The Tea Party.

United States
January 24, 2023 12:07am CST
Thirty years ago, I had a busy life. I worked a lot of hours at several different jobs. I was lucky enough to have been a part of many tea parties with my little girl. Her Easy Bake Oven made the goodies and the tea was served on a fine China set her Grandmother gave her one Christmas. Those parties still bring feelings of love and closeness as I recall the memories from thirty years ago. I experienced some horrific events recently and had emergency surgeries to remove most of my large intestines and the infection their failure brought. I was in critical condition for a week but managed to improve enough to be discharged to a place with close care to recover over the next 8 weeks. I have an incision from the bottom of my rib cage to the top of my pubic bone. About 12" long. Staples holding me closed. The family got together and decided that everyone could pitch in and I could land at my daughter's. They remodeled an office to a hospital room and purchased a bed, memory foam mattress and a smart TV so I would be comfortable. My daughter would provide my daily care and her husband would help in the care for my wife. My son helped with the ordering of things I'd need and both my son and daughter spent hundreds of dollars so I could stay in a familiar and safe place. My daughter in law did most of the leg work and during her first visits in the hospital, she clipped my nails and put lotion on my swollen legs and feet. She read to me. She told me what to expect. I barely recall anything from that first week, pretty much just bits and pieces. But I DO remember her caring for me during some of my most difficult moments. She paved the path. She made me comfortable. After my discharge, I was finally allowed to eat more than ice chips. My first solid food was buttered toast but I was still out of it and fell asleep easily. I had tiny portions and ate many times a day. Tonight, I advanced to peanut butter toast with milk and mashed potatoes. My daughter served it on tiny plates and used a shot glass for my milk. She brought it in for me and set the small dishes on the stand beside the bed. I have to eat real slow so she left to get things in order for the wound care that follows dinner. Before she left, she sat and enjoyed the other half piece of PB toast. We both raved at how good it tasted. I was enjoying the cold milk and suddenly felt as if I was again having an old fashioned tea party with my little girl. I began to sob. Happy tears. She came in and asked what was wrong. I could barely get out the words. I said the very same thing I said thirty years ago. Kelley? This is the finest tea party ever. We laughed. We cried. I do believe that a circle has just been completed. I feel like a very lucky man. If you would be so kind, I'd like to hear your stories of how everyone pitching in made the horrific into a heartwarming story.
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@YrNemo (20201)
24 Jan
You are lucky to have your own children care for you in time of trouble like this. Can't tell you my story, since I am not that blessed yet, but I console myself often that once upon a time, my children were little and they did love me dearly,
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@sol_cee (35461)
• Philippines
24 Jan
Don’t make me cry you
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@Kandae11 (50142)
24 Jan
Children who neglect their parents will know how it feels when their children do the same to them. What goes around cones around.
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@YrNemo (20201)
24 Jan
@sol_cee I wanted to cry too, but I am too busy enjoying my holiday (before returning to work soon in the next few days). Never mind, I still keep those tiny little folded piece of papers, each of them says, 'Mom, don't forget, I love you', 'Mom, I love you lots!' etc... Those were made for me years ago, in case I felt sad...
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@LadyDuck (426959)
• Switzerland
24 Jan
What a moving and wonderful story. Thank you to @Kandae11 for suggesting it. Your story reminded to me when my Mom had stomach surgery to remove a cancer. The surgeons had to remove 90% of her stomach. For weeks she needed to have very little food every couple of hours, to re-shape the stomach. I stayed with her at her home, I cooked something every two hours, I clipper her nail stayed with her so that she did not feel abandoned. The day she felt a bit better, I cut and dyed her hair. Her best friend came to visit and asked her who did that great job to her hair, I felt so proud and happy for her, she was starting her new life.
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@Kandae11 (50142)
24 Jan
Children are indeed a blessing.
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@LadyDuck (426959)
• Switzerland
24 Jan
@Kandae11 Most children are, with some exceptions.
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@Kandae11 (50142)
24 Jan
@LadyDuck. There are exceptions of course.
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@shaggin (64983)
• United States
24 Jan
You have managed to take a horrific event in your life and share it here with us and it into a beautiful heartwarming story. You are so very lucky to have the family you have. I am so sorry you had to go through this surgery it sounds absolutely terrible.
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@much2say (50536)
• Los Angeles, California
25 Jan
This really touched my heart @Vikingswest1 - more than you know. You are fortunate to have family who truly care for you. I do believe it was the finest tea party ever and hope there will be many more! Keeping you in my thoughts as you continue to heal . Maybe one day I can tell the story here, but not now. My mother and I were there for my dad everyday as he was in the hospital for over a month. It was the most difficult/horrific time (recently), but we did our best to take care of my dad, and we know in our hearts he appreciated it. One time, while my dad had a pocket of alertness, we played a traditional song from his city/country through my phone . . . my mom actually danced to it (which she'd never ever do) . . . and it made my dad laugh. That was huge. It took teamwork, by my mom and I, and the many heartwarming instances can't be told in short - I just wish there were a better ending to the story.
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@rebelann (104988)
• El Paso, Texas
24 Jan
This is a very heart warming story, thank you for sharing. Mine is about my very good friends. In April 2020 I had an emergency appendectomy and was in either the hospital or rehab for 11 days. I had 2 cats and a dog at the time all of them locked in my home so I called Carol to let her know I was in the hospital and the first thing she asked was can she get the keys to my home so she could take care of my kritters. She and her husband, mostly her husband, took care of my kritters and saw to it that they were fed and he even fixed the toilet tank which was unexpected. I'm still ever so grateful for their thoughtfulness to this day.
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@Kandae11 (50142)
24 Jan
Those are true friends. Like the saying goes - A friend in need is a friend indeed.
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@sol_cee (35461)
• Philippines
24 Jan
why are you making me cry?
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@vandana7 (93755)
• India
24 Jan
One of the most touching posts that I have come across recently on myLot. Hugs...hope you get well soon and have many more tea parties with your daughter. :)
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@jstory07 (125692)
• Roseburg, Oregon
24 Jan
What a wonderful story and what a sweet daughter that you have.
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@1creekgirl (34653)
• United States
24 Jan
I am so sorry to read about all you've gone through. You are very blessed to have such a caring and dedicated family. Your tea party brought tears to my eyes and I'll add my prayers to all the others that God will continue to heal you. Welcome back!
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@JudyEv (300898)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Jan
What a wonderful, wonderful story you've shared here. I really hope much better days are ahead for you.
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@Kandae11 (50142)
24 Jan
This is a real tear jerkier. I am so very sorry for all you went through and are still going through. In this life we can never know what lies ahead, we simply hope for the best. Thank God for your wonderful family, they are a blessing and will be blessed. Daily prayers going up for everyone.
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@CarolDM (201911)
• United States
24 Jan
First of all let me say how much you have been missed here. And what a heartwarming story you shared. You are definitely blessed with a loving family. I will have to share a story later. Take care of yourself. And again, so good to see you.
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@coldplay8 (161)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
26 Jan
i can't undone you. very nice family that you have. you are very brave and remembering good things.
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