Tears are not stopping today

You know Anna, symptoms are not like Parkinsons. Yet, the neurologist has prescribed. He must know better. I am depressed. I did see syndopa, and did think it has dopamine or livadopa. But I thought it may also be used to treat stroke related nerves problems. Especially because cardiologist as well as neurologist mentioned that he will recover in six to eight weeks.

@LadyDuck Dad has stiffness from right shoulder to right leg. He is able to move them, but cannot write. He also has speech issues. He had urinary incontinence and high frequency of urination from 6th to 9th. The onset is sudden which is not the case with Parkinsons - very rarely stroke can lead to Parkinsonism when the bleeding in brain is in the region of Parkinsons related cells. The walk is slow. He does not have the Parkinson's stoop. Walk is not exactly a shuffle...it is slow ..as if he is not confident that he cannot move his right leg or the leg cannot hold his weight. Standing up issues are there...but he is standing up on his own, without my help. The eyes are not glazed. Yes, he has memory issues. Today he did not know how to forward a message to me. But the other day, he helped a neighbor with his problem in operating bank account. He does have slight back ache..towards the right, but it may be because he fell in the loo. Vomiting sensation so he does not feel like eating. Just irritable. Ecosprin has helped to improve his walk. I do not know why he was given Trental earlier on. Today, there is just a tad improvement in his walking speed. I am crossing my fingers that this is lasting improvement. Since this is sudden I thought it has to be a stroke, and cardiologist though he suspected Parkinson's left it to neurologist's discretion to classify it and give medications accordingly. Till dad took ecosprin, he continued to suffer. He showed extreme resistance to take ecosprin, the post is because of that. Syndopa did not result in improvement. Ecosprin did. That is why I am still open to the idea that it is stroke not Parkinson's.

@vandana7 Mom had a stroke, as her father had and also her brother. I know the symptoms and what you describe about your father is not stroke.

Thank you so much Valerie. He has taken some medication, but skipped a few. I guess it is tough to be taking so many medicines.

@thelme55 Thank you so much thelma. I can only hope he accepts to undergo MRI. I want to plan it for Saturday so that the reports are in my hand by Monday, and I can take him to neurologist once more. For now, he is resisting some of medication as well as going for tests.

I am sorry Vanny that you have to go through hardship with your father. I hope and pray that you will have more patience taking care of him.

@vandana7 oh I see

My father is basically like that because of high blood pressure, for which he avoids medication. Falling..has happened. Just once. He seems to be recovering for sometime and then again going back.

@vandana7

Thank you so much for understanding and praying. I do need all prayers right now.

Come on DE..you are a great friend.

@DeborahDiane You're welcome. I think she does know he can't help how he's acting. I've suggested several time that she should put him in a home but she won't do it. She says she's afraid the caretakers in the home will beat him for his behavior and she may well be right.

@DaddyEvil - Thanks for telling me about this post. I know how hard this must be for Vanny. I hope she comes to realize that her father cannot help his behavior. This is hard for him, too.

Arunima ..this is a tough phase. I really don't know how I will manage. He is unwilling to go for MRI and another test that neurologist has asked.

@vandana7 I am so sorry Vanny. I will keep you in prayers and thoughts. Please stay strong

@arunima25 Thank you so much. Yesterday after much of fighting crying and drama, I managed to get the MRI and other test. I can be given an Oscar. I will beat Meryl Streep hands down... because all this was so authentic.

Thank you Dawny. He has taken some medicines, but not all.

No it is not. I get scolded at more, told to shut up more, get glares ..get insults...and am told I am useless and stuff like that.

Sabrina, I am sorry you went through it. My father's more of dementia and attitude. Day before, we opted for second opinion. The lady clearly said this is not Parkinson's, it is mild stroke but he does need to take some medication for almost three months for recovering completely. So she has added 2 more medications. Good news is, dad started them yesterday and today there is marked improvement in his condition. So kinda I am in better frame of mind. Finally, a right diagnosis. That, however, is not stopping him from saying he won't take ecosprin. Like hell, he won't. That is lifetime medication like that for Blood Pressure and Diabetes.

@sabtraversa At least, I find him getting up from his chair more easily and sitting more easily. Even the step seems more firm than yesterday so yes, the medication does seem to be working. Another twenty days before I can say anything.

@vandana7 Hopefully it's really something better than Parkinson's, something with more chances of recovery. Glad the new meds are working, I don't get why he doesn't want to take the other one too. I went to read your other replies, he has to take many tablets. I understand that's a little off-putting. I wonder if there's an alternative med that doesn't require as much effort.

@wolfgirl569 There are 11 pills some of them to be given twice or thrice a day. Impossible to do that .. so far I have managed with shouting and yelling .. brawl type. He has improved. He realizes it. This morning he was again...I will not take ecosporin. Like hell...arguments don't cease in our home. :(

@vandana7 If you can get them into something like apple sauce that would work as the smaller pills at least dont have to be busted up for that. Hopefully you can maybe get some help in. Heres more

@vandana7 Just keep at him is all you can do.

You're very welcome.

@JudyEv - That is good advice, Judy. A friend of mine had to put her husband of 53 years into a home after his Parkinson's left him almost catatonic. She could not lift him and do everything that needed to be done. It was very hard for her. She put him into the home just before we knew about Covid, and then she was not allowed to go visit him. It was so hard on her.

@DeborahDiane I saw tiny frail wives trying to cope with big men who had dementia and could be quite aggressive. The women were distraught that they could no longer cope. Sometimes it happens. I'm very sorry for your friend. I'm sure she felt dreadful.

Sounds like my father. He tells me he hates me when I place medicines before him. I cannot leave because he might throw it. So I listen to all nonsense before all the medication is down his gullet. Twice a day.

@vandana7 Yes, they are hurting on the inside. So they lash out at others closeby.

Thank you so much. It was a misdiagnosis. It is mild stroke. So I am cool. Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts. :)

@vandana7 You are very welcome. Glad to hear this update.

Thank you so much. You are a nice person. It is not Parkinson's. Which is a relief, because then it would be tough. It is mild stroke. I took a second opinion from another neurologist, and she confirmed that it was mild stroke, nothing serious. Yes, there is possibility of him recovering. Thanks to your prayers. :)

@vandana7 you're welcome

It sure is tough. But hopefully, god will help me.

@vandana7 I can understand the pain. It is not easy to tackle the aged people when they are suffering memory problems. I have a suggestion. In fact it is not a suggestion but sharing some knowledge I learnt from spiritual talks. If you do meditation, please ask apology to your father while doing meditation. Never forget to thank him first then ask apology for any mistakes from your side with or without your knowledge. Please pardon his mistakes to you too. Do this regularly for 15 days and watch if there is any change in his attitude. Please do the meditation regularly with full faith. It may take some time to get results but it works if one can do it heartily.

@Sreekala I will definitely try that. Thanks. :)

I am sorry that your father is unwell too. Same with my father, he has memory issues. He says he will tell his issues to the doctor and asks me to keep quiet. But when the doctor asks, he does not remember his issues. So when we tell he gets angry right in front of the doctor. Denies the symptoms. After returning home, he shouts at me for more than an hour. Even I get tired and definitely need peace. I sure can understand how it feels and hope I will have the guts to quit before my time. Nobody deserves to suffer this madness. I am not going to make another person suffer me like this.

Today will go down as another day of nastiness. Thank you for prayers. They do work. It is not something that I undergo 24/7, 365 days. But some days are really bad when he cannot stop being nasty.

Thank you so much Jo Ann. I was crying till last evening. Today has been better. Yesterday I managed to take Dad for his tests. Tomorrow neurologist's appointment. After that it will only be medication, which is also not a small task, but at least, I know I am on the right course.

@akalinus Every time I give him medications we have a brawl. Street brawl type. Me shouting at him...he shouting at me...so undignified.

@vandana7 I really feel for you. Sometimes I wonder why life has to be so difficult.

Sometimes he is a good boy, at other times, terrible. Especially when I have to take him for tests, give medications, or take him to doctors. Today, I told him we are going for booster dose, but actually there is neurologist's appointment. Wonder what drama he will do there.

We have arguments and blame game twice each day...pretty loud.

@mildredtabitha Yes he did, and he is feeling better too. Imagine! So much drama.

@vandana7 did he finally take the medicine?