Always Searching For His Laughter
By CarolDM
@CarolDM (203396)
Nashville, Tennessee
December 9, 2022 5:13pm CST
Tried to stay busy all day today. Worked on a lot of projects around the house. Created new projects to stay busy. And I managed to get a lot done. More donations are ready to be delivered to needy families.
Missing my only child Dustin today and always of course. Lost him on this day many years ago. He took his life at only 16 years old. And I had just walked through the door from work. Witnessed the entire thing. It still to this day flashes before my eyes more times that you can imagine. PTSD keeps me on edge many nights and days.
Dustin always made me smile. Had a great sense of humor. His friends looked up to him like a big brother. Always asking advice. He was years beyond his age.
We watched a lot of funny movies together. He could act like many of the actors. Anything to make me smile. I have searched for his voice and sometimes I can still hear him. I hear his laugh. And his jokes in my mind.
Another one of those difficult December days. Would not wish this experience on anyone.
Cannot get the photo to load. I will try another one. He and my brother were fishing here.
I try to remember how he lived, not how he died. He would want it that way too.
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@Juliaacv (56282)
• Canada
10 Dec 22
What a great picture, they both seem so engaged on the fish that Dustin is reeling in.
Getting things ready to donate sounds like something who always wanted to make his mother laugh would want you do on such a day as this.
It is the worse day of the year for any parent when their child's anniversary comes. I know that my day will be here on March 2nd.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
10 Dec 22
Thanks, this was a very special time when my brother taught Dustin to fish. They were very close. Dustin really liked me laughing. And he had a dry sense of humor. So funny.
Today has been one of those days for sure. December is not on my calendar any more. I told my friend that yesterday. I had to explain all of the losses. She had forgotten so many passed this month. Life is something else for sure. 

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@Treborika (18194)
• Mombasa, Kenya
10 Dec 22
It is so hurting sometimes to remember the best memories with our loved ones who passed away and Can't find them anymore. So sorry for the loss of loved son.
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
10 Dec 22
What a cutie he was in that photo with your brother Carol
He looks so excited!
We never want to forget any of our loved ones RIP all.
The flashbacks for you must be so intense to say the very least.
So sorry Carol.
You lost your only child in the worst possible way.
He looks so excited!
We never want to forget any of our loved ones RIP all.
The flashbacks for you must be so intense to say the very least.
So sorry Carol.
You lost your only child in the worst possible way.4 people like this

@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
10 Dec 22
@CarolDM You know I am in awe of your daily strength no need for thanks, thank you first RIP beloved sweet boy Dustin.

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@Tampa_girl7 (54715)
• United States
10 Dec 22
What a precious photo and precious memories. I wish you peace and comfort Carol. It’s wonderful that you can hear his laughter.

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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
10 Dec 22
Thank you Judy. I try not to bring this up too often. I know others are being happy about Christmas. But I still want to keep his memories alive by sharing. It is the most difficult time of the year. Also lost my sister on Christmas Day. As if the other was not enough. Yes, Dustin loved fishing.
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@kaylachan (84815)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Dec 22
*hugs* I am sorry for your loss. I understand this is a painful time for you. To have to witness that.... no one should have to. If you need to talk, ever, I'm willing to listen.
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@jobelbojel (36796)
• Philippines
10 Dec 22
You can always go back to this memory. I am sorry that Dustin was gone at a very young age.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
12 Dec 22
@jobelbojel But no purpose or reason in losing my child. He was my world.


@wolfgirl569 (135791)
• Marion, Ohio
10 Dec 22
So very sorry for you. 
Hang onto the good things and try to forget the rest. I know its not easy at all. 

Hang onto the good things and try to forget the rest. I know its not easy at all. 
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@RasmaSandra (98033)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
10 Dec 22
Virtual hugs to you, I know very well how it all feels but you know he is with you and watching over you. Someday you will have the pleasure of hearing his laughter again. That is what I always try to do remember the good times even if I get misty-eyed,
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@Deepizzaguy (122196)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
9 Dec 22
It is always best to remember love how they lived and spread happiness during their time of life.
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@Deepizzaguy (122196)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Dec 22
@CarolDM You are welcome. I can relate to losing a relative at a young age due to illness.
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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
10 Dec 22
@Deepizzaguy Sorry for your loss.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Dec 22
What a wonderful photo. What can I say, Carol? I never had children; so I have no concept of how terrible this is for you. I can just imagine. I'm glad you can keep yourself busy and remember the good times. I'm sorry for the bad memories; and I wish I could take them all away for you. 







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@MarieCoyle (59239)
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10 Dec 22
It has to hurt you so, so much. I can't say anything to make it better for you, I surely do wish I could.
I know you treasure your memories. They aren't as good as the real thing, but they do help somewhat. 

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@1creekgirl (44560)
• United States
13 Dec 22
Oh, Carol, my heart breaks for you. I love the photo...I know he was the light of your life. I'm so glad you shared those memories with us.

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@CarolDM (203396)
• Nashville, Tennessee
13 Dec 22
Such a hard time no matter how long he has been gone. It never gets easier. I am distancing myself from others this time of year as I always do. Waiting on January to arrive. Your friendship means a lot. Appreciate your kindness, always. Again, thoughts are with you and your upcoming surgery.
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@aninditasen (18198)
• Raurkela, India
10 Dec 22
It's a lovely picture and love that you share it with us.
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@Beestring (15372)
• Hong Kong
10 Dec 22
I'm very sorry for your loss. I understand it must be difficult for you. Dustin will always live in your heart.
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