If it is a long phone call.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58679)
Delhi, India
June 5, 2021 2:12am CST
Phones are means of communication and it is now a days smart phones/ mobile phones which people often use, instead of old land line phones. There are some callers, when they call you they speak to the point and would finish the call once they have discussed the necessary thing.
However, there are others, who believe in long phone calls. One of my cousins and one of my close friends fall in the second category. If I receive a call from either of the two, I should be prepared that it is going to be a long call (I put on my earphones, as soon as they call).
Besides, asking about our well being, they both believe in giving graphic details of every event/incident which has happened with them in recent past. At times, it gets difficult to spare time for these category of people and you tell them plainly that you have other things to attend to.
Do you receive long calls from your friends/ relatives and while receiving long calls, when the caller keeps on talking, do you feel irritated and how do you tackle such situations?
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
@LadyDuck - It is good to hear that you do not spend much time on phone. When your cousin calls and she goes on and on, how do you cut short the conversation? Do you tell her plainly that call is getting longer and you have other things to attend?
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@LadyDuck (502573)
• Italy
5 Jun 21
@JimBo452020 I agree, I cannot stand to spend hours on the phone.
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@DaddyEvil (174528)
• United States
5 Jun 21
Yes, my sister won't let me get off a call with her, even though she tells me the same thing three or four times. So now, I don't answer her calls. After she hangs up I send her a text message. When she starts repeating herself, I just ignore her texts. It's not nice, but neither is repeating the same things again and again.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
Your sister needs a listener and who could be a better listener than you? 
There are many people who tend to repeat the same thing again and again in conversation. May be they want to stress that particular point.
I think when you send a text message to your sister, she understands that you did not take her call deliberately?
There are many people who tend to repeat the same thing again and again in conversation. May be they want to stress that particular point.
I think when you send a text message to your sister, she understands that you did not take her call deliberately?1 person likes this
@DaddyEvil (174528)
• United States
6 Jun 21
@dpk262006 Yes, she knows. I've told her I do that. And I explained why I do that. She is happy enough with text messages.
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@hora_fugit (5859)
• India
8 Jun 21
I used to be very patient on phone calls (face to face long conversations always make me jittery), but then I got an unwanted caller who would bother me as long as they could. Combined with the early situation of work from home, where people were trying to replace personal meets with call, I developed both a mental as well as physical aversion to phone calls (even the shortest ones).
Am in mends now, though it has still residual effects on my call to the family. It also means I am now on the other side of spectrum - you should be prepared to chat long as my days of silence get repaid in one single call.
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@vandana7 (102698)
• India
9 Jun 21
@hora_fugit Really? Now...that is such an epoch making news. LOL
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@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Jun 21
I am definitely NOT a phone person. Usually the other person rattles on and on and on - I am more of a listener. I had my days and long hours of that - but thanks to texting I can have much shorter text conversations on my own time.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
You mean to say that when you make a call, you do not make long conversations and you do not believe in spending much time on phone calls. It is the other way round that you patiently listen to the long calls.
You are apparently more comfortable in writing a text message?
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
7 Jun 21
@much2say Yes, texting leaves a little scope for long interaction. The other person needs to think and then type his/her message to reply to your text message. .
I agree with you that when we have something urgent to attend, we just cannot afford long calls.
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I agree with you that when we have something urgent to attend, we just cannot afford long calls.1 person likes this
@much2say (57760)
• Los Angeles, California
6 Jun 21
@dpk262006 Well, texting takes less time 
AND the other person cannot tell long stories because it takes too much time to explain and type with texting . I don't mind actually talking to people . . . I just don't like in length when I have much to do.
AND the other person cannot tell long stories because it takes too much time to explain and type with texting . I don't mind actually talking to people . . . I just don't like in length when I have much to do.1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
When your sister calls, hopefully, you listen to her patiently?
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
@allknowing The conversation will not be spicy and interesting, if there are no arguments between sisters. . The relations is such.
. The relations is such. 1 person likes this
@prashu228 (37518)
• India
5 Jun 21
Haha we have such people even in our family , but i try to avoid them as much as possible
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
It means that you do not take calls from those relatives who go on and on. But how do you avoid them? In case they are in need of your help?
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
7 Jun 21
OH! That sounds interesting. 
But if the caller is making a long call, say it is going on and on for an hour, would you listen to him/her patiently till one hour?
But if the caller is making a long call, say it is going on and on for an hour, would you listen to him/her patiently till one hour?1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
7 Jun 21
@prinzcy That is also a point which you have made the guy on the other side of the line cannot come to know if you are actually 'listening' to him.
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@prinzcy (32299)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 21
@dpk262006 I don't need to listen carefully you know. That person loves to talk, doesn't mean I need to listen or want me to listen
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
Yes, generally speaking we do not like to take long calls, as it eats up lots of our time. However, there may be some callers who are close relatives and friends, you just cannot avoid them all the time, even if you wish to.
It is lock down now a days and people cannot meet with each other, therefore, they make video call to know about each other's well being.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
7 Jun 21
@sjvg1976 It is alright if you cannot prolong a conversation or if you do not like to take long calls.
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@sjvg1976 (42727)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
@dpk262006 even they are close relative or friends I don't like to talk much on the phone as I am not that much talkative and don't have much to talk to. I wonder how people can talk to their dear ones for an hour or more. I had started a discussion few days back on the same, here is the link
I have seen few people who are able to talk to someone over phone continuously for 4-5 hours. [em]angry[/em]It's really irritating as from where do they get so...
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
5 Jun 21
And I bet you listen with good heart..no one calls me anymore
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
Yes, dear you got it right that I listen patiently, I do not want to sound rude. Even sometimes I delay my own work while listening a long call.
OH! It is bad that no one calls you. I wish I could call you and listen to you.
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
Please share the excuse/excuses with us, so that I could also use it.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
8 Jun 21
@marlina That is the common excuse, which we all use probably.
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@marlina (154103)
• Canada
7 Jun 21
@dpk262006 , sometimes I tell them that I URGENTLY need to go to the bathroom
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@JESSY3236 (22245)
• United States
8 Jun 21
I had a friend like that. I told her to stop calling me. My great-aunt now is like that too.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Jun 21
It means that you told your friend that she should not call you as her calls disturb you?
What do you tell your great aunt when she calls you?
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
6 Jun 21
it depends on the person, the timing of calls, and my availability. I love to chat with a few of my loved ones and do not mind being chatty with them. In fact, sometimes I look forward to it, especially in this lockdown. I generally ask them to call me in my free time in the evening post my tea or I call them at that time and as we talk I walk around in the house in my lobby and keep finishing a few chores that can be done along with the long call.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
7 Jun 21
Yes, all the three factors you have mentioned are important for taking a long call.
In this era of lockdown I do not mind taking a long call, if I am free or taking a walk on my rooftop. As some callers take at least half an hour or more to finish their call, I do not mind talking because by the time I complete my walk. . I put my cordless earphones on and walk and talk.
When there is a long call, it is wiser on your part that you utilize your time in walking and completing your chores. The caller just cannot realize if you are doing your chores, till you tell her.
. I put my cordless earphones on and walk and talk.
When there is a long call, it is wiser on your part that you utilize your time in walking and completing your chores. The caller just cannot realize if you are doing your chores, till you tell her. 1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
9 Jun 21
@arunima25 - So you kill two birds with one stone and this way you not only dispose of your work but you also talk to the caller.
It is good that you have told others to call you in the mid afternoon or in the evening.
It is good that you have told others to call you in the mid afternoon or in the evening. 1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
8 Jun 21
@dpk262006 Whenever I talk on phone, I keep walking. And even doing stuff like folding clothes and cleaning or ironing . It serves the double purpose Everyone knows that I take calls only between 2_4 in afternoon and then 7:30_9 in evening. They are courteous to call me in that time. I don't pick calls otherwise unless I think it's urgent.
Everyone knows that I take calls only between 2_4 in afternoon and then 7:30_9 in evening. They are courteous to call me in that time. I don't pick calls otherwise unless I think it's urgent.1 person likes this
@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
Means it happens with you also. It is good that you have the choice to ignore long calls. If it is close relative or friend, for me, it gets difficult to avoid the call. Until and unless you take the call you could never know what for they have called? May be they are in need of your help.
Have a nice day. 
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
@Rashnag You have not replied to my question? if they are in need of your help and you avoid the call? 
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
@JimBo452020 Actually, I have mentioned in the discussion about the two categories of people (i) those who make a brief call (ii) those who make a long call. I think @ladyhero is referring to those categories.
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
6 Jun 21
@ladyhero - It is is your Dad calling, it could be a long call but I think you cannot avoid talking to your Dad and you will have to listen to her?
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