Mylotters who never respond or comment. Interaction on and offline.
By marguicha
@marguicha (230350)
Chile
October 6, 2019 5:53pm CST
I don´t really think that this is a trait of some mylotters only. Some people you meet offline do the same.
I like to talk, but I also like answers and different points of views. I don´t like to be talking to a wall.
My grandson Daniel is depressed because he broke up with a young woman some time ago. Today, as he was going to see another girl, I asked her if he had been seeing her before his breakup (nosy grandmother!).
But Daniel said that he only had for the moment a beautiful friendship with this new young woman.
You see, grandma, he told me, she listens to me and shares her thoughts about the subject. My ex would only listen to me and never share one of her ideas.
After what Daniel told me, I know he will be fine soon. People need feedback, need interaction. I don´t follow for a long time those people that will not express their thoughts. I don´t mind if they don´t think the way I do.
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19 responses
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
7 Oct 19
It is an inherent trait in grandmother's to be nosy but only because they care.
Whether it be online or off, I try to share my thoughts and listen to others thoughts. Of course sometimes we just do not know what to say, or we think it is better if we say nothing at all.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
That happens. But if someone is always silent, I´m not very much interested.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
@ScribbledAdNauseum I have few friends offline, but they are the kind with whom I can share my thoughts. I also listen to what they have to say.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104615)
• United States
7 Oct 19
@marguicha Yes, it isn't very fun to talk to a brick wall, which is what it is i like if no one is talking.
I try to keep the conversation going when I am on mylot but I sometimes find that people aren't willing or able to keep a conversation flowing. In real life I am a little more reserved.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
7 Oct 19
Daniel will be just fine. You and him sound close. He opens up to you and you have good talks together. That is wonderful.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I think so too. I´m proud that he confides in me.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
7 Oct 19
@marguicha That is great, He needs that so I think living with you is going to help him a lot mentally.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
@Happy2BeMe He´ll get out of this mood alone. But it is good for him to know that he is surrounded by love.
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@celticeagle (189915)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Oct 19
I figure a person only goes through this life once and, if they don't express themselves and let others know how they feel then they lose out in the end.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I wholly agree with you. I have no time to waste in those people that will not give me a real feedback.
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@stringer321 (5682)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
7 Oct 19
It is not always easy to just flow with talking.
I was also shy, I barely talked with my friends, I more listened.
I feel comfortable with silence. I know some people may have a psychological block.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
We all need to let go. Mylot is a way of starting.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
8 Oct 19
@stringer321 I agree. I hope it works for you. Besides, we are not all the same.
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@stringer321 (5682)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
8 Oct 19
@marguicha easier said than done. Some people were grown up in an environment were they were treated wrong, everything they said, they were getting humiliated. If they are sensitive they will start developing a behaviour that will somehow protect them. They will hang less with friends, and barely talk.
A good psychologist can help and a good environment can help. Then they can let go.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
we cannot expect to be friends or even follow all mylotters. But there are mylotters who write posts and NEVER comment the answers they get. Then there are those that will just say "thanks for sharing" or the like after you spend your time thinking on what to respond. I have met some people here that I call my friends.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
@rebelann After all, this is a social site.
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@rebelann (117248)
• El Paso, Texas
7 Oct 19
Yes, I agree with you @marguicha I don't see why people can't at least make an effort to comment on replies they get, even a simple thank you would suffice but it would be nice if more people took the time to actually try to strike up a conversation.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
This girl is not his GF. But he is comfortable with her, so I know that she will help.
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@Nevena83 (66063)
• Serbia
7 Oct 19
@marguicha Yes, but maybe love will be born among them.
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@shaggin (74987)
• United States
7 Oct 19
@marguicha ditto. I have cut back on the number of people I follow here due to that and some other reasons.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
@shaggin I confess that I am too old to lose my time writing a long response to a post and then either never receiving a comment or reading those "thanks for sharing" answers.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
When people do it all the time, I stop reading their posts. I have no time for them.
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@ptrikha_2 (49766)
• India
7 Oct 19
Yes, interactivity means a lot. While it does matter here on Mylot, in real life too one needs folks with whom one can share one's thoughts, as well as feel comfortable talking.
Relationships which are based out of self-interest!! Well, they cannot last long.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
7 Oct 19
I have a friend who is like Daniel's ex. It is hard to have a conversation when the other person doesn't share their thoughts. She is a nice girl, but when we are together I talk most of the time, she hardly says anything. Sometimes I really miss feedback when we are together.
On Mylot I feel the same way. I definitely prefer to have conversations with people who interact. I have had really long and interesting conversations witih some members, but some members don't interact at all.
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@Porcospino (31365)
• Denmark
8 Oct 19
@marguicha Me too. After some time we discover who interacts and who doesn't interact. One member writes interesting discussions, but he never comments on any of the responses so I no longer read his discussions.
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I just stop reading posts from people who don´t interact here. It is not worth it.
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@Tampa_girl7 (54716)
• United States
7 Oct 19
I love interacting with people. My problem these days is finding the time.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
Sometimes we have more time and others we have less. Today I spent a long time at the supermarket and came so tired that I took a long nap after lunch. But then, that was more important.
@JESSY3236 (22245)
• United States
7 Oct 19
Yes, people do need feedback. My best friend has been having a hard time with her boyfriend. She has been calling me about it. I do try to encourage her, but it's hard.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
Sometimes people just need to know that you are for them.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I agree. And I don´t care to lose my time with those people that are not interested in that.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
7 Oct 19
I like to get to know people better here; and I can't if all they ever write is "awesome" or "good post".
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I wholly agree! If you write something that is important to you, it is important their feedback. A have sometimes written long answers and the only comment I get is "thanks for sharing". I say to myself "you are welcome to go out of my life".
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
8 Oct 19
@marguicha 
I agree. It tells me that they really haven't read the post or aren't interested. I will admit I've said "thanks for sharing" when it's difficult to make any kind of answer -- either I don't care for the music clip (for example) or it's a topic that I don't want to get involved in; such as, politics.
I agree. It tells me that they really haven't read the post or aren't interested. I will admit I've said "thanks for sharing" when it's difficult to make any kind of answer -- either I don't care for the music clip (for example) or it's a topic that I don't want to get involved in; such as, politics.
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I AM proud! He had opened my world in many ways in just these days.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
7 Oct 19
That is good your grandson found someone to share his thoughts and feelings with and that will do the same
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I feel that a real conversation implies sharing thoughts and ideas.
@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
8 Oct 19
@TheSojourner Just so that you know, conversations INCLUDE small talk
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
I don´t go on commenting here if I don´t get feedback.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
Although sometimes there´s nothing else we can say, in other instances there are so many answers according to our thoughts.
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@marguicha (230350)
• Chile
7 Oct 19
@LadyDuck I don´t even care to read the posts of those who never give a feedback. Interaction here is a must.
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@LadyDuck (502573)
• Italy
7 Oct 19
@marguicha You are right, sometimes at most we can "like" and move on, but many times there are better answers to type.
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@DianneN (254926)
• United States
7 Oct 19
It sounds like Daniel will be fine. He seems to have a good head on his shoulders.
As far as interacting goes, if I reply three times to a myLotter and they never reciprocate, they are no longer friends of mine. Three strikes and they’re out.
I don’t have that problem with real life friends.
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