My heart feels heavy...

@arunima25 (56330)
Bangalore, India
March 28, 2021 6:47am CST
It's Sunday 5PM here as I post this. The day started with the excitement of the celebration of festival of colours Holi. Today is the first day called Holika Dahan that signifies the victory of good over evil. We have bonefire in the evening where people gather around and offer different delicacies and fresh produce to the holy fire. It's the symbolism of burning evil and bad in fire and having a fresh start.This year due to pandemic, we don't have any such celebration. Holi also officially marks the end of Spring. We all got up with this excitement of festival but then we received a terrible news on phone. My husband lost a very close cousin today morning at 5 AM. He was 58 and he had a liver transplant on 21 Feb. We remember him as a healthy and jolly fellow. He worked with Airport Authority of India at a senior post. Last year in June, he got infected with the virus and had a really bad symptoms. He was even hospitalized and was in ICU for two weeks. Post recovery, he developed complications with his lever and then by January he needed a liver transplant. No donor could be found and so his 26 year old daughter became the live donor. He was stable for some time post surgery but then he showed some vital fluctuations since this Monday and was in ICU again. His conditions kept fluctuating in last few days and today morning we received this terrible news. Here the virus claims another life in the post complications.Our heart feels heavy. We just pray for the family. He is survived by his wife and two daughters..26 and 23 years. Elder daughter who donated the liver for him got married in 2019. Both daughters are well settled with their jobs. I cried with my husband as soon as we got the news. In this pandemic situation we can't go to the family as they are in Mumbai which is the hotspot of virus at present and we have certain travel restrictions to that state. My husband's elder sister stays there and is with them in this hard time.My husband wanted to go and see him post his surgery but he advised him not to take risk in this pandemic situation. My husband has this guilt feeling of not meeting him. They shared a special bond. Somehow my heart feels very heavy and I am not very sure of my feelings.
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@LadyDuck (334448)
• Switzerland
28 Mar
I am very sorry for your husband cousin, he was still young. He is finally an indirect victim of Covid that will not be counted among Covid victims. I am really sorry for him and his family, he had a very good daughter who donated the liver for his Daddy. Please accept my sincere condolences.
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@LadyDuck (334448)
• Switzerland
29 Mar
@arunima25 Poor young woman, she risked her own life, she must be devastated now. You are right, time will heal the pain.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
@LadyDuck She is staying strong and supporting her mom. At least she is pretending to be strong. My husband's sister is with the family and she told us that she is staying strong and positive for her mother. She has got a wonderful husband. The boy is very sensible and is handling the situation well.
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@LadyDuck (334448)
• Switzerland
30 Mar
@arunima25 I am glad that she has a sensible and supportive husband, it is so important in those circumstances.
@allknowing (90801)
• India
29 Mar
The virus leading to complications is what is disturbing I have heard about how it destroys internal organs and here is such a case. Sad for you and your husband as you cannot go there.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
@allknowing Many of my family members got infected, some being frontline workers. And we have lost two elderly to it and two not so old including him have become indirect victims of the cruel virus We had quite a few cases in our apartment last year. My doctor friend and neighbours were one of them
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@allknowing (90801)
• India
29 Mar
@arunima25 Did they not seal your building in that case?
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
30 Mar
@allknowing They did it. We have a corona support team here in apartment. I am also enrolled there to give food for infected families. This team deals with delivery of goods and essentials to our doorstep if the building is sealed.
@JudyEv (244769)
• Bunbury, Australia
28 Mar
That is so, so sad. My sincere condolences to all those affected.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
Thanks Judy. Feeling bad for the young girl of 27 who became the live donor for her father. Wish he had few more years and that would have made her feel good about her decision to donate. Now she too has a compromised life for few years. Her husband was quite supportive throughout. Time will heal. They definitely need a lot of prayers.
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@JudyEv (244769)
• Bunbury, Australia
29 Mar
@arunima25 Yes, that girl would be so despondent after making such a sacrifice for her father.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
30 Mar
@JudyEv She is acting strong and sensible to support her mother.
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@CarolDM (127020)
• United States
28 Mar
Thoughts are with you and your husband for the loss.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
Thank you. They badly need these prayers.
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@CarolDM (127020)
• United States
29 Mar
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@DianneN (225827)
• United States
28 Mar
I am so sorry to hear this awful news. My deepest condolences to you and your family. It’s best that your husband didn’t take the risk and listened to him.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
You are right Dianne. It's the time to follow logic and sense more than heart and emotion. My husband is still hurting that he didn't see him in his last times. But that was a wise thing to do. I am praying for the ladies..his wife and two daughters. They are going through a turbulent times.
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@DianneN (225827)
• United States
1 Apr
@arunima25 I’m sure it’s just awful for his wife and daughters. He was way too young. So heartbreaking.
@Lucky15 (36790)
• Philippines
28 Mar
sorry to hear what happened to your husband's cousin
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
It came as a terrible news. He had shown positive recovery sign after transplant and this was not expected
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@Lucky15 (36790)
• Philippines
29 Mar
@sjvg1976 (19075)
• Delhi, India
28 Mar
I am sorry for your husband's cousin. Yes there are travell restrictions in Mumbai. It's better if someone can avoid going Maharshtra these days. I understand how you might be feeling at present. It's sad . His family may be missing him the most.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
It came as a terrible shock especially for the young girl of 27 who donated her livers part to save her dad. Even her life is compromised for few years. Wish that it was a success and that would have made her feel good about her decision. Keeping them in prayers. They badly need it
@peachpurple (13147)
• Singapore
28 Mar
Sorry to hear about your relative passing, it must be very painful for his family members, let us pray for him
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
Thank you for your concern. They really need a lot of prayers. May God give them the strength.
@jaboUK (64640)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar
So sorry to hear this, it is devastating news for your family. Sending my condolences.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
Thanks for your concern. The family needs prayers and thoughts. It came as a big shock and was least expected.
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@Shxrubia (1865)
• Indonesia
28 Mar
I'm so sorry your husband's cousin loss..
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
It was least expected. He was healthy before corona and was responding well after the transplant. This came as a shock.
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
28 Mar
i'm sorry for your husband's loss. days and situations like this are part of our lives. try to focus on positive things.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
Thanks for your concern and supportive words. Time definitely heals all pain. Trying to distract myself with staying busy.
@GardenGerty (133093)
• United States
28 Mar
I am so sorry. This devastating virus has taken many things, and many beloved people from us this year.
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@Nevena83 (60429)
• Serbia
3 Apr
Oh, that's really sad news. If I understood correctly, did he need a liver transplant to get the virus?
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr
He got the virus last year on job. It was just the beginning phase of pandemic. The virus left a damaging effect on his liver and he needed a liver transplant.
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@Nevena83 (60429)
• Serbia
4 Apr
@arunima25 Oh, that's awful. I have heard that this virus leaves great consequences on various organs.
@RebeccasFarm (26826)
• Denver, Colorado
1 Apr
I am so very sorry. Rest in eternal peace.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr
Thanks for your comforting words.
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• Denver, Colorado
4 Apr
@arunima25 Welcome xo
• Preston, England
30 Mar
I love the way they throw coloured water around during Holi festivals
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr
Oh! Have you ever played Holi? I am not very fond of that. I just avoid going out on Holi day
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• Preston, England
6 Apr
@arunima25 seen footage of it - I was in a cult that had its roots in Hinduism so I read up a lot on Hindue religion and mythology and traditions
@moonandstars (47929)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
29 Mar
Happy late Holi and let the good and positive prevail
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
30 Mar
Thank you. Keeping up the positive thoughts and trying to distract ourselves. Thanks for that positive comment.
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• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
31 Mar
@arunima25 i try to
@Rashnag (9546)
• Thane, India
29 Mar
Sorry to hear. Take care of your husband and yourself. May his soul rest in peace
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
29 Mar
Thanks for your concern. Time will heal the pain. Keeping the family in prayers
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@Rashnag (9546)
• Thane, India
29 Mar
@arunima25 your welcome dear
@db20747 (34699)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
1 Apr
Sorry to hear this news. It is very hard to not be able to visit someone who is Ill due to the corona restrictions. Hope you all and his family will be okay and safe.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr
Thank you for your concern.. We are feeling much better now. With time we move on. There are so many distractions and engagement in life. Time heals.
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• United States
1 Apr
I'm so sorry to hear this. My sincere condolences are with you and the family.
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr
Thank you for your concern and comforting words.
@BelleStarr (59054)
• United States
30 Mar
I am so sorry for your loss, this virus has no mercy
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@arunima25 (56330)
• Bangalore, India
4 Apr
He became an indirect victim of this cruel virus. He will not add to the corona toll. I wonder how many such people would be there who became indirect victims of the virus.
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