When there are no words.
By marguicha
@marguicha (230351)
Chile
July 10, 2022 1:21pm CST
Today I read a post by the Administration about deleting responses such as "I agree" and the like.
But in this same day I read another post to which the only way I can answer is by sending a big hug. For some things there are no words but a hug helps.
I was very sorry for @popciclecild loss but I knew by my experience that there are no words in the world to say. A hug does help, though. I felt it years ago when my friends came to give me their condolences for my grandson´s death, They were writers yet they did not say one word. They hugged me. And I felt comforted because I knew I was not alone.
Our loved ones are not in pain any longer. The pain is for us who stay.
This post is for my friend @popciclecold and her Jim. It is a big hug.
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16 responses
@GoAskAlice (5863)
•
10 Jul 22
Might I make the suggestion you could send the hug via PM?
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
10 Jul 22
It hadn´t occured to me. It is a wonderful ides!
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@LindaOHio (222310)
• United States
11 Jul 22
@JudyEv I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes it's necessary to say "thank you" or "you're welcome" to be polite. I guess we will have to stop that.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
10 Jul 22
I have been in those situations. Once a friend told me that she had not found words. I replaied: hug me! We need the touch of our loved ones then.
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@Juliaacv (56199)
• Canada
10 Jul 22
@marguicha I never thought that I would say this, but sometimes an emoji can have a peaceful and lasting effect. I remember a friend commented with an emoji when I had a loss and I still remember it well.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
10 Jul 22
@Juliaacv I agree. I sent her an emoji hug and a couple of words. I did not expect an answer but she did. I had reached her.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
10 Jul 22
There are some times when I want to say something but there isn't much to say so I just say "I agree" or "Thank you". And, sometimes less is more. Why do we have 'Mylot codes' if not to use them? I just don't know.
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@celticeagle (189838)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Jul 22
@marguicha..........I agree with you. I was brought up to be polite and I hate for anyone to think I am not.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
11 Jul 22
@celticeagle Me too. I think that politeness is outdated lately.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
11 Jul 22
There are some words of politeness offline and you should be able to use them here too. I don´t mind if they don´t pay me. But I do mind if it is deleted.
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@kaylachan (84757)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Jul 22
When did this happen. I know he'd been suffering a while, but I had no idea.
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@wolfgirl569 (135690)
• Marion, Ohio
11 Jul 22
Not much you can say when things happen like that.
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@RasmaSandra (97991)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Jul 22
Agreed but also agree with admin and so I will keep all this in mind and so sorry for her loss.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
11 Jul 22
I tried to send a PM but I have trouble sending them
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
11 Jul 22
Our loved ones leave us to stay in this world and keep mourning for them and missing them. We have to move forward with a heavy heart.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
11 Jul 22
Our loved ones live in our memories until we die.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
12 Jul 22
@marguicha Yes, that true for it's not possible to forget them.
@LindaOHio (222310)
• United States
11 Jul 22
I know what you mean. We'll have to get out of that habit.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
11 Jul 22
I don´t always write long answers but sometimes that words "I agree" mean a lot. And other times I say that I wholly agree. And that is more.
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@LindaOHio (222310)
• United States
13 Jul 22
@marguicha I have begun to change what I write. It's not been too hard.
@Hanbinandaeyo (3299)
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11 Jul 22
Sometimes hugs can really make someone feel better..
I am sending my virtual hugs also..
I hope she read this
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
11 Jul 22
There are no words when the heart is heavy. But a hug does help.
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@luisga814 (7138)
• Quezon City, Philippines
10 Jul 22
It's not really a great response for just saying "I agree", you just need more than words to express that you've agreed in order that the one you've responded feels the way they've understand.
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@marguicha (230351)
• Chile
11 Jul 22
I can explain most of the times why I agree or disagree about something. Maybe normally we should do that.
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@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
11 Jul 22
What you have said in your post is true, sometimes words are not enough, or there just are not enough words.
@m_audrey6788 (58468)
• Germany
11 Jul 22
Yes. You have a point. It also helps me to feel the love from my friends when they hug me
