Do you manage to get enough Time Alone?
By Shiva
@Shiva49 (26204)
Singapore
April 28, 2021 11:39am CST
I am one who looked forward to “time alone” when I was working as well at home.
I tried to find it at the workplace by being there outside office time. I liked the respite and the breather to get things done without someone breathing down my neck. Being in finance and accounts, it helped to think over the issues and get them under control.
At home too, I created opportunities to be alone to get important issues sorted out.
I am now retired and alone time helps me chew the cud of my past. Mostly I am happy how life has panned out for me. It could have been worse than better and that way I have been abundantly blessed.
Now this gripping pandemic has forced alone time on most. I worry about children who are deprived of their joy filled, carefree, lifestyle that we recollect.
Do you look forward to time alone and do you get enough of it?
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@mildredtabitha (16053)
• Nairobi, Kenya
28 Apr 21
I have had much alone time for the longest time. I think what I look forward to is socializing more with new people face to face
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@mildredtabitha (16053)
• Nairobi, Kenya
28 Apr 21
@Shiva49 yeah. The pandemic has really affected people especially those who are used to many people around. Feeling lonely or alone is not good.
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
28 Apr 21
@mildredtabitha Hope things get back to normal soon as we knew it.
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@porwest (78761)
• United States
28 Apr 21
I very much enjoy my alone time. I love my wife to the moon and back, but we still need to have time to unwind and just do our own thing, unhindered by the demands of life. Even when it comes to work, I don't mind the work itself. I mind that it takes up way too much of my time.
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
29 Apr 21
Just like how we need time to get to know others, we also need time to get to know who we really are.
Our partner can complain we are ignoring them but our inner voice also cries out when it is being ignored.
We need to be comfortable with who we really are and our inner yearnings.
Then the conflict ends and the real-life begins.
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@innertalks (21026)
• Australia
28 Apr 21
I wonder if God, himself, needs any time alone, and if he ever gets it, or takes it, though.
Time alone allows you to be more of yourself without the interference of other people's counter selves reflecting into you.
Your own self can coalesce as itself in you, and you can grasp it more strongly to be it more strongly then too, even when you are not alone then too.
God has no time alone, though, as he is always active in every part of his creation, and he has nowhere to rest his head alone.
This is God, who already knows himself, and loves all, not alone, but collectively so.
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@innertalks (21026)
• Australia
29 Apr 21
@Shiva49 My mum stayed at my house a few times, but she always told me just to go about doing what I would be doing, and not to mind her, as she was content, just being in my house.
I said, no, I should at least spend some time sitting next to my mother, and passing some time with her, so I did.
Yes, it is sad if we see our own parents as burdens.
We owe them a few more years of love, and seeing them from love, rather than as a burden, I think too.
@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
29 Apr 21
Yes, God is one of a kind and lives outside the time as we know it.
We tend to live in conflict in terms of emotions, wants, relationships.
Others tend also to encroach on our private space - give an inch they grab a yard.
When I was working, there were always a few throwing their weight around not only not doing their part, but also thinking too much of themselves. I had to dodge them for my sanity.
Then the unsolicited advice of a few without understanding my reality.
So my alone time gave me much-needed solace, breathing space.
What about hereafter - is it only time alone? Then better to enjoy others' company here with warts and all!
Maybe, there is a method in the madness of creation after all!
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
29 Apr 21
@innertalks As we get older, we tend to look forward to the company of others more, especially stay with children.
Then again, we need to get out of their way too not to become a burden as they have to live their own lives too with much-needed time alone added. It is better to stay separately and be on good terms than stay under the same roof as strangers.
My parents lived alone till my father passed away and then my mom stayed with us taking turns. Even earlier they visited us often. It was not easy as we lived in different countries.
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@anamika161088 (11868)
• India
28 Apr 21
I get my me time mostly. And this is the time when I introspect myself, learn new things and relax my minf
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@Prabhatsingh (3537)
• India
28 Apr 21
Yup, all-time alone because of the pandemic. 
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
7 May 21
Being a professional accountant, I could have been on my own.
I did try it part-time.
Then, with my attitude and approach, I found instead of having one boss while working, my clients became my bosses. Maybe, I got used to working during office times only!
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
3 May 21
I love being on my own when I can too it helps me a lot.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
4 May 21
@Shiva49
Its not easy but you can get that time even if you are working on anything.
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@RebeccasFarm (86764)
• United States
28 Apr 21
I do not get enough time alone, but I do try Shiva. I make the most of it when I do. Mostly the quiet mornings.
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@RebeccasFarm (86764)
• United States
29 Apr 21
@Shiva49 I am glad you have it now Shiva
Peace time to you.
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
29 Apr 21
@RebeccasFarm Thank you, Ocean Tiara, appreciate your kind words.
May you be abundantly blessed too.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
30 Apr 21
I am always alone now since my brother moved out in February. I can have more time to reflect quietly.
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@jobelbojel (34729)
• Philippines
1 May 21
@Shiva49 that is why I use my fone almost everyday calling my friends and family.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
28 Apr 21
I divorced my second wife years ago and only my adult daughter lives with me. We don't keep the same sleep/awake schedules so only see each other when we need to see/talk to each other. I get plenty of alone time. I love to read and play online, so yes, I am happy with my life.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
28 Apr 21
@Shiva49 I do hope you and your wife are having a good night. (You're up late.)
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
29 Apr 21
@DaddyEvil Thank you, wish you the same as it is nighttime there now.
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
28 Apr 21
Yes, as is said whatever floats our boats and as long as it does not sink others!
Live and let others live is my way too.
Only my wife is with me now for the past thirteen plus years ever since our son left for studies in another country. She has her own circle of friends and other interests while I like more time alone and want also to be left alone.
We are there for each other though for any need and support.
So far so good.
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@kaylachan (57720)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Apr 21
I get a lot of time alone. Sometimes more than I want. I'm just enjoy it and take things one day at a time.
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@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
28 Apr 21
I think I do have enough me time,
Not particularly a.fan of being alone.
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@Shiva49 (26204)
• Singapore
29 Apr 21
I can be alone without feeling lonely though I enjoy being in touch with a few.
I tune in to "my alone" channel to reflect on how life has treated me and also how my choices panned out with consequences that followed.
Occasionally, I also think of the possibilities had I made some other choices.
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