I'm Considering Leaving myLot

@just4him (323110)
Green Bay, Wisconsin
April 11, 2020 10:02am CST
Yes, I am. The negativity I see here is making me super angry. There's no reason for negativity. And the idea that I can't be positive all the time about the situation, BUNK!!! If you guys want to live in depression land, I'm not going to join you. I lived with a mother who did her best to beat me to death with her negativity. Whenever I came home from a visit to my mother my husband couldn't stand it. I was negative to the max. I couldn't live that way and be happy. I don't know how you can be happy being negative. It's one reason I don't spend a lot of time here like I used to and why my notifications are over 200. I spent the morning clearing out the oldest notifications. Now, before my anger colors my comments, I'm getting off myLot for a while. I don't like being negative. I don't like being angry. I need to refocus and get my happy back. There's always a better way to live, and being negative isn't it. Thanks for reading. The image belongs to me.
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@andriaperry (118527)
• Anniston, Alabama
11 Apr 20
I am hoping that I have not offended you in any way, if I did I am sorry and it was not intentional. I can say I am not a negative person, I love life and smiling, happy, loving each pother, lifting others up to be the best they can be. I would like to say... do not let the devil take your joy. Block those who are not happy people, I know I did. I love you Valerie, do what feels right for you, we are friends on facebook so you can always talk to me when you want.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
I don't think you could offend me. You're always positive and upbeat and one of the hardest working people I know. I've got my joy back. Thank you.
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@LadyDuck (505266)
• Italy
11 Apr 20
Skip the negative posts and read only the positive, this is what I do. We are not obliged to read what we dislike.
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@Aquitaine24 (12281)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I agree with that.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
@LadyDuck I know. It looks like I'll be picking and choosing from now on.
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@thelme55 (80454)
• Germany
11 Apr 20
That is what I am doing. I skip those negativity as it makes me sick. I try my best to be positive.
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@FourWalls (89980)
• United States
11 Apr 20
People don’t like people who have joy all the time. That’s their problem, not yours.
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@GardenGerty (170862)
• United States
11 Apr 20
Love this. Valerie, choose joy. Whatever it takes. I hope you do not leave, but if you do at least I will know why.
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@Aquitaine24 (12281)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I agree.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@FourWalls - Thank you. Yes, it is their problem.
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@marlina (153769)
• Canada
11 Apr 20
I certainly hope that you won't go away. You are one on my Top 10 list. I always look forward to read your posts and find that you are a very understanding person.I am sure that I am not the only thinking that way
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@marlina (153769)
• Canada
12 Apr 20
@just4him And I want you to say there. Thanks.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@marlina Thank you.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
Thank you so much for your support. I'm honored to be on your top 10 list.
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@paigea (36072)
• Canada
11 Apr 20
Easy to find joyful people here. Scroll past the rest. Take care.
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@Aquitaine24 (12281)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I agree.
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@LadyDuck (505266)
• Italy
11 Apr 20
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
@paigea Thank you. I'm going to take this approach in the future.
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@JohnRoberts (108767)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Apr 20
You must really be upset as you are pretty easy going. It has become difficult here and all I can say is avoid posts that will potentially be irritating. I have come close to leaving here myself several times the past few weeks. Yes, I have made comments to others out of irritated reactions so I am also guilty. myLot needs you more than you need myLot and you have a busy full real life to satisfy you.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
Thank you so much for the pep talk. I love it here and the people for the most part. Yes, it was the post that broke the camels back. I don't do well with writing either when I'm angry. So, I didn't do much of that today either, but I did do something. I also got two walks in today.
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@m_audrey6788 (58418)
• Germany
11 Apr 20
Whatever makes you feel better.
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• Germany
11 Apr 20
@kepweng Thank you my friend. How are you today?
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@m_audrey6788 I'll be staying.
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• Germany
12 Apr 20
@just4him I`m so happy to know
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@BarBaraPrz (52221)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Apr 20
Negativity? Where? You must be following the wrong people.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I try not to follow the wrong people.
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@much2say (57610)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Apr 20
I hope you stay! Or if you need to take a break, we'd totally understand, but I'd hope for your return. We need your sweet spirit here .
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@much2say (57610)
• Los Angeles, California
12 Apr 20
@just4him Oh I'm so glad. This is supposed to be our happy spot - don't ever let anyone take that away from you. Happy Easter to you!!
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@Aquitaine24 (12281)
• San Jose, California
11 Apr 20
I hope she does too.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@much2say Thank you so much. Yes, I'm staying.
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@kanuck1 (4415)
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11 Apr 20
Of course you are free to do what you like but I would say: Don't let the darkness blow out your light.
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@kanuck1 (4415)
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13 Apr 20
@just4him I know you won't! Be on myLot to the degree that suits you but I hope you will stay.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@kanuck1 I'm staying. Thank you.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
Thank you. I won't let the darkness blow out my light.
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• United States
11 Apr 20
Lucky I am not seeing negative when I am here. I hope you stay, maybe just stick to your followers and those you follow. I really need to come here at times and talk with you all.
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• United States
12 Apr 20
@just4him Thank goodness, I really would hate to see you go from here.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@CookieMonster46 I had to get my happy back and seeing the response on this post makes me realize how much people would miss me.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
That's good you're not. Thank you. Right now, I'm not going anywhere. I got my happy back.
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@JudyEv (390592)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 Apr 20
I do hope you don't leave. Hopefully, there are more positive people than negative on here and perhaps you'll be able to just ignore the Negative Nellies.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I will be ignoring the Negative Nellies from now on. I don't need another meltdown like yesterday. Thank you. I decided to stay.
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@JudyEv (390592)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Apr 20
@just4him I'm really pleased. That's good news.
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@JhovanPH (2666)
• Philippines
13 Apr 20
Indeed.. If Ms. Valerie will leave. But if she chose to leave just to breathe in and relax. We can't force here.. We support you @just4him
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@Courtlynn (67027)
• United States
11 Apr 20
Negativity is a part of life but people shouldn't be all negative, or pushing their negativity on to others by being rude all the time. Smh. I hope you don't leave. But I'm glad i have you on Facebook in case you do.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
You're right. People shouldn't push it on others. For now, I'm staying. I'm glad you're on Facebook and we can connect there.
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@Courtlynn (67027)
• United States
12 Apr 20
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• Rupert, Idaho
12 Apr 20
I am sorry to hear that you were feeling that way to the point of thinking of leaving! I can understand when some people are just always negative. I have moments, but try not to just be negative.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I'm glad you work at not being negative. I'll be staying. I got my happy back and the response to this post is very positive about my staying.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@MommyOfEli2013 Thank you.
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• Rupert, Idaho
13 Apr 20
@just4him I have my moments, but I don't really make posts about it. If I am commenting then I might sound down....but that's about it. And that is great news! I am glad that you are staying...and that you got your happy back :)
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@TheHorse (240924)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Apr 20
I certainly hope you don't leave. Although we are mortal enemies (you are a Packers fan and I am a '49ers fan) we somehow manage to overcome our differences and maintain a MyLot friendship. I see disagreements as an opportunity to learn. Sometimes we think we disagree when we actually don't. That's when the most interesting discussions occur. Vanny (@Vandana7) wonders why Iike sad songs so much. I think it's because I am an optimist. I will find the good in any situation. But it takes time. I will not deny the part of myself that has experienced, and needs to acknowledge, sadness. I will leave it at that for now.
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@vandana7 (102621)
• India
13 Apr 20
I think you and I need to have a seriooooooooooooooooous chat to lighten up the mood out here...issue is, no househelp and lots to do and the net telling me ..don't be lazy your girth is increasing kinda. But I will try. You do have humor and I am the sensible person.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@TheHorse I have to laugh at your 'mortal enemy' statement. More like intense rivals during football season especially when our teams play against each other. I actually started a book a few years ago where the main character grew up in San Francisco and is a 49er fan. It makes it very interesting when she moves to Green Bay and is immersed in Packers country. I haven't gotten too far on that book. Sad songs give you pause to reflect on life and see the good that came from the situation.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Apr 20
@vandana7 I'm sorry things are as difficult there as they are here.
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@DianneN (254327)
• United States
11 Apr 20
There are many more wonderful people here to myLot with. I haven’t been here much the last two days, so I haven’t seen much of anything. Chin up!
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@DianneN (254327)
• United States
11 Apr 20
@just4him I’m glad you’re feeling better. It was good to vent, I’m sure.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
@DianneN Thank you. Yes, it was a good vent.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
I'm doing okay now. Thank you. Yes, there are a lot of wonderful people here.
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@thelme55 (80454)
• Germany
11 Apr 20
OMG! What happened? I will be missing you here if you leave. Please don't. I have read also negative posts here and so I didn't comment to those.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
It was one negative post too many for me. For now, I'm not leaving. I appreciate that you would miss me if I left. That's so kind.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@thelme55 I hope you're having a Happy Easter too. Thank you.
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@thelme55 (80454)
• Germany
12 Apr 20
@just4him Thank you that you stay. Happy Easter to you.
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@Spontaneo (14682)
• United States
12 Apr 20
Do whatever brings you peace.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
I will be staying. I have a lot of good friends here.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@Spontaneo Thank you. Happy Easter to you too.
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@Spontaneo (14682)
• United States
12 Apr 20
@just4him Yay! Many blessings to you this Easter Sunday! Thank you for staying!
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@dya80dya (36786)
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11 Apr 20
In my opinion negativity and depression are part of life. People can't be happy all the time. But too many negative discussions can affect us. Maybe you need a break. I hope I didn't upset you.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
No, you didn't upset me.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
12 Apr 20
@dya80dya I know many people only read the title and miss what the post says. It's a shame.
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@dya80dya (36786)
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12 Apr 20
@just4him I am glad to know this. You read discussions. Many people don't. They only read the title.
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@CarolDM (202981)
• Nashville, Tennessee
11 Apr 20
I hope maybe you could take a break and then come back with a different opinion. I look forward to your positive posts. And there are many on here I don't care for. I just ignore them and find the ones I like.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
@CarolDM Thank you. I will.
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@just4him (323110)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
11 Apr 20
I took a break, took two walks, worked on two books, and now I'm back feeling much better. Thank you.
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@CarolDM (202981)
• Nashville, Tennessee
11 Apr 20
@just4him That is great news. Glad to hear Valerie.. Have a good evening.
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