• United States
19 Oct 16
Oh yes, I heard all those comments and more. I will never forget the lady that looked at me when I had two little guys in the cart and was pregnant with my third. she said "oh honey, what have you done to yourself?" That was many many years ago and I assume she would have a heart attach now that I have 10, all with the same man, all from my body. After they finish having a heart attack about the number of kids I have, then I tell them I home school and they figure I am completely hopeless 
. Not every body has or wants to have a large family, that is okay, but your are right, they should not judge us that love this life. I am the first to agree, not everybody should have any, more than 1, 2, or 3 and most should definitely not home school, because yes, it would drive them crazy. Congratulations, I love big families!
. Not every body has or wants to have a large family, that is okay, but your are right, they should not judge us that love this life. I am the first to agree, not everybody should have any, more than 1, 2, or 3 and most should definitely not home school, because yes, it would drive them crazy. Congratulations, I love big families!1 person likes this
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
19 Oct 16
@mom210 My own family made comments like your pregnant again? Can you really afford another kid? One person called me a stupid idiot for being pregnant again. It's hurtful.
Honestly, somehow we always manage. Not too many people can truly afford children, but they somehow figure it all out and manage. If I waited til I could afford kids I would have been waiting my whole life and it never would have happened...
Thank you! I absolutely love my family, my life and our choice to Home School as well. =)
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@mom210 (9041)
• United States
20 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies I know how that is, my mom sat and cried when I told her I was pregnant with my second. Who does that at your second child?? After that she begged me many many times not to have any more, to even promise her I would not have any more. Even after all that I went through with my twins (all of us nearly dying) I would not promise her I would not have any more. She has come around a bit now, she understands our life is very different than hers, we are different. I do not think she would have enjoyed a large family, I am not even real sure she enjoyed the two kids she did have. She did make the mistake of telling my husband we should not have had so many, so he asked which ones she wanted to get rid of, and named them each by name, she never repeated that phrase again. Maybe your family will eventually come around, do not let it get to you though.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Oct 16
@mom210 Oh my goodness it sounds like your mom is very stuck in her ways and thinking. My parents, mostly my father is the same.
It doesn't help that my father doesn't like my husband much. He doesn't think he provides well enough for us. He's not rich so my dad doesn't like him another words.
Hopefully they will come around but if not it's their loss not ours.
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@Dena91 (15934)
• United States
18 Oct 16
I would never ask another how they handle how many children they choose to have. That is between them and their spouse. We had a family at church who had 6 kids. That was their choice and it was a blessing to have them with us. I think somewhere along the way we humans forget that people's personal choices are just that, their personal choices. Have a blessed day
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
18 Oct 16
@Dena91 Thank you. I agree, I don't question others choices either. If they are happy that's what matters! =)
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