It's difficult to trust on the internet, isn't it?

United States
May 22, 2021 12:07pm CST
Even on sites like this, where all we're doing is chatting for, and over, coffee (or tea, and sometimes alcohol)... It can be hard to trust. We have to remember to use our instincts and not discount our first impressions. Yeah, this isn't really about mylot though, is it? No, it's not. Sometimes giving the benefit of the doubt works out well, and other times it doesn't. Do you trust easily?
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 May 21
I do not trust easily. We have to always be cautious.
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• United States
22 May 21
@CarolDM A lot of times ignoring it comes down to hope. We hope we're wrong, or we HOPE we can fix it / them.
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• United States
22 May 21
I feel as if I have good intuition, but I am also VERY VERY bad at ignoring it.
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@CarolDM (203451)
• Nashville, Tennessee
22 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum I think most of us do that at times.
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@GooglePlus (3807)
22 May 21
My username, My pic, my comments -- clearly suggest I don't trust internet! I lost a lot in scams, which I thought will be a trusted members. Hence I stop even donating to Unknown unless I have a friend asking for donation.
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• United States
22 May 21
Oh yes, I learned very early not to trust anything online when it comes to earning. Never invest unless, and until, you have valid proof it is worth it.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
27 May 21
You forgot to say that you let me adopt you as my brother, told me your real name, share your pictures with me, your phone number, your home address and your email address, but you won't let me send Christmas or birthday presents to you. *sigh* I guess now I know why...
28 May 21
@DaddyEvil You know enough than anyone even in my friend list
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
22 May 21
I don't trust easily. On the internet it is so easy to pretend you are someone else, and some people catfish others for years. In one case (a local discussion forum) I was one of the few users who spotted a catfish. At that time most of the other users still believed the person. I can't describe what I noticed, it was just a feeling. Something didn't seem right.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum That is very sad. Those people take advantage of the ones who trust easily and want to help. Some of the scammers are really good at sob stories. My friend was catfished, too. The person pretented to be a woman from Russia and my friend sent her (him?) money.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
29 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum I think that many of them say that they are part of the military. I have heard that before. Others say they were robbed while travelling in another country and ask for money.
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• United States
27 May 21
We all possess that inner wisdom. My friend's mom is being catfished lately. It's sad to hear about it because the woman trusts so easily and openly. She's given money to strangers because they gave her a convincing sob story.
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@kaylachan (57974)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 May 21
When it comes to the internet, I take things with a grain of salt. Especially when it comes to social media. I don't care how well-written something sounds or how (seemingly) well-researched it is, if you use it to be rude to people that just makes you (in that moment) a real jerk. A jerk who's opinion is viewable for the world to see. Because, nothing online is private. It's rare you're going to personaly know the person behind the keyboard. So taking things too seriously should be avoided.
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• United States
22 May 21
Right. I don't take things too seriously either, especially here. I wasn't talking about social media in my case though.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
22 May 21
There's an idiom that goes " a fool and his money are soon parted" although it's more about spending money unwisely I had come to a personal conclusion that it's also got to do with being too trusty and and getting scammed. Nope, I don't trust easily and make due diligence on any endeavour. I undertake. I'd just rather be generous than be too trusting then get scammed.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
22 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum right , it's after the deal is done and sad we are at the receiving end twice
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• United States
22 May 21
@louievill Yes! This has been too often the case for me.
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• United States
22 May 21
You're right, that phrase can be adopted in multiple situations. It is better than the "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me." Which is only valid AFTER the fact.
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• India
22 May 21
I mean I do. But that doesn't mean I am not cautious. I don't bring my shield down until I have met that person at least thrice and spent time with them for almost 24hours in total. Definitely, I am sometimes wrong about that person, well in that case I just try to move on before letting anyone know.
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• United States
27 May 21
Sometimes our hearts over rule our heads and we want to trust where we should not.
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• United States
28 May 21
@Prabhatsingh I disagree. I think any strong emotion can make us feel this way, and it doesn't have to be romantic love.
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• India
28 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum Well, that only happens when you are in love.
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@much2say (53945)
• Los Angeles, California
23 May 21
Trust . . . it must be earned. I trust nothing off the bat . . . it takes time and "getting-to-know" .
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@much2say (53945)
• Los Angeles, California
27 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum Yah, some of those apps that help to do that are crazy deceptive - the technology is that good enough to fool people !
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• United States
27 May 21
Right, especially online! A picture can be fabricated, even voices can be fabricated if a person is keen enough to do it.
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• United States
27 May 21
@much2say Right. Technology is ever expanding too which means photos can be edited better, voices changers more natural etc.
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@tammys85 (29952)
• Baltimore, Maryland
23 May 21
No, not at first, because you never know who's behind a screen/phone. I was taught this at an early age by my Dad when he introduced me to the internet, and now that I'm grown, I still try to proceed with caution when necessary.
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@tammys85 (29952)
• Baltimore, Maryland
31 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum My Dad was pretty straightforward about it lol. Now, I've met friends from the Internet, but it's usually close friends I've known for a long time and in a public place (and not alone). Oh noooo. I hate how games, media and apps would do that!
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• United States
31 May 21
@tammys85 My mom didn't know much about computers, nor did my grandparents. My uncle did and he was the one that sort of warned me. Yeah, I had to take the tablet from her, clear it all out and warn my sister.
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@tammys85 (29952)
• Baltimore, Maryland
9 Jun 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum I'm glad your uncle warned you. Right. I wish sites wouldn't do that. Let that person decide what they download on their own device.
• China
23 May 21
We should be on the ball on the internet,otherwise would be taken in .
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• United States
27 May 21
You are right. On the internet we should always think twice before we say or do anything. We can't be sure who we are taling to.
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
23 May 21
No I don't because I know you cannot judge a person virtually . What someone writes here and looks here is not necessary he is in the real life so one should be very cautious in dealing with the people on internet otherwise they may get cheated easily.
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@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
27 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum yes it's scary. We cannot identify a person. He/she may dupe us by hiding their identity.
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• United States
27 May 21
@sjvg1976 A friend's mother talked to a man recently. He sent her pictures of himself. Well her daughter (my friend) completed a reverse image search and found that he had a wife and children!
• United States
27 May 21
It is not uncommon for a man to pretend to be a woman and vice versa. Children pretend to be older, adults pretend to be younger. It's a scary thought.
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
22 May 21
No, I don't... And honestly, am not normally willing to give the benefit of the doubt, either.
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• United States
27 May 21
I have a bad habit of trusting too much. I was referring to a guy I was talking to when I wrote this. He talked a big game, but in the end he ghosted me.
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• United States
27 May 21
@DaddyEvil First time I had a guy go to that level just to ghost me. He was quiet for a few days, but he called me twice and didn't say anything. I had already written him off as being a weirdo and not worth it. He later tells me (through text) that he was mad because his truck was in the shop. I told him that was no excuse to just not talk to me for two days then call and not say anything. I tried giving him the benefit of the doubt (but by this point his name in my phone became "we'll see")
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@DaddyEvil (137142)
• United States
27 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum Hmm... I've been known to do that.
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@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
22 May 21
Can't trust everything you see online. And when it comes to people you are chatting with you never know if the person is who they say they are. I am not sure if I trust easily or not. Maybe it depends on the situation.
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• United States
27 May 21
@lovebuglena and they are only getting better at the game.
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• United States
27 May 21
You are right about that. People like to act completely different than who they really are. It's the anonymity.
@lovebuglena (43080)
• Staten Island, New York
27 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum A lot of pretenders out there.
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@ZedSmart (19753)
• Philippines
23 May 21
We shouldn't trust a person easily.
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• United States
27 May 21
Especially not one we can physically see. Even a picture online can be deceiving.
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• United States
27 May 21
@ZedSmart A friend's mom has experienced difficulties in this regard. She gave money to a man without ever having met him. She was scammed.
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@ZedSmart (19753)
• Philippines
27 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum That is true. Some people are even love scammed.
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• Angeles City, Philippines
22 May 21
In apps or sites in the internet i usually don't trust. I've know about mylot from a friend of mine. So i just give it a try. When it comes to relationships or with other people, i'm blessed that most of the time, whom i trusted where worthy. But usually i find it difficult to give my trust to others. Not that easily, but i have that instinct that when or whom i can trust.
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• United States
22 May 21
I'm glad you have that instinct. I have it too, but I dont' always listen to it.
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• United States
22 May 21
@angelitovillegas You're right. There's a saying about that but I can't think of it at the moment.
• Angeles City, Philippines
22 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum but sometimes, we have to trust others. To give them a chance or to when we get disappointed, i see it as a lesson learned.
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@RebeccasFarm (86788)
• United States
23 May 21
Trust is nearly not in my vocabulary anymore
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• United States
27 May 21
It is hard to trust when we are shown time and time again what the world can be like. When I wrote this I was referring to a man I was talking to. My poor best friend's mom is having a hard time of it too and I feel sorry for her.
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@NJChicaa (116077)
• United States
22 May 21
People can post anything and be anyone they want on the internet. I'm always cautious.
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• United States
22 May 21
Even over the phone too... Which was part of my problem recently.
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@LindaOHio (156717)
• United States
23 May 21
I used to; but not any more.
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• United States
23 May 21
My problem is that I give people the benefit of the doubt more times than they deserve.
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• United States
23 May 21
@LindaOHio There's a quote I've read recently that defines this perfectly. It has something to do with taking personal time, taking vacation time and remembering that YOU matter. Employers treat us like numbers and not like people.
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@LindaOHio (156717)
• United States
23 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum I know what you mean. I used to think the people that I worked with were OK...then they stabbed me in the back and treated me like ####.
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@florelway (23158)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 May 21
Not everything you read on internet is true. Some people do not trust internet especially money matters. It's scary that.some hackers may intrude and steal your money.
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• United States
27 May 21
Yes! The proof comes in our email every day. A new scheme to try and rid of us of our hard earned cash.
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• India
22 May 21
I keep exploring online sites for seeing earning options but after seeing your all comments I feel that I need to be really cautious as these sites can make me a fool. Have a good day ahead!
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• United States
22 May 21
Yes, several people here have talked about that. You must be careful because it's easy to get overwhelmed and many sites will stop paying.
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23 May 21
Hi there, what you have said is true, it is difficult to place our trust over the internet. And not only that, sometimes, it is somehow difficult to give it to some of your friends too.
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• United States
23 May 21
If you can't trust your friends they are not your friends.
• United States
23 May 21
@jiangjuno I understand that. I think we've all been through something similar in our lives.
23 May 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum - I have this trauma, that sometime ago, I have a friend who betrayed me, as a result, I don't really give my trust easily even they are telling me that they are my friends.